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What Should You Do When Your Ex Boyfriend Texts You?

a woman receiving a text message from her ex boyfriendThere are a lot of times when it seems as though the landscape of a post-relationship can be a bit shaky. Even if you ended things on a friendly note, it could always be a bit baffling when you get a random text from your ex-boyfriend out of the blue.

How are you supposed to take such a gesture? Is there a way to tell what he is looking for and how should you respond? While there is no solid way to understand what every guy is thinking, there are some answers that may be able to fit the bill for your particular situation.

    He Misses You

    This is a tricky reason, as it can sometimes be difficult to tell what any guy is thinking. A lot of the time, what your ex-partner is missing is the level of intimacy that you once shared and the overall comfort of the relationship that you were both in together.

    For a lot of guys, moving forward and creating a new connection with someone different can be a scary situation. You may find that he thinks that he misses you simply because it is harder for him to think about moving forward.

    He Wants You Back

    If it has been at least a few weeks or more since the two of you broke up then there is a good chance that he has had time to reflect on the breakup and the relationship that the two of you once had.

    Often during this time he will be going through a mix of emotions, the good and the bad. However, if it has gotten to the point where he has now made contact with you then it could be that he is feeling like he may want you back.

    However, before he gets a reply from you, has a little interaction with you over the phone and gets to meet up with you face to face, he will most likely not be 100% sure if that is what he is really wanting.

    Most guys are cautious of their feelings when contacting their ex and will not want to look stupid or get rejected, so your reactions and replies to him will confirm to him one way or another if he really wants you back.

    If you are also feeling like you want him back or if you at least want to be open to the idea and see where it leads, then what you reply to him in texts is crucially important. Guys think differently to girls; you might send a message that you think is a good thing to send to him, but he may completely miss read it and the conversation and any chances of meeting up stops there.

    The good news is that you currently have the upper hand as he has been the one to get in contact with you.

    To make sure you do and say the right things and don’t mess up the opportunity, here is a step-by-step guide of exactly what to text your ex to make him want you and get him back. Click here now for what to say.

    They Want To See What You Are Up To

    There could be the chance that they want to see how you are doing, and they are interested in seeing what you are up to. Here is where you have to be careful, as there could always be the ex that is interested in seeing if you are ready to date other guys or if you have already met someone.

    You want to be able to try to feel out what his thoughts are without diving too deep into texting conversations about your old relationship.

    They Are Sorry

    A breakup can be messy at times, and there could have been a few things that were said or done that left him feeling like a bit of a tool. If this is the case, he may have sent you an initial text to test the waters and see how receptive you are to the conversation. This could be his way of trying to come in and say that he is sorry for whatever may have happened at the end of the relationship.

    They Are Looking For A Booty Call

    a woman texting her ex boyfriendIt may seem tough to swallow, but the text could simply mean that he is a human being and thinking about his intimate needs. The last thing that you will want to do is fall into a pattern where you allow yourself to become the girl that he contacts only when he is feeling frisky.

    Take into consideration whether he is texting in the middle of the day or the middle of the night and remember why the two of you broke up to begin with. There are some situations where it is best to leave any booty call text unanswered.

    How To Reply

    Firstly, you want to avoid texting your ex back right away as this looks needy and like you don’t have a life. Leaving him hanging for a while will spike his curiosity even more, making him more keen to hear from you.

    Be casual with your reply and don’t ask him too many questions. A simple ‘how are you doing?’ is enough.

    Be vague and ambiguous with your answers to his questions. Being vague will often cause him to ask more questions, which means he is reaching for your attention. Just don’t make it seem like you are trying deliberately to avoid answering.

    Final thoughts

    It goes without saying that a break-up is often very hard to go through. If you have been missing your ex, and he texts you, there is no rule stating that you cannot text him back.

    However, if you are afraid of being hurt, you need to be able to tread lightly so that you do not fall into a pattern that will be bad for you overall.

    You need to be able to trust your best judgement and think back to what you know about him. If it seems like his motivation is sincere, there is no reason you cannot text back with an open mind.

    If you fell that you want to get back together with your ex or at least find out if he wants to get back together with you, then you can learn how to use your text messages to get him wanting you again and asking you to come back to him.

    If you want to learn how to do this then you should check out the secrets to texting your ex back here.

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