Patrick Western is a relationship writer who offers his own insight, experience and opinion on topics such as dating, relationships, romance, sex and love. He loves travelling, spending time with friends and family, working out and hiking. His favourite pizza toping is pepperoni.
So you met a guy and everything seemed to be going well between you. Or, at least that’s what you thought.
Then, as quickly as it had started it was all over and he was gone from your life.
We all know that when it comes to love and relationships, men and women think very differently. Anything from how to behave on the first date to when to sleep together, the perspectives are usually very different.
However, when a guy starts to pull away from a woman it’s usually for a very specific reason.
In this article, I am going to tell you about three BIG Mistakes that women are making that cause their man to pull away.
If you’re in a hurry and you just want to skip straight to the solution then watch this short demonstration video by relationship coach, Amy North. In this video, Amy shows you how to trigger a state of desire in a man’s mind more powerful than love.
While no two guys are exactly alike, they all have the same internal processes that cause them to feel states of connection, fascination, desire, lust and even love.
Once you know how to trigger these states of mind in your man at will, he will never want to leave you.
Now, without further ado, here are three BIG mistakes women make that push guy away.
Research has shown that a staggering 97% of women are unhappy with her body at least once every day. However, you shouldn’t show your insecurities to your man if you are in a new relationship.
Yes, you can relax and talk about your gym routine or your healthy eating habits with him. Just keep the insecurities under wraps until the two of you are really close. However, even then, you do not want them to come into your relationship too much or it will likely put him off.
If you are constantly asking him if you look fat or nagging whenever he talks to an attractive woman, then you’re running the risk of ruining your own relationship. Once your insecurities come out in the open, there is no turning back.
Don’t push him away with your self-doubts. Rather, you should show him how happy and in love with life you and he will soon become more drawn to you.
Here’s a good trick to get started. Pretend that every date you go with your man is actually your first one. On your first date, you would never let him see the bad things about you. You need to be confident about yourself and he will sense it too.
Yes, you might be happy when your man is around but after a while, he will also be able to sense the negativity if you go flat when he is not in the room.
If he finds out that he is the sole reason you are happy, he will eventually start pulling away.
This is because he will feel pressured to make you happy, which is not attractive to any guy.
It’s actually a huge responsibility for anyone, so don’t put that on him.
Rather than making him your sole source of happiness, you need to make the most out of your life.
Start by doing the things you love. If you are making yourself happy, you will not depend on him to remain content. Actually, it’s a good way to improve your relationship. Guys are attracted to women who have a passion outside of their relationship.
It can be playing the piano, singing, cycling or rock climbing. It doesn’t matter. If you have something else in your life besides him that makes your heart sing then he will love you all the more for it.
If you’ve read this far then you probably need as much insight as possible into what causes guys to pull away. I highly recommend you watch this short video by relationship coach, Amy North.
Here she tells you what causes guys to pull away from you and exactly what you need to do to spark a state of desire in him that will make him want to stick to you like glue. You can watch the video here.
Has there ever been a time that you were attracted to a man but you didn’t know why?
Maybe you even had some feelings for somebody you actually didn’t want to be attracted to?
Why on earth does this ever happen? How could you fall in love with someone even when your conscious mind actively resists it?
Experiences such as these are hints into the hidden world that drives our feelings of romantic attraction.
This hidden world is one all about emotional reactions. These emotional reactions are of course things we don’t control consciously.
The simple truth is that falling in love isn’t something that we choose to do. It’s actually kind of like getting thirsty. You never choose to actually get thirsty. You just happen to notice it. The stronger that your thirst gets, the harder it is to ignore it.
What if I were to tell you that there’s a sort of relationship ‘thirst’ that all men actually experience? It’s a kind of thirst which is impossible for them to quench on their own.
Do you want to know just what he is so thirsty for?
If you want to skip right to the answer, then you should check out this video which reveals how you can actually trigger his thirst for the very thing he craves and needs.
It will also show you just how to make sure you’re the only one he will depend on for satisfying this very powerful longing.
The Strangest Thing That Makes Him Adore You
Here’s why a man that’s in your life cannot tell you just what he craves the most from a relationship with you…
…He is too embarrassed to actually admit the truth.
That’s because the admission of his desire can actually wind up moving him even farther away from his goal.
This is why…
Imagine a woman that is frustrated that she has a man who never does a romantic thing for her. She winds up breaking down and explaining her desire to be pursued and romanced by him.
However, he acts as if she’s being unreasonable, and demanding her to name the one thing which is missing from their relationship.
So, she offers him a specific example. She tells him it’d be nice to get some flowers on occasion. Simple things just like that.
So, the very next day, he brings her some flowers.
But guess what?
There’s no magic in this gesture. It won’t feel special to get flowers if you actually had to request them.
It’s sort of like that in regards to men, except they have a totally different kind of relationship need. Men have an unquenchable thirst for admiration from you. He just can’t ask you for it.
How this plays out
Okay, here’s the picture…
He’s not going to tell you that he really likes you but…
“what’s missing in the relationship for me is you not admiring me enough. You seem to admire other men elsewhere in your life, which makes it really difficult for me to envision having a future with you.”
He’s never going to say that since men believe that admiration has to be earned. It’s like trying to get popular by telling the world that you’re cool. It just doesn’t work.
