Tips And Tricks To Keep Your Man Interested

a couple on the grassUh, how can you keep a man who is pulling away? How about… keeping a guy interested once he seems to truly be losing interest? And does not even go out of his way to text you anymore… let alone show his affection?

For once in your life, you’re with someone you truly love and who loves you back. You’re crazy about each other! But a part of you is starting to panic. Everything is so perfect that you’re certain something will eventually go wrong.

A voice in your head is saying that he’ll soon get bored with you and leave you for a better girl. This voice is getting louder and louder each day and it’s getting in the way of your happiness.

How do you keep a man, you ask. First of all, accept the fact that there’s no surefire way to keep any relationship. Once you accept this fact that there’s no assurance in any relationship, you will start to enjoy your guy as who he is and what he brings to your life. But, of course, you can try to at least maximize your shot at keeping him forever.

See also: Four steps to get your ex boyfriend back

Steps You Can Take To Keep Your Man

Step 1. Have Fun With Your Life

Most of the time, when we’re in a steady, long-term relationship, we neglect our own needs– from getting a facial to getting a new degree– because we are lazy creatures. Since we have boyfriends who truly love us, we are convinced we don’t need friends, or good skin (they’ll accept us for who we are, right?).

This kind of security has a tendency to make us lazy. Fight it, sister! Please don’t do it for him, though. Don’t say “I’ll exercise so he won’t leave me” or “I’ll have hobbies so he’ll think I’m interesting.” Do things for you because you’re an awesome woman, with or without your man! Here are the basic things that you have to do:

  • Stay in touch with old friends
  • Meet new friends
  • Try new hobbies
  • Do the things you’re passionate about
  • Exercise, eat right, meditate
  • Shop for good clothes and make-up
  • Travel more
  • Cultivate a good relationship with your family
  • Try sports and other activities where you meet people
  • Have Me Time

See also: More Tips To Keep Him Interested

Step 2. Don’t Focus on Keeping Him

The moment you make “keeping him” a project, a life goal, you will feel the vibe. He can feel that you’re panicking deep down and although he might comfort you, a part of him will get turned off in a major way.

Men like to keep chasing and making you feel loved, so by being insecure about how you think he feels about you, you’re actually doing more damage. This insecurity spills over every part of your relationship.

Related article: The secret ingredient that men want in a woman

Your mood will certainly be different and men can easily feel this. You’ll also over-analyze everything which will cause unnecessary worries and arguments. Here are some things you should focus on in your relationship instead:

  • How you can grow together
  • Fun things you can do together
  • Ways you can help each other
  • How you are good together
  • How you can be better for the relationship
  • How the relationship can help you be a better person

See also: Why he’s pulling away before committing

Step 3. Realize Sex is an Arena Where You Can Make a Man Go Nuts

Let’s be brutally honest here. Men crave for sex. It’s like air or water for them. Give your man mind-blowing sex and he’ll be like a poor little puppy waiting for his treats. He’ll adore you and do everything for you, basically. But let’s also get real. Mind-blowing sex has its limits. If you’ve been together for five years, chances are you’ve done all the sex positions in the Kama Sutra. Here are the things you can do to improve your sex:

  • Try toys (vibrators are a good option and not too “out there” if you are shy)
  • Ask each other’s fantasies and try to fulfil them (trust me, men go nuts for this)
  • Seduce him even when he’s at work
  • Try dancing and yoga (yoga puts you in touch with your body)
  • Sext him once in a while (nothing nuts, just a few silly texts hinting that you are turned on)
  • Be open to crazier sex “tricks” (by crazy I mean… lots of saliva when giving “oral,” going out of your way to make him happy, perhaps putting his two things in your mouth, you know those two things I am referring to…) I’m not saying put on a wig and say you are an anime character with a fetish for comic books… all I am saying is to be a bit open to experiencing new sexual things. Nothing too crazy just fun

When you try these things, you’re doing yourself a favor more than your man. This is a checklist of a goddess and any man would want to be your guy if you’re this awesome. Your boyfriend would have a tough time leaving you because you’re simply a catch: empowered, independent, and a beast in the bedroom. And if he would, it would be sooooo easy for you to say “Next boy!”

See also: Four reasons you can be happy after a breakup

I don’t mean this in a rude way. I am just saying… if he is not into you, you need to be into yourself. Be happy with YOU. Realize you are more than what he thinks and feels. This is a generic, silly statement but it’s generic and popular because it’s true!

