Did you recently go through the biggest breakup of your life and you’re aching to get your ex back? You might be standing in your own way without even realizing it. By thinking and dwelling on negative energies, you can be pushing your ex further away from your loving arms.

Thankfully, you can learn to use the power of positive energy and the law of attraction to make sure your lover finds his way back to your heart. In her new book, The Golden Magnet, relationship expert Amanda Walters guides you on the manifestation tips and tricks for getting your man to fall in love with you all over again. Here are some ways you can shake your bad energies and start turning the tides of love in your favor.

The Law of Attraction

The universal law centers around the idea that you get back from the universe what you put out. Essentially, this means like energy attracts like energy.

Everything from your career life to your friendships have made their way into your life because you’ve attracted what you’ve put out there for the universe.

If you’re grumpy and depressed, self-loathing and miserable, then what can you expect to have in return —A horrible path and an awful breakup? But what if you switch your mindset and begin to radiate positivity, hope, love and joy? What kind-of energies (and relationships) would then come your way?

Think Positive

The first step to letting go of bad energies that are keeping your love life in misery is to change the way you think. Instead of thinking about your breakup as the worst thing to ever happened, start focusing on the positive. Now you have more time to do the things that you didn’t get to do while you were a duo. Be thankful for this time to work on yourself and change your mindset. Start thinking about how this break is the time to figure out how to make your relationship really last the next time around.

Know Your Vibrations

Vibrations are the energies you send out to the world. If you’re jumping for joy and radiating a positive energy, then everyone around you will feel positive and joyous too. But if you’re arguing and complaining, everyone around you can’t help but to feel that way too.

Could this be a step to changing the way you handled your relationship?

Make Changes

Start by taking the steps to find the path to your true self right now. Vouch to eat healthy, do a daily workout, hang out with new friends, start a hobby and change the way you see the world. Every positive step you take will push the bad energy out of your daily life and let in the positive energy that men (and your ex) will be extremely attracted to. The result will put you on the path to finding your real self and that’s the real key to creating relationships that last.

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Making positive changes is the first step to changing the way your ex will view your relationship but it’s certainly not the only thing you need to do. In The Golden Magnet, you’ll find out more about the power of manifestation and the law of attraction and how to use them to get your ex back. There’s even daily exercises to make sure you’ll be ready to get your man back in just 21 short days. Remember, you have the ability to switch the power of your relationship out of his hands and back into yours. He won’t be able to resist your charms when you learn how to hold all the cards.

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