He’s only going to feel like he’s your hero if you wind up speaking the non-verbal language that is admiration. He’s got to read it for himself between the lines of the things you actually do and say.
Now, you could be thinking that this isn’t so crazy. You might understand why any man craves your admiration. However, if you’re thinking about this, then there’s something really important you should know.
Admiration isn’t just something that men crave. It’s that they can’t actually sustain an ‘in-love’ feeling unless the admiration is there.
Nothing will kill the attraction of a man faster than any relationship where he feels unneeded.
He needs to see himself as some kind of provider. Someone that is admired, desired and wanted by his lover because he has a value that he can offer.
If he doesn’t feel like he’s needed, then he feels emasculated, like he’s less of a man. That will kill his romantic drive.
What’s the worst part of all this?
You can’t just go about giving him admiration. It will only work when he actually believes he’s earned your respect, admiration, and trust.
However, there is some good news.
It can be both easy and even fun to let him actually earn your admiration once you figure out how you can set him up for success and you can find out exactly how to do it here.
Just find different ways to let him wind up being your hero. I should say at this point that there’s really an art form to doing this in ways that will make him crazy for you.
On the other hand, I’ve seen a woman wind up using this basic concept to wrap a man around her finger. I’m a guy, so I know what us guys need and respond to. However, it all boils down to this…
You have to trigger his innate hero instinct
If you can accomplish this, then you’ll be genuinely astonished by what will happen next.
He’ll get so loving, and so attentive, and so glaringly more interested in a long-term and committed relationship, that you’re never going to want things to wind up going back to how they previously were.
The hero instinct of a man is a subconscious drive that makes them gravitate towards those who make him actually feel like he’s a hero. It’s amplified even more in romantic relationships.
There are some life-changing ideas. For a romantic relationship, this is definitely one of them.
Triggering a man’s hero instinct is certainly one thing, but learning how to do it repeatedly means knowing a few more things.
One thing is that most women don’t actually need someone to come to rescue them. That’s particularly true in this modern era. Here’s the irony…
Men still need somebody to rescue. It’s built right into their DNA to look for relationships which allow them the chance to feel like they’re a provider.
This is one tiny distinction in the genetics of men and women that winds up making a huge difference in terms of what attracts men to women. He will feel drawn to women that let him step into a hero role. That’s because his natural instincts make him thirst for this role.
Here’s the great thing about it…
He will never know why he is feeling so drawn towards you. That’s why this is an under-the-radar method because it will trigger attraction subconsciously.
The tug of his emotions will be undeniable, but if his friend asks him why he has gotten so crazy about you, then he can’t put that into words.
Our feelings surrounding attraction dive into a hidden world. Now, you have the power to see the immense possibility in that hidden world, and it’s a possibility that you can control and influence and use.
It’s not just something chemists might see like oxytocin levels of the bonding hormone in the blood. Instead, you can see it all around once you know how you can spot it.
It’s a universal pattern of interactions between males and females.
Relationship experts have always known this existed, but they didn’t quite recognize how powerful this trigger is. This is a trigger that will drive his thirst to have companionship.
So, how can you use this trigger for building romance and passion?
The simplest way to do it is by translating your desires into things that speak directly to his innate urges to be your provider. He desires to love, protect, and serve. He desires to be your hero.
Men can seem like complex creatures to women, but they’re actually pretty simple once you understand how they think.
If you’re spending all your free time trying to turn yourself into the type of woman that society has told you that men are attracted to then it’s likely you’re way off the mark.
However, it’s not your fault. Women have been culturally conditioned by society to think that men want only a particular kind of woman who dresses and behaves a certain way.
Most women spend a considerable amount of time making themselves look physically attractive and sexy and trying to show him what a funny, interesting and all around amazing woman they are…
While guys do, of course, like these things, they’re not what’ll actually make him want to be with you and make you his woman long-term.
While you’re working hard to appeal to his sense of desire, make him attracted to you and want to commit to you, he’s likely enjoying your company, but not really feeling like you are really the one.
So what’s wrong with this picture..?
The simple answer is… you’ve been chasing him and putting in all the effort and he doesn’t value it.
While women have been conditioned this way to be appealing to guys, men have also been conditioned. They’ve been conditioned to go after what they want and prove to themselves and others that they are successful by winning their prize, be it through financial success, getting the job they want and, of course, catching the woman they desire.
If He Has Nothing To Work For To Get You, Then He Won’t Value You or The Relationship
Make him work to get you
The fact is that men place the most value on the things they have to put effort into in order to obtain.
If you give a man a university degree on a silver platter, he will not give it as much value as if he had to work and sweat to get it.
If you give a guy the absolute perfect woman, he will not value her the same way if he had to pursue her for a while just to get the chance to take her out on a date.
That’s why it works so well to play hard to get. He’ll enjoy the chase and value you so much more once he manages to catch you.
However, the trick is you also need to make sure that he also feels that he is in with a chance of actually making you his woman or he’ll likely just move on.
So, this is all very well and good, but there’s also a problem with this strategy… it ceases to work once he’s actually caught you.
I’m sorry to say ladies, something happens inside a guys mind once he feels like he’s won you over.
It’s kinda like he thinks, “Mission Accomplished!” Their mind then starts to wander onto the next challenge.
So, what in the hell’s going on with this and what can you do about it? And more importantly, what can you do to prevent it from destroying your relationship?