You can’t not love yourself and expect someone to want to be with you.

Ask yourself: do you truly love who you are? If not, get yourself to a place where you can honestly say you either love yourself or are making specific changes in your life to get you on a path where you will love yourself. Life is way too short to not love yourself. I mean that.

What Men Want In a Woman – 5 Things You Need To Know

a romantic couple making a heart shape with thier handsMany women wonder about what men really want in a woman that they can see themselves with forever.

This list is a list of the top things that men want in a woman, so that you can find Mr. Right and show him that you’re the woman of his dreams.

The Top 5 Things Every Man Wants In A Woman

1. A Woman Who Is Accepting

Men want a woman who is able to accept them for who they really are. Men walk around putting on a “mask” to society, but what most men really want deep down is to be known and understood for who they really are.

This is why men want an accepting, non-judgmental woman. Judgmental, mean women are generally going to become less attractive in a man’s eyes. If a man has any choice in who he is going to date, he will not choose a mean, judgmental woman.

Being accepted for who he is is one of the keys to making a man truly happy. For more on how to make a man deeply happy, I wrote an article on Vixen Daily that reveals the secrets.

Related article: What Do Guys Want From A Relationship?

2. A Woman Who Is Comfortable Being Herself

Nothing is more attractive than a woman who is comfortable in her skin and not afraid to be herself.

Men want a woman who can voice her true opinions and also voice what she wants in general (in an emotionally honest yet calm way).
This leads me to my next point…

3. A Woman Who Can Control Her Emotions

a happy couple on a beachMen want a woman who is able to control her emotions and handle situations that come about without becoming too hysterical and out of control.

I am not saying be an emotionless robot; what I mean is… men want a woman who is able to listen to a conversation without reacting automatically in a very dramatic, out of control way. This scares men away.

Being able to express your feelings without adding overtones of drama is a major quality that makes you irresistible to men (This article on Anewmode is a great resource for how to be irresistible to the man you want).

See also: How To Keep Your Guy Interested In You

4. A Woman Who Has a Sense of Humor

Men love a woman who can laugh at herself and at life. Don’t take life too seriously. Roll with the punches rather than being unwilling to let go and simply laugh.

Embrace the joy you find in life instead of refusing to be silly and playful. Men love happy, playful women. A happy woman is one of the most important things that makes a man happy. It automatically makes you more attractive if you have a smile on your face.

See also: How To Become A Guy’s Secret Obsession

5. A Woman On His “Team”

a couple having a fund discussion about their relationshipThe reason relationships (or budding relationships) fall apart is often because a woman feels like she is doing everything she can for the relationship, going out of her way to make the man happy (for example, by cooking for him, giving him sexual favors or whatever it may be….) and the more she does, the more the man seems to pull away and lose interest.

This makes her frustrated and confused because she is putting in so much effort and yet cannot make him happy no matter how hard she tries.

This is not what a man wants. A man wants a woman who is on his team not going out of her way to do things to get an outcome. A man wants a woman who brings something to the table and is not just trying to “get” something out of the relationship.

Here is an analogy. Imagine there is a rowing boat in the ocean. Each of you have an oar, each on one side of the boat. If one person is rowing, you’re going to go in circles, if you row together you’re going to go straight forward at full speed, enriching each other’s lives… making each other’s lives richer and better.

If you do not work as a team and instead look at the relationship as if you are keeping score (i.e you do this for me, I do this for you and if you do not do this for me, then I will not do this for you… and I expect you to do this for me in order to make me happy and feel OK).

The point is: if you keep score you end up becoming resentful and one person feels like they’re doing more work than the other.

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How To Be More Attractive To Guys | 8 Things You Can Do Now

two attractive women talking to two menLearning how to become more attractive to men is something that pretty much every woman can do, to a greater or lesser degree. With a few simple changes to how you interact with guys can really make a big difference.

Many people confuse physical beauty with attractiveness. Although they are often somewhat related, they are actually two different things.

Physical beauty is as straightforward as it sounds; you are either born with a great bone structure and symmetrical attributes or not.

There are of course some things we can do to make ourselves more physically appealing to the opposite sex. For example getting in shape, making sure we are well-groomed, taking care of our skin and so forth. However, improving one’s physical appearance is somewhat limited.

If you are feeling that your physical gifts are lacking compared to other women, don’t be disheartened.

Attractiveness isn’t just about physical beauty. We can, of course, be attracted to how a person looks, however, people are usually more drawn to qualities and characteristics.

