As women, we tend to overthink every detail and wonder if we’re doing the right thing, saying the right words, wearing the right outfits, presenting ourselves in the right way, and so forth.
To help avoid some unnecessary exhaustion, this article will help to simplify the traits and characteristics that make a woman much more attractive to men. Understanding what these traits are will help you to enhance these qualities in yourself.
However, understanding what men truly want from a woman beyond her physical appearance is the key to making yourself insatiably attractive to him. According to relationship expert, James Bauer, there is a secret obsession that all me have, and it is the woman who are able to trigger this reaction in him that appear far more attractive in his eyes than any other woman. James explains the secret and how to trigger it here.
A Woman’s Guide to Attract the Kind of Man You Want
Confidence is key
But not cockiness. How you present yourself speaks a thousand words before you even say a single one. Your physical presentation and your body language is the foundation for every other detail that the male brain is calculating about you. Check your posture. Stand straight, tall, and proud! Be conscious of your eye contact.
Lift your head high (but don’t break your neck) and make eye contact when you’re speaking to someone. When you speak, speak with conviction. You are a smart, courageous, interesting, funny woman so let that shine through your presentation of yourself. You have so many things going for you – a great job, hobbies, a social life, etc!
Anything that isn’t exactly how you’d like it to be is a work in progress and you have the confidence to know that that’s okay! Be aware of your body language, your eye contact, the language you’re using, and the conviction to the words you speak.
Kindness is just as important
Everybody likes people who are nice. Now, not to complicate things here, but there is such a thing as being TOO nice and being viewed as a “pushover”. Be kind, but also (once again) be confident to know your boundaries and your expectations. When you think kindness, think respect. Use positive and helpful language toward yourself, toward others, and in all of your engagements.
Remember the “Golden Rule” to treat others the way you want to be treated and allow that message to shine through all of your interactions and handlings, including the way you treat yourself and allow others to treat you.
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Respect yourself and others
Similarly to be kind, be respectful. Self-respect entails so many variables – be kind to yourself through positive self-talk, treat yourself by taking care of your body and the way you look, respect your body’s needs through physical activity and eating well, allow yourself to try new experiences to grow as a person, take pride in the way you look and maintain your appearance. Respect others.
Speak positively and constructively of others and with others. Be helpful in all that you do. Remember that the way you act when no one is looking says way more about you and your character than you could ever describe.
Put effort into how you look
There is no need to go above and beyond or to obsess over the way you look, but when you put effort into your appearance it is a direct reflection of your self-confidence and self-respect, which in turn, will make you irresistible. Take time to work out. This does not mean that you need to be a fitness model, but you do need to treat your body well.
It is the only one you will ever have. Work out regularly, eat healthy foods, give your body the nutrition it needs, and take care of your mental health as well by resting, trying some meditation or yoga, and doing the things that make you happy!
Work on your own happiness
There is no better way to attract the right kind of people into your life than to work on your own inner wellness and happiness. Men aside for a second, you want to be surrounded by like-minded, positive people who will enhance your life and contribute to your growth and wellness. You also want to contribute to others, by the way!
Look within yourself to identify how you really feel about yourself and your life. What changes do you need to make to improve your happiness? Start with gratitude by identifying what you already have. Then, figure out concrete ways to work toward making your life even better. This is YOUR life and only you truly have the power to make it the best it can be. Your true inner happiness will attract other happy people and other happy things.
Have fun and laugh!
Truly one of the most attractive qualities in any person is their ability to be at ease, laugh, take a joke, and make light of any situation. Of course, there are people who take humor to the extreme and act inappropriately with making jokes too often or in bad taste. But, overall, most people would say that they are drawn to people with a good sense of humor (usually coupled with maturity).
When you can show this side of yourself, people feel more relaxed around you, therefore they are drawn to the sense of comfort that you exert through your laid-back attitude!
Most importantly, always be yourself and when you are being yourself, be sure to be the best version of the person you are. Always look for ways you can improve (without criticism), be aware of how you present yourself, and let your colors shine!
Suzanne is a certified counselor with 6 years of experience working with individuals of diverse backgrounds and age groups. In addition to working full time as a School Counselor servicing students ages K-12, Suzanne began a side business in 2014 geared toward providing relationship and individual counseling services for adult clientele. She has worked with an extensive range of individuals helping them gain insight, foster changes, and continue to grow. She has acquired a wealth of information about relationships through her professional and personal endeavors and finds great value in sharing what she has learned.