The Problem Is NOT You – ALL Women Encounter This Problem at Some Point
So, that’s the good news, it’s not your fault. So stop beating yourself up.
When this keeps happening, many women just give up on guys. They stop themselves from getting too close with a guy because they are fearful of scaring him off.
However, for the women who get past this, they approach it differently. They reach out for help.
While there are many relationship coaches out there, many women turn to James Bauer due to his unique understanding of this problem and of guys in general, as he explains here.
Not only is James an experienced relationship coach, but he’s also a man, he’s a guy, which means he knows and understands exactly how men think and why they behave the way they do.
Through his work, he noticed a particular pattern of women coming to see him for help about guys being hot for them one minute and cold the next. Some women were even getting ghosted completely.
For most of these women, everything would be going well with their guy, and then out of the blue…
Something was suddenly different overnight.
The guy would be loving and warm, caring and interested but then for no apparent reason would become distant. It was like he no longer had time to see her. His energy felt closed off, the loving eye contact seemed non-existent and his kisses lacked the passion they once had.
After a lot of investigation work, James discovered a surprising pattern that was causing guys to react this way towards all these women.
After piecing it together, James quickly realised what was behind this mysterious behaviour. He knew precisely why these guys were backing off. He knew exactly what they needed… and exactly what they were not getting.
And the most interesting part is, it was not that there was anything actually wrong with any of these women.
Your man wants to be your superhero. He does not want to feel like you are the hero in the relationship.
Guys have a natural, ingrained fascination with heroes. You only need to stand outside the cinema when a Marvel movie is on and see how many fully grown men go to see the movie.
You may already be aware of this and wonder why guys seem to like superhero movies so much.
It’s because pretty much every guy fantasised about growing up to one day be some kind of superhero. In the process, he’d also get the girl.
Unfortunately, for most guys, they don’t get to satisfy their need to be a hero in their everyday jobs.
Reality just doesn’t require them to rip their shirts off and jump into action and prevent some kind of disaster. They can’t really save the world, but they can still get the girl.
Being able to get the girl they want is a satisfying challenge for an everyday guy, even if he has the beating heart of a hero. It takes heroic charm. Heroic confidence. Heroic withstanding of pain. The only thing he needs to find is…
A woman who wants and needs a superhero.
As cheesy as this sounds, this is just how guys are wired.
So, do you need to have a superhero in your life? I’ll take a guess and say, that’s not you, right?
You don’t need a hero because you’re a strong, self-assured independent woman. You can change a light bulb, you can put up a shelf and even fill up the oil and water in your car. You’re not the kind of woman who needs a man to make her feel complete.
No, instead, you have got a lot you can offer to a guy. You’re kind, caring, supportive, generous and affectionate. What you are looking for is to find a guy who is able to accept all you have to offer.
Unfortunately, that’s why a hero is not appearing in your life. That’s the reason you seem to only attract guys that just want to take from you instead. Men who just take all you have to offer and then leave you.
If you want to attract a superhero, then all you have to do is advertise that you need one.
How To Invite a Superhero into Your Life in 3 Simple Steps
Ask a guy to help you
Guys love to feel wanted, especially by a woman. Ask him for help with buying a new car, a new laptop or a new cell phone.
If you’re having car troubles then get him to have a listen to the strange noise your car is making every time you start her up.
You can even ask a guy to help you with something simple, like passing you something from the top shelf.
Once he’s helped you, give him a warm thank you and a heartfelt smile of gratitude. Don’t worry, this does not make you look needy. Instead, it conveys the message that you’re a woman who has space for a guy in her life.
Spend time with guys and enjoy company
Guys find women attractive who appreciate them for just being themselves, for being men.
Who cares if his home makes him look like an obsessive sports fan? If he spends a lot of time reading up on his favourite sports team just appreciate that he has a hobby. Don’t worry, you don’t need to be a part of it. In fact, it’s healthy for couples to have interests that do not involve their partners.
If his idea of a clean pair of trousers is the ones with the least wrinkles then that’s okay. He’s a guy. You don’t want your man to me like you, you already have the feminine part of the couple covered.
Get him to gain your trust and respect
Guys love to have a challenge. While they do want your love and all the wonderful gifts you can offer him, he doesn’t want you to just hand it to him on a silver platter. He wants to earn it, and in the process, he’ll place a high value on you and your relationship.
So, give him chances to prove that he is worthy of you. You don’t need to keep doing all the work to try to win him over. Instead, relax and allow him the gratification of trying to win your affection and admiration.
Have you ever found yourself asking questions like, “why do men lie?” “why does he seem to always look at other women?” “Why has he cheated on me yet again..?!” “Is there fundamentally something wrong with men?” “Is there something fundamentally wrong with me..?”
These are some of the questions that world renowned relationship expert, Michael Fiore has been asked countless times by thousands of women desperate to know the answers. You, like me, may find that you relate to one or more of these questions.
Maybe you also have other questions yourself about men, the things they do, what they are really thinking and what they really want. It can be so frustrating when, as women, we give all we have to our relationship only to find that we have been lied to yet again, or worse…
Fortunately, I can tell you that there are answers (quite shocking answers actually) to these questions and many more similar questions that women have about men. Reassuringly, the answers are not likely to be what you think and fundamentally come down to a simple misunderstanding of women simply not being able to read and understand men.