Attractiveness, on the other hand, is something rather different. Attractiveness is how much other people are drawn to you, and there is virtually no limit to the extent in which a person can work on this aspect of themselves.

Attraction comes down to how you are perceived by others. There are general traits and characteristics that people pick up on psychologically, often without even being aware as to why they feel an attraction to a person.

8 Things To Improve Your Attractiveness To Guys

Be passionate

Being passionate is a very attractive quality in both sexes. Being passionate about something shows that you have depth of character and interests that go beyond the norm. Being passionate about something often gets a person wanting to know more about what makes you tick.

When a member of the opposite sex see’s you have a passion that drives you, they may start to wonder if your passion extends to the bedroom.

See also: Keeping A Guy Interested In You

Don’t be boring

No one likes to be bored during a conversation so ensure you do not fall into this trap and run the risk of guys labelling you as a bore.

As crass as it may sound, everyone’s favourite subject (almost everyone) is, themselves. If you can turn the conversation around and ask questions about what interests them then, you will on the right path.

If you’re having trouble getting anything out of them then having a few topics up your sleeve that you know are commonly perceived topics of interest can always be a good fall-back. For example, this very subject of attraction is generally of interest to most people.

If you know something about it that perhaps they don’t, then it could stimulate an interesting conversation between the two of you. Just don’t come across as a ‘know it all’.

Be a good listener

Being a good listener is a great gift. Being able to listen well shows the other person that you are not self-obsessed. It also shows you have a caring quality about you, and you take an interest in other people. However, more importantly that all of this, it also gives you the opportunity to listen to all kinds of important information a person may be telling you about themselves.

Being a good listener will also give the other person space to talk about their favourite subject, themselves! Allowing them the space to do so will help them to feel a sense of connection with you, no matter how small it may be at first.

See also: The Signs To Tell If A Guy Is In Love With You

Be intriguing

a woman and a man flirtingBeing open and friendly but also having a degree of mystery about you is also an attractive quality. Being intriguing doesn’t mean being interesting. Being interesting is generally when a person has something interesting to say. However, when the conversation finishes, as stimulating as it might have been, if there is nothing between you then the guy will probably not be thinking much else.

Being intriguing on the other hand is when you get the guy to think and wonder about you. This effect is much longer lasting and can often cause him to think about you when you’re not around.

Be happy

Being happy and upbeat person is a commonly accepted trait of attractiveness for both men and women. You don’t need to be annoyingly happy all the time. However, grumpy women are a big turn off for most men.

Have a positive outlook on life

Looking on the bright side of things and finding the good in all situations is also an attractive trait to possess.

Related article: Things Guys Want In A Relationship

Deal with your shit and leave it at home

We all have problems in our lives that we have to deal with. However, the last thing you want to do is bring them up with people that you are getting to know. Leave those conversations for the people who know you best.

Do not be needy

Neediness is a huge turn-off for both men and women. A person can be needy in many different ways so check in with yourself to make sure that you are not coming across as an insecure attention-seeker.

We are just scratching the surface of attraction here. For more in-depth secrets of attraction and to learn about what men really want in a woman, click one of the links below to discover more.

How To Tell If a Shy Guy Likes You With These 5 Signs

a shy guy sitting on a sofa with a beautiful womanKnowing how to tell if a shy guy likes you can save you a lot of trouble and wasted time wondering if he is really into you or not.

Many women tend to over-analyze when it come to figuring out if a guy likes them. Many times it can be obvious or the guy just straight comes out and tells you in some way. However, when it comes to shy guys, it can often not be so clear.

So, do you have the hots for a guy who is a little shy? Or is there a shy guy in your friend group or at work who you think may fancy you, but you’re just not quite sure?

When it comes to shy guys, it can often be confusing to figure out exactly where he’s coming from and you can often wonder if he is into you as much as you hope he is.

Often, the complex behavior of a shy guy can cause you to think that you may be reading too much into the way he acts. Maybe the traits you take for shyness are really just disinterest. So this is very important to get right if you don’t want to embarrass yourself by arriving at the wrong conclusion.

If you want to take all the guess work out and discover exactly how to read a man in any situation then click here now and come back to read the rest of this article after.

However, fear not, there are several signs that will tell you for sure if a shy guy really does have the hots for you. Here are five of the most common ones.

