Finally, after weeks of scrolling and swiping through your favorite dating app, you met this amazing guy. You went out on a date, the sparks were flying, the conversation was flowing.
You might’ve even shared a brief “good night” kiss. It’s official: you’re definitely hooked, or at least, you’re interested in exploring where this new connection could go. While the first few weeks and months are easy to gauge a man’s level of interest in you, let’s be honest, sometimes it’s hard to keep a man interested in the long-game.
While clear communication and shared values should make your connection strong and built to last, in those moments of insecurity and doubt, there are some things you can do to help further the relationship along. Here are some tips on to keep a man interested in you.
3 Tips To Keep Him Interested In The Early Stages
Find Common Interests and Have Fun
Dating is all about connection, and how do we stay connected with our sweethearts? By spending time together. By doing activities that are fun, and allow our connection to grow and strengthen.
Find out something that he loves to do, and volunteer to do it with him. Maybe it’s playing soccer or going rock climbing. By taking an interest in his hobbies, you’ll be finding something that you both can enjoy together and he’ll also appreciate you more for wanting to be a part of his life.
Or maybe you can find a different type of activity that you both like to do together.
Whatever it is, try to schedule a common activity as part of your regular schedule. It will feel less like a “date night” where there might be added pressure and more like “fun time”. And when a man associates fun with you, he’ll feel closer to you and will definitely want to spend more time together.
Give Him Space
Are you feeling something’s a little off with your guy?
One of the most popular reasons why you might be reading an article like this one is because you’re sensing some disconnect from him. You have crazy chemistry in person, but maybe he hasn’t been in touch with you for a few days. Maybe it’s been a week.
So you’re beginning to doubt whether or not he’s still into you. The best thing you can do in this situation is to relax, and give him space. Yes, even more space.
Dating expert Single John told a reader in a similar situation for Glamour that it’s completely normal for a guy to fall off the face of the earth once in a while. Maybe he’s genuinely busy with work, or maybe he’s less emotionally involved at the moment and is being (unfortunately) a little insensitive to your needs at this time. Translation: he’s hanging out with friends, lost in his own thing, and isn’t really thinking about you right now.
So if your man needs some space, then give it to him.
If he’s truly interested in you, he will be back around and will respect the fact that you gave him the time to sort his stuff out, and will be happy to reconnect with you once again. Of course, if he’s gone off in no man’s land for weeks without communication, then that’s your cue to reevaluate your connection. Is this someone that you can really get serious with?
Read more: Why guys pull away in the early stages
Be Your Best Self
Being scared that your new interest is going to find someone else more attractive than you or being worried they might become distracted by work and thus have little time to spend with you are things that are out of your control.
According to dating expert, Matthew Hussey, you can’t control someone but you can influence someone’s behavior.
And how do you do that?
By being great. By being your best self.
In a must-see video entitled “The Real Secret to Keeping Your Man”, Hussey says by focusing on growing as a person and becoming a more evolved version of yourself is the secret behind keeping a man interested.
Maybe it’s improving your communication skills or following your passion project, or just making more time to hang out with your friends.
Whatever it is, by committing to be the best person you can be, you’re spending less time worrying about how to keep a man interested in you, and more time on becoming more interesting.
Ultimately, to paraphrase Hussey, love wins. Love seals the deal. The connection is the connection. If there isn’t a genuine connection between you, one that is based on a shared feeling of respect, attraction and a willingness to learn and grow together — and, yes, love together — then there’s nothing that will keep a man interested. He’s either into you or he’s not.
The most important thing you can do is keep learning and focusing on becoming the best version of yourself. Because, one day, a man will find everything about you to be very attractive, and you won’t have a hard time keeping him interested at all.