Don’t feel hard on yourself, it’s not your fault. It’s a well-known fact that women and men think and act in very different ways. In fact, guys have the same problem when it comes to women, some might say worse when it comes to them trying to understand us!
So, how do I know all this and how am I so confident that it all comes down to basically, a lack of understanding of the deep wants, needs and thinking patterns of men? Because all this became revealed when highly sought after relationship expert, Michael Fiore stumbled upon the answers when he sent an email to his client base.
The Secret Survey – Our Review
Michael sent questionnaires to 4,000 men and women. He asked the women, “If you had telepathy and could read any man’s mind, what’s the one thing you would desperately want to know?” and to the guys, he asked, “What’s the one thing you desperately wish women understood about men but could never tell her?”
The answers to these two questions from thousands of men and women changed everything. Michael spent days going through the answers to his survey and decided to put his research together in a step-by-step program designed to help women not only understand men but to enable them to be able to read a guy like an open book. Michael’s goal is to empower women with the correct knowledge and understanding to enable them to have deep, meaningful relationships without the guy ever feeling the need to cheat or lie to her again.
Michael calls his course the Secret Survey and is an eight-step program that reveals exactly why men lie to the women that they love.
What’s in the Secret Survey Course?
Micheal Fiore’s Secret Survey course is an eight-step program that he has made available in video, audio and PDF format to make it as easy as possible for women to absorb, retain and apply the information. Here’s an overview of the eight sections:
Section 1: Men Are Like Dogs And You’re A Bad Owner
In this first section, Micheal explains exactly why men are so difficult to understand. He explains how you should really be treating them and also discusses a concept called projective empathy, which is basically the ability to interpret exactly what is happening in the mind of a guy, even when he’s not entirely sure himself.
Section 2: Why Men Lie To The Women They Love
Women find it so confusing when the man who is supposed to love them is actually also often lying to them. In this section, Michael explains exactly why guys do this or feel they need to lie to their woman. Michael shares tricks and techniques that you can easily use to get him to start opening up to you about his true feelings so you can start to understand him better.
Section 3: Why Doesn’t He Compliment Me Anymore?
This is an oh so common complaint. Has this also happened to you? Has this left you wondering what could have possibly changed and if he still really has feelings for you at all. If so, then this section will answer all of your questions. Besides compliments, this section also covers how to create healthy and honest communication between you and your man and how to build a relationship with honesty.
Section 4: Does He Really Love Me?
In this section, Micheal discusses the topic of love and helps you get to the bottom of how he really feels about you. Micheal also gives you ways to find out what he says about you to other people when you’re not present.
Section 5: Other Women
Have you ever wondered why your man can’t just have eyes for you only? If you’ve often caught him looking at other women then this section will explain exactly why he does this, what he’s thinking when he’s doing it and how you can get the attention back all for yourself.
Want to watch a video of Michael explaining how he got the answers to all the questions that women desperately want to know, directly from his male client base? Click the video below.
Section 6: The Truth About Cheating
In section six of the Secret Survey, Micheal talks in detail about cheating and the real reasons behind why men do this even when they love their woman. Michael then goes on to tell you how you can build a cheat-proof relationship so you can move forward knowing that you’ll likely never have a guy cheating on you again.
Section 7: Reflected Glory
In the Secret Survey, the term ‘reflected glory’ refers to the aspect of men that feel they want certain physical characteristics in a woman in order to show off to other people that they are with someone attractive. Michael here explains how you can know what he is really thinking of you and how significant your appearance really is to him.
Section 8: What He Really Wants In Bed
As a woman, we all want to be able to please and satisfy our man in bed. Being able to do so well will also help to make it less likely that he will cheat. In this section, Michael exposes the truth to exactly what men want in bed and how we can give it to them in a way that always keeps them coming back to us for more.
Secret Survey – Designed For Your Success
Michael Fiore has put the Secret Survey course together for you in a way that is designed to help you get the most out of it and really learn all the secrets about men that will enable you to be able to form a deep, loving connection with him that is both rewarding and fulfilling for both you and your man. As such, Michael has broken down each of the eight sections into videos each with two-four exercises for you to complete so you can really get the understandings of the course.
Secret Survey by itself is a game-changer. However, Michael has also teamed up with other well-known relationship experts to offer you some great bonus material from experts such as Matthew Hussey, Eric Candal, Michael Griswold and Joshua Pellicer, to name but a few. The interviews with these experts cover topics such as how to become a strong, confident woman, how to always tell when someone is lying and more.
When you join the Secret Survey program you will receive an email from Michael giving you unlimited access to the member’s area. However, it is very important to go through the course step-by-step and do the exercises as Michael shows. For this reason, you will first have access to the first section on Men Are Like Dogs And You’re A Bad Owner.
Once you have watched this video and completed the exercise you will then be ready for the next section. So you can expect the other videos and sections to be made available to you every few days in order to give you enough time to spend on each module.
After the first month, you will have received all the videos. Michael wants to ensure that you get the most out of the training and finish the course with a newfound understanding of men, how they think and exactly what you need to do to have a successful, fulfilling relationship.
Secret Survey Advantages
The course has been created and presented by a world-renowned and very respected relationship coach. Michael has helped thousands of people improve areas of their relationship.
The Secret Survey is based on real answers collected from real people about their deepest wants, needs and desires.