Top Signs a Shy Guy Likes You

He Makes No Eye Contact

a man being shyA guy who is disinterested is not going to go out of his way to make eye contact with you, but neither will a shy guy. The one difference is that the shy guy will try to catch glimpses of you when he thinks you are not looking and will also start to feel nervous if you catch him checking you out.

If you do catch him eyeing you up, don’t give him a hard time or make him feel uncomfortable. After all, he likes you and wants to admire your beauty. However, he does not want you to catch him snagging glimpses of you. For this reason, he will do one distinct thing.

While he takes in your beauty from afar, he will quickly look away if you catch him looking at you. Whatever you do, don’t jump to conclusions. If it happens once, it could just be a coincidence. If it happens time and again, you may have yourself a shy admirer.

If you do catch him looking at you more than a few times, don’t call him out on this. Take your time to gather a few more sure signs that this is indeed attraction.

If you like him too then, one of the best things you can do is to smile at him and let him know that you’re liking his attention if you catch him gazing at you. This will help him to feel more comfortable with you and increase the chances of him actually approaching you to ask you out.

He’s Clumsy – But Cute

A shy guy might lose all sense of coordination around you and do his best to make it look like he meant to drop those books or his cell phone at your feet. Anytime a shy guy acts clumsy it is usually because he is nervous to see or talk to you. Things will fall, things will drop – he might even tie his shoes together in your presence and trip as he walks off.

The reason this happens is that a shy guy will become so preoccupied with his thoughts about how he may be coming across to you in your presence that he will not have his attention in the present moment.

You have to admit that this sort of thing is kind of cute, but you don’t want to draw too much attention to the clumsiness. It could embarrass him and cause him to become discouraged in being able to connect with you more.

Along the lines of being clumsy, he may also simply act silly around you. He may do ridiculous things to get you to laugh.

Sometimes a shy guy has no problem letting his sense of humor shine through if this is his gift. Just keep taking notes about him in your head. There are still a few more signs that will point to his genuine interest in you.

See also: The Psychology of Falling in Love

He Sends Mixed Signals

He may be able to talk to you one day but the next he acts like you are invisible. Maybe one day he is hamming it up with you and the next he seems completely indifferent.

This is a hard sign to decode, but if it is present with all the others, it could be he is still struggling with trying not to act like a fool around you because of how much he likes you.

When a shy guy does this, it is usually for two reasons;

1. He’s feeling more self-conscious around you at that time than other times
2. He has convinced himself that you are not interested in him so he is trying not to make it obvious that he likes you

The other reason for a guy doing this is of course, that he is just not interested in you. These mixes signals can cause a lot of confusion for women. On the one hand, you don’t want to dismiss him in case he does really have the hots for you and the two of you could strike up a great relationship. On the other hand, however, you don’t want to embarrass yourself, be messed around or have him just waste your time.

Thankfully, relationship expert Mirabelle Summers has a solution for this problem. To know for sure if he is into you and if he is relationship material or just a time-wasting jerk, discover Mirabelle’s techniques for reading a man here.

He Acts Different Around Others

This is something that you will have to pay careful attention to. Does he act a little weird around you but when he returns to his friends to talk he seems perfectly normal? Does he have a problem looking you in the eye when making small talk but when he talks to them he has no problem focusing?

Maybe he has not said one word to you, but when his friends show up, he’s a regular chatterbox. Shy guys act like regular guys around their buddies, but when they are in the presence of someone they like, they sure act differently.

This is a sure sign that he fancies you but is finding it a little difficult to act normal around you.

a man with three women

He Suddenly Seems Snippy

When you do get a chance to talk with him he often speaks, in short, staccato sentences. He might even sound like he’s a little snippy with you. Don’t worry; this usually has to do with his nerves.

Again, make sure to see how he is addressing his friends or other women. If he sounds fine with them, but there is something off with the way he’s speaking to you it could be that he is really struggling to get the nerve up to do something about these feelings he has for you.

What To Do About The Shy Guy?

So, if you have amassed many occasions of the shy guy’s behavior and speech around you and it seems like he does have feelings for you, what should you do? You don’t want to act indifferent and non-threatening, but you also don’t want to ask him out right away either.

Know that, with a shy guy you will most likely need to give him a few slightly more obvious clues that you like him, more so than you would need to with a more self-assured man.

What you can do is compliment him as honestly as you can. Flattery will most likely make him feel more comfortable with you and give him an idea that you may like him, too.

Engage him in more conversations and, when the time is right, find a reason to offer him your number and welcome him to text you. When you do so, be slightly and subtly flirtatious so he gets a clear idea as to why you may be giving him your number.