The course is offered with a 60-day full money back guarantee. This gives you plenty of time to go through the course to see if it works for you, risk-free.
The course has real insights into men’s behaviour and allows women to peer into the minds of men.
The videos are funny, entertaining and well presented so are enjoyable to watch.
The course is a well thought out and easy to follow, step-by-step guide.
Secret Survey Disadvantages
You cannot access the whole content all at once. You will be drip fed the material over the first month to ensure you follow along step-by-step
Some of the concepts can be hard to accept as the course also requires you to look at your own behaviour in the relationship
Our Conclusion of the Secret Survey
Overall, we were very impressed with the Secret Survey course. It is well thought out, thorough, entertaining and most importantly, extremely effective. The course is based on real information from real clients surveyed and then analysed by a renowned relationship expert. The 60-day full money back guarantee also means that a person can try the course risk-free.
To watch Michael’s introduction video for the Secret Survey and watch him explaining the course to you himself, click the video below.
Here at the American Dating Society, we know many of you are dealing with a breakup or are still struggling to get over a breakup from the past. That’s why we teamed up with a gifted relationship and family therapist named Jane Lu to help bring you her amazing strategy for helping to get your partner back quickly or to empower you to get over the breakup and move on with your life a stronger woman.
Here we introduce you to Jane Lu an let you know how you can discover her powerful techniques to put you back in control of your life and become the empowered woman you know deep down you could always become, once and for all.
How She Wins Him Back – Review
So Who Is Jane Lu?
Jane Lu is a Certified marriage and family therapist intern and has years of experience helping individuals, couples and families with all kinds of relationship issues. Through her experience, she has developed a system that brings a 95% success rate for the clients she works with. Through her dedication and years of experience, Jane is now ready to take her marriage and family therapy license exam.
For more than 6 years, Jane has worked on a one-to-one basis, with couples and even in groups on various topics to help them rebuild their lives and develop the skills they need in order to transform into powerful individuals in charge of their life. Besides this, Jane also helps people develop strong communication skills to improve their relationships.
As if this wouldn’t keep her busy enough, Jane is also a Certified holistic health coach, Spiritual Healer and has worked for over 10 years as a children’s social worker providing counselling, mentoring and guidance to those in need of her help. Jane uses her skills as a therapist to further help and empower her clients.
Through Jane’s working and life experience, she has found that one of the primary causes of broken relationships is due to a lack of or poor communication skills between people.
Jane also found another key ingredient – being true to yourself – Jane found that when a person was not being true to themselves their relationship with themselves and others also suffered.
Therefore, Jane focusses on truth and communication to improve relationships.
How Jane Can Help You
With so many people in need of Jane’s help, it is impossible for her to work with everyone one-to-one. We’re aware that many of our readers are particularly seeking help with breakup issues so we decided to team up and assist Jane in getting her powerful coaching across to a wider audience, and primarily to our readers and subscribers. That’s why we helped Jane put her techniques together with an easily accessible course that you can follow along to within the privacy of your own home and at a pace that’s right for you without having to pay expensive counselling or therapy fees. In fact, we wanted to make Jane’s course so accessible, it is currently less than the cost of an evening meal.
When you truly know what you want you will then have a path. One of Jane’s primary goals is to empower you to become a master of your own life. When you have clarity and empowerment, others will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve.
In her course, Jane also hits home on the importance of loving yourself. Once you love yourself you will then have a clearer idea of what it is you truly want in a relationship.
Part one: Part one is an eBook version for those who are wanting to dip their toe in to see if Jane’s course is right for them.
Part two: For those who are needing a step by step ‘playbook’ of exactly what to do, part two is a full video members area which includes Jane’s powerful 4 step method to get your partner back. In the member’s area, we’ve also included a 30min relationship Q&A session that we recorded with another relationship expert who you may have seen elsewhere on American Dating Society, Avelon B McNae. We recorded this webinar with Avelon in 2017 and it’s gotten some great feedback.
Members of the full course also benefit from our helpful audio series which are designed to help you find peace of mind with where you’re at in your relationship or breakup.
What Is The 4 Step Method?
Through her years of experience and coaching, Jane Lu has devised a clear-cut, four-step approach to bring powerful results. These steps are;
Step1: Situation Clarity. In the first step, Jane delves into the very important question of understanding whether it’s time to move on or to try to get him back. Jane takes you through an effective step-by-step process where she helps you get situation clarity so you can make the right decisions that are best for your life. By doing this you will be able to more easily separate your emotions from the situation so you can gain situation clarity.
Step2: Self (Feeling) Clarity. In step two, Jane goes straight for the jugular and addresses the subject of when and how you can know that the time is right to either move on or start the process to get your ex back. With this technique, Jane teaches you how to effectively examine your feelings so you can make a decision from the heart that will ultimately be the best choice for you.
In this video, Jane shows you how you can reassess your emotions as you see your situation more clearly. From here, you are then taken through the process of understanding your emotions better to see if your emotions have changed as you see your situation differently. From here, you will then clearly be able to see your next move in the situation.
Besides helping you to gain clarity on your situation and feelings, this video also helps you to understand yourself on a deeper level, which can also benefit other areas of your life.
Step 2 is so powerful and not only allows you to arrive at the right answer for you, it also helps you to see once and for all if the relationship is worth your effort and how to tell if your feelings and desire for him are real.
Step3: Testing The Water. This step is all about your ex’s feelings towards you and testing the waters. This video will give you a better understanding of your ex’s feelings towards you and will help you to clearly see if there is a possibility of the two of you getting back together.
First, Jane delves into your ex’s current situation and his feelings towards you. Once you have found out his feelings towards you using Jane’s techniques, you can then see clearly if it is a good idea to initiate some form of contact. Jane then helps you to communicate with him in order to get the information you need to draw a conclusion about what you want to do from here.
Have you been asking yourself, your friends or even Google, questions like Does he still loves me? Does he still think about me? Does he miss me? Can I get him back? If so, then you’ll be able to answer all these questions for yourself once you’ve gone through Step3 of Jane’s course.
Step4: Fork In The Road. This video is all about moving forward and what you should do from this point. From this point change now must occur in order for you to continue moving forward in a happy and healthy way. Jane highlights a very important quote in this video to illustrate her point;
“If you change nothing, then nothing will change.”
From here, Jane explains that one of two outcomes will emerge from talking to your ex. Once you know what these two possibilities are and you have followed steps one, two and three to find out which one will be relevant to your situation, Jane explains what you need to do for each of the possibilities.
What Results Can I Expect?
Jane’s program is designed for you to go through in your own time, however, Jane feels it is best to take it step-by-step and watch one video per week so you can absorb the information and complete the tasks Jane asks you to do in each module. However, it is possible to watch all the videos in a week. Regardless, you will want to review each video several times over the coming weeks in order to get the most out of the program.
If you are following the course correctly then you should start to see changes in your perspective, your understanding and also your feelings after the first week.
How She Wins Him Back is a powerful program that gets the ‘American Dating Society Seal Of Approval‘. This course will help you to go from stuck in a breakup and trying to put the pieces back together to turning the tables to create a loving, stable relationship, either with your ex or moving on to something new and better for yourself.
Once a person has been through this course they will be able to more easily see their sub-conscious patterns that got them in the mess in the first place and then being able to untangle the issues and things that kept them stuck.
To get Jane’s How She Wins Him Back course, click here.
It’s not the same, is it? Learning to pilot your own ship, when for months or years or even decades, you had a dedicated co-captain to share the voyage? I won’t sugarcoat it: These are some rough seas. But there are ways you can get through this difficult time on your own — and even find a way back to happiness. After all, you aren’t just one half of a whole; you were a whole person before him, and you can feel like one again.
1. Embrace your inner woman
You know all those things he made fun of you for doing, saying they were “too girly?” Like when you would indulge in expensive spa treatments “just because,” or paint your toenails outrageous colors, or cry happy tears while watching An Affair to Remember? Well, do all of those things now. Buy a pint of your favorite Ben & Jerry’s flavor, stream the sappiest movie you can think of, and settle in for a night of indulgence.
2. Boost your mood the natural way
Face it — he probably wasn’t too crazy about your oil diffuser, either. Now’s the time to crank it up, using your favorite seasonal scents. Peppermint oil, in particular, is often used to relieve stress and improve mental well-being. If your eyes are puffy from hours of crying, add a drop each of lavender and lemon oils to a teaspoon of distilled water, and massage the potion under your eyes before bedtime. You’ll wake feeling rejuvenated and refreshed, and look the part.
3. Strut your stuff
You don’t need to be on a man’s arm in order to have a great night on the town. Visit the local movie theater by yourself — or better yet, treat yourself to a live performance by an artist you love — and sit wherever you damn well please. Before or after, check out that restaurant you always wanted to try but never did because they didn’t have the baseball game on. Bonus: You don’t have to share your popcorn or appetizers.
4. Write him a letter
All right, I know — you’re trying to get over him, not dwell on all the stuff that drove you apart. But writing can be therapeutic, as well as cathartic. Say the things you weren’t able to say in the heat of your last days together. Get angry. Forgive yourself. Then either file the letter someplace where no one can ever read it, or throw it in the fireplace.
Looking for more tips on how to feel like yourself again? Click here to see How She Wins Him Back for ideas and stories from other women who are in the same boat as you. Just remember: Healing isn’t an instantaneous process, but what heals after a break is often stronger.
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Hi everybody so I recently just finished reading this book.
It’s called Girl Gets Ring it’s about going from single
to being engaged and the phases in between and all that.
So I actually wrote out a list of what I needed to talk about.
Because there’s so many details in this book and I wanted to make sure I got everything in.
So yeah, I just wanted to give a quick review. I’m going to jump right in.
First of all the authors Jonathan and T Dub. Amazing job!
They co wrote the book. Jonathan’s stuff is in black ink.
and T Dub’s stuff is in blue.
The way they write together is just beautiful.
It flows so well.
I didn’t feel like it was choppy at all. It was great writing.
So there are six phases from going from single to engaged.
And phase one is of course single-dom. That is basically being single. Finding out who you are, what you want, what are your dreams, your aspirations.
I love the way they use storytelling in this book. It talked about the incomplete Irene, and how she looked for love in other people, and she was never happy.
Then it talked about the complete Cathy, who found love in herself. In her dreams. In her journey. So I thought that was really cool.
Also, something else that was really cool. It happens all throughout the book. After each section, there’s homework.
You can answer the questions or read the kind of exercises they give you. It really helps you kind of evaluate yourself and what you want. What you need to do next. That’s phase one.