Hopefully, this will be enough to give him the confidence to pursue you. If not, then a gentle text message from you a few days later saying it was great to chat with him the other day should do the trick.

If the two of you start texting each other then, the next article you may want to read is, How To Flirt With a Guy Using Text Messages.

If after reading this you’re still not sure if he is into you or if he is wasting your time then discover relationship expert Mirabelle Summers’ techniques for reading a man by going here now.

Top 7 Ways To Keep a Guy Interested For The Long-Term

a couple dating at a barHow to keep a man interested in you is a question that almost every woman will come to at some point once they are in a relationship with a guy they really like.

It is normal for a person to have all kinds of insecurities running through their head once they actually get together with someone they’re really keep on if you’re not in a strong place when you meet them. A woman can start to worry whether they’re good enough for their man, if he’ll eventually get bored with her or if he’ll find someone else.

From this, the questions usually arises about how they can keep their man interested in them and hanging around for the long-term, instead of eventually pulling away from the relationship.

According to stereotypes, landing a man is child’s play for any woman. The reality of the situation is a lot more complex, and that certainly holds true when you start looking at your longer-term dating prospects.

Engaging a man’s interest and keeping him focused on you can be a real trial. Here are some tips to make it easier.

Keeping Him Interested In You

Don’t Become His Plus One Too Quickly

Depending on your dating goals, building up a long-term permanent relationship might be your top priority. Even if this is the case, you don’t want to throw yourself into every nook and cranny of your new guy’s life after date number three.

Maintain your own separate life and don’t push him towards sharing things before he’s ready.

Besides respecting your man’s space, this will also help to keep him intrigued by giving him more to find out about you. Let your man know that he’ll have to put in more work to earn access to all the different facets of your life.

If you make yourself an all-or-nothing prize to be won in a single game, don’t be surprised if your man goes looking for a new challenge after winning you.

Be The Right Kind Of Mysterious

The initial process of seduction, no matter who drives it, is all about intrigue and discovering the unknown. You want to preserve as much of that feeling as possible so that you can deploy it over and over again throughout your relationship. This means holding back a few surprises to delight your man when he least expects them.

Be aware that you need to pick and choose your assets to suit what you’ve learned about your guy when you do this! Where one man will be delighted to discover you want him to take you skinny dipping, another may be turned off.

You should tailor your menu of options to fit your partner’s interests. Remember, to do this effectively you’ll need to learn plenty about him.

Let Him Dictate The PDA Rules

a dating couple in the cinemaThis point digs a bit into cultural biases, but you should be prepared to work with what you have. The truth of the matter is that guys are allowed to be way more picky about public displays of affection than women are.

Some guys are happy and proud to smooch their girlfriends on the library steps; others feel uncomfortably exposed even holding hands at the bus stop.

Follow your man’s lead when it comes to PDA. Don’t pressure him into things he’s clearly uncomfortable with and don’t spring things on him without warning. You’ll find that most guys actually find it to be a tremendous turn on to be asked if you can kiss them in public.

Bear in mind, of course, that you shouldn’t let your man’s interests pull you outside of your own comfort zone!

In the rare case that you latch onto a man who’s more interested than you are in getting grabby in public, make sure your boundaries are clearly defined. He’ll appreciate the certainty even if it turns out that your limits are more conservative than his.

Keep Criticism To A Minimum

Of all the things men look for in relationships, constructive criticism is always near the bottom of the list.

Do your best to refrain from being intentionally or even accidentally critical. This seems like obvious common sense, but remember that it’s a lot easier to police yourself on a three-hour date than it is during a long-term relationship.

You need to stay aware of the fact that far from their cliche reputation for being unfeeling and uncaring, men are actually just as capable as women are of twisting words and using them to reinforce their fears.

If you tell your boyfriend you want to spend more time with him, it’s quite possible he’ll interpret this as, “You don’t pay enough attention to me.” Keeping your words free of all possible criticism may well be an impossible goal, but it’s still one you can strive for.

See also: Our Guide To Making a Guy Fall in Love

Show Your Appreciation

This isn’t about meeting some schedule of intimate affection dreamed up by a magazine editor. Okay, it can be about that, but it’s about a lot more than that.

Appreciation means just that – letting your guy know that you recognize something he’s done for you and that it makes you happy.