Phase two is looking for love.
The main thing that stuck out in this phase for me was the jerk proof jacket. How to decide which guy to pick. How to cypher through all the jerks. And all the bad guys. I just thought that was great.
Later on in the phases it talks about attraction and looks, and what guys look for and everything. I thought that was pretty great.
It also talked about man repellents. I thought that was great. There’s some things that I do, that I didn’t know it was a man repellent. That was pretty awesome. That’s phase two.
So phase three is the first contact. You’re single, you’re looking and now there’s first contact with someone.
I really liked how they talked about the core elements of attraction and making it last. They talked about how men are attracted to women with passion, with strength, and self confidence.
Honestly. And that’s something I’ve always struggled with. I really enjoyed reading about that and I really, everything they said just really rung true to me.
If you are self confident and you have all this passion. And strength to you, men are going to want to be around that.
It makes total sense. Phase three is really about picking the right guy.
So phase four.
After first contact, now you’re at phase four, it’s dating.
This was really helpful. It talked about the first dates. And what to do, what not to do.
Kind of how to help out the situation if it gets awkward. It talked about what men find attractive, what they find sexy, and one of the things I loved about it, is they talked about intelligence being sexy.
Because it is, honestly. I believe it for sure. Especially in this day and age.
Being educated and being intelligent is attractive.
People want to be around other people like that. I thought that was great.
It talked about how to keep him dating you. Of course it talked about the big one. Sex. Because dating and sex, you know that kind of goes hand and hand. So it talked about that in phase four.
So then we get to phase five.
And that is becoming the girl friend. Basically it’s the guy, I loved how it talked about how you can’t change him.
I am in a long-term relationship right now. And, I kind of nag a lot sometimes. I’m trying to stop, I really am. And I’ll try to convince my boyfriend to think exactly like I do to change his ways and think like me.
It kind of put me in check because it was talking about how you can’t change him. So that was really cool to read about.
It also talked about communication. Any relationship, no matter how attracted you are to each other, Or how much you have in common If you do not communicate
It’s going to fall apart eventually So that was great reading about the communication. I saw ways that I could improve communication with my boyfriend.
That was phase five.
Now we have phase six. Which is the big one…
going from the girlfriend, to the fiancee – getting the ring.
It talked about space. That was hard for me to read about because I’m so bad at it.
I’ve read the other books that they have in Meet Your Sweet, and they always talk about giving the guy space.
I’m just like, I’m not good at it. I am working on it, and it makes sense really why they need space.
Anyway it talked about how to get him to listen.
And using your “kiss”. Not just your smooch smooch, kiss.
I’m talking about your K I S S.
I don’t want to give it away, but it was really cool how they used that to help you out.
It talked about accepting him and letting him know you accept him.
And ultimately getting the ring.
That’s the whole process of this book Girl Gets ring anyways.
So those are the six phases. Something else that was so amazing.
Was at the end, they have all of these extras. I mean so much bonus material.
And I can’t really mention all of them because there’s so much, but a couple that I liked was the nature of nagging. Which for obvious reasons, what I talked about earlier I’m trying to improve on that.
And then loss of passion. Because I am in a long-term relationship and I just really feel like I needed to read that and to kind of work on that. Those are the six phases and the extras.
Girl Gets Ring is and amazing book.
Even if you’re single, or you’re dating if you’re engaged I feel like this is a book for everyone. So I would recommend it to everyone. Alright, that’s all I have to say so thanks for watching.
If you’ve recently suffered from a bad breakup, you might feel like there’s nowhere to turn. It’s easy to want to curl up under the covers and refuse to come out. Even if you’re the one that ended the relationship, it can be extremely hard to separate from the one you’ve spent so much time with. As the days pass on, you might realize you’ve made a huge mistake and you might be aching to get your ex back.
If this sounds like your situation, you can take heart that there is something that can help. Recently, I came across a great book from relationship expert, Amanda Walters. The book called Manfiest Your Ex Back contained a manifestation technique that can help you channel the universe to get your ex back without even being near them.
Though it may sound like hocus pocus, the book is founded on the principle of the Law of Attraction, which is a well-known principle throughout many different religions and schools of thought.
The Law of Attraction states that like energy attracts like energy, meaning if you send positivity out into the universe, you get back positive results.
The same is true for negative energy.
If you’re sending out bad vibes into the universe, you’re going to get back bad results.
In Manfiest Your Ex Back, Walters gives you tried and true methods for harnessing the power of the Law of Attraction to get your ex to come back to you. You’ll start by figuring out what it means to find your true self and what you truly want. By finding this power, you’ll instantly become more attractive to members of the opposite sex and you’ll also be on the road to finding your higher calling. Walters teaches you how to find the joy again in your friendships, hobbies and everyday activities. It’s the first step to getting your love life back on track.
Of all the thoughts you have each day, you’ll learn how to make them positive. By focusing your attention on positive thoughts, you instantly attract the good in the universe to you. You’ll also learn techniques for keeping your feelings and negative emotions in check. In the book, there is an actual journaling activity, known as heart-storming that allows you to analyze and understand your daily thought processes. You’ll also learn how to decode the inner workings of your brain stemming from childhood and beyond so that you can understand how your patterns affected your relationship. Once uncovered, you can begin to reprogram your brain.
The Master Plan
Once you’ve learned the techniques of visualization that help you uncover your true self, you’ll start on the journey to getting your ex back. There are even daily exercises and weekly focus activities to help you stay on a positive track. Now you’re ready and prepared to get your ex back! The book then gives you a detailed guide about what to do if he calls or texts (and he surely will!) or what you should call and text to start your relationship again. There’s even sound advice for your first date night, first kiss and first night together.
Really, it’s like having a best friend there to tell you, “No, don’t say that! Say this!”
The advice found in Manfiest Your Ex Back is concrete and can really work. Following the steps will help shift the power in the relationship from him to you. If you are serious about getting your ex back, then Walter’s book is the only guide you’ll need. Taking the high road to your relationship woes will make you come out stronger and more confident. And who wouldn’t be attracted to that? It’s a game-changer for your romantic life.
It goes without saying that any kind breakup is never going to be easy. However, if you want to be able to break up with your boyfriend nicely so that the two of you can leave on good terms, there are a few different pointers that you may want to keep in mind.
No matter how long the two of you have been together, saying goodbye in a kind, thoughtful manner will reduce the blow a great deal.
More good can come of finishing things on good terms than carelessly hurting someone or potentially making an enemy.
Tips One Breaking Up With Your Boyfriend Nicely
This Means Moving On
Once you know that the relationship is just not going to work, then the time that you need to say something should always be sooner rather than later.
If you hold onto a guy simply because you are not looking forward to bring single, it could cause both of you more pain in the long run. While there is never any pleasant way to break up with someone, it is going to be a necessary stepping stone for moving on.
The both of you will have the ability to benefit when you remain true to your feelings, and you are honest and open with each other. It is not going to be fair to either of you if you avoid breaking up simply out of fear. This is when the bad things start to happen, including fighting, cheating and constant regret that you are still in the relationship that you would rather not be in.
Think About What You Want To Say
Take some time to think about your reasons for wanting to break up with him and decide upon the things you want to say. Be honest with him, but don’t be harsh, brutal or rude.
Go About It Gently
Your boyfriend has feelings too, just like you do, which means that he is going to have feelings about the breakup of your relationship. However, any breakup is going to be a lot easier when you are able to point out valid reasons for your decision.
Talk about the things that don’t feel right to you instead of any faults you feel he may have. This is not an opportunity to have a dig at him and bring up all his flaws, at the end of the day we all have some. The main aim is just to convey to him that you do not want to be in the relationship any longer.
Breaking up will take a certain amount of preparation, as well as timing. Always use compassion, remain matter-of-fact and keep the line of honesty and communication open.
You should always be the one to convey the news yourself and in person. Never send a text and never have someone else tell him for you. At the very least, you should tell him that you would like to talk so that you two can be part of an honest, two-way conversation.
If for whatever reason, you are still too nervous or perhaps even fearful of breaking up in person, then, in this case, a phone call may be acceptable, just as long as it is not over text. However, this is definitely not the best way to finish a relationship with someone. At the end of the day, he still deserves to hear your voice and sincerity and have an opportunity to say his bit.
Keep It Private
Never break up at a social gathering or event. A breakup can feel like a stab in his pride and it may take him some time to digest his feelings before he is ready to be in public with it.
Talk together about how you are going to handle the breakup, including status changes on social media and so forth.
Talk About Your Feelings
Being honest with your boyfriend and telling him exactly how you feel is always the best way to go.
If it is true, then you can tell him that you just don’t feel the same way as you once did and although you think he is a great guy, you just don’t feel that the two for you are right together. At the end of the day, no one can argue with your feelings as that’s just the way you feel.
What If You Love Someone Else?
If you are in love with someone else then in most cases, it isn’t necessary to tell him about this, as this will only hurt him more. Be tactful and let him down gently in a way that both of you will be able to respect each other’s feelings and opinions and move on.
Once you have spoken about your feelings, then he may also be likely to want to talk about his. Be willing to listen openly to what he has to say and show that you do care about how he feels.
The way that you bring up the feelings that you are having and how you talk about the breakup can have a major impact on how he feels when it all takes place.
If you would like to do it gently, there are words and phrases during your approach that may work better than others. For example, instead of just stating that you want to breakup straight off the bat, you may want to try to pull a few things out of him by seeing if he has noticed that there are things that are not perhaps right in the relationship. If you are able to get him to see that the pairing is not quite what it should be, you may even have a chance to get him on board with the idea during the conversation.
When the breakup happens, if the two of you want to remain, friends, you need to be able to give him some space so that he can get over it. The two of you need to move on, which is something that could be difficult to do if you are still bumping into each other everywhere you go.
When breaking up, some guys seem to think it is appropriate to ask for one last kiss or even a final night together. This is never a good idea and will only confuse the two of you and drag things out for even longer.
Once you have made your decision that you definitely want to end things, then that needs to be it. Stay strong and true to your decision and not only will the breakup be a smoother process, but he will also respect you more for it in the long run.
With all that being said, a final hug is okay, but nothing more.
Always be prepared to stop with the calling and texting during this time of healing after the breakup. Even though you may be the one doing the breaking up you will also likely be hurting a little too if it has been a particularly significant or lengthy relationship.
If the two of you are really meant to remain, friends, you will know it soon enough, and if you are able to ensure this break, you will see that the friendship is worth the effort. Our article on when to get in contact after breaking up may also provide you with some useful information on this.
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