Clear appreciation can be an enormous motivator, especially as a relationship matures and heads for the long term. Everybody likes to hear that he or she is doing a good job, so make sure your guy knows it when you like the way he’s boyfriending.

See also: How To Tell If Your Boyfriend Loves You

Add Some Spice To Your Relationship

One of the best parts of being in a relationship is to be able to have fun with your man and be naughty from time to time.

Guys love it when a girl gets sexual with them and suggests naughty things that they would like to do with their fella. Of course, how and when you do this all depends on what stage you are at in your relationship and the level of comfort and safety you feel with your guy and only let the relationship develop to this stage when you are ready and you feel that your man is someone with whom you feel safe with and you can trust in order to become more intimate.

With that said, one great way to spice up your relationship is with a few naughty texts at the right times. Guys love getting naughty texts from their lady and ads an element of excitement and passion to the relationship.

To learn all about sexting, see our article on How to talk dirty to your man with text messages.

Demand The Respect You Deserve

Looking back over this article, you’ll see that a fair amount of it involves making an effort to accommodate your man in various ways.

Giving a little something up and taking the time to do things his way from time to time is just an inevitable part of keeping a guy interested in you. Don’t let this process go too far, though.

You should make sure your man understands that you’re not a doormat or a Stepford Wife-in-Waiting who’s willing to change herself on his slightest whim.

There’s a pretty big separation between being polite and affectionate with someone you love and becoming entirely subservient to a man. Make sure you stay objective and stay on the former side of that divide!

Holding a man’s interest is a bit more challenging than grabbing it in the first place. It’s something worth working at if you want to build a long-term relationship, and suggestions like those presented here can help out a lot.

At the end of the day, it all comes down to being our best self in the relationship and showing your guy all the great things about you, how much fun the two of you can have together, and so forth.

Keep your options open and keep looking for ways to hold your guy’s attention!

How To Attract a Virgo Man

two people in love looking into each others eyesKnowing how to attract a Virgo man can really make the difference between making him yours or losing him to another woman if you are in persuit of one.

When you’re out on the dating scene, it’s always helpful to know what you’re looking for.

Sure, it’s easy enough to find someone who’s attractive or who likes some of the same things as you do. But often, it’s a very good idea to have an understand of the inner drives and desire of a man before you start to date them.

This is where a number of people cite the Zodiac and astrology. If you’re into astrology, and you know how effective it can be when looking into someone’s character, then you probably already know a lot of the details. If you’re not, then you may need a run down.

Either way, you probably got to this article by looking for tips on attracting a Virgo man, so we’ll get to that after a quick summary of what to expect astrology to do for you.

Whether you deeply believe in astrology, or you came here with your tongue firmly pressed within your cheek, there are a few things that can generally be assumed about the practice.

One important point to understand is that it’s not set in stone. Individual people are, as always, individuals. Human beings are faceted. They contain multitudes. Just because a Virgo man will generally have certain traits doesn’t mean all of them will, or that all of them will have those traits in the same combination or at the same intensity.

The details of why this has to do with the fact that astrology is more than just the sun sign (i.e., your birth sign), but rather a complex combination of different areas of the stars.

The second thing is that a sun sign does give a general idea of some things you can assume. You will have to adjust your thoughts and your tactics when you attract the right man, of course. But that’s no different from any courtship or dating situation. The more you get to know a person, the more you adjust your actions to match with them. Or not, as the case may be.

The Virgo Man Personality and How To Attract Him

virgo man with his girlfriendSo now, we get to the meat and potatoes of the article. Namely, how to attract a Virgo man.

There are a few things you should know about a Virgo. First and foremost, Virgo men have a habit of trying for perfection. They can be thoughtful and kind, but if you find a Virgo man who’s not very self-aware, then you may need to remind yourself that it’s not you, it’s them.

Humans have a tendency to presume they’re not at fault for things that go wrong, after all. So when a Virgo man is trying to ensure the relationship is perfect, and something goes wrong, they may not presume it’s their fault. So be ready to be firm in what you will and will not allow for yourself and your relationship.

The Virgo man has a tendency towards stability. This means that you’ll need to get a good idea of what he expects to happen in the relationship, and how quickly he expects it to happen.

It’s not that a Virgo man is an unwilling lover, at least, not any more or less than any other sun sign. Rather, the spontaneity of an attempt at sudden passion could throw him off balance and make him uncomfortable.

This is all to say, try not to come on too strongly. State your desires clearly and early, and then get his input. It may make romance seem like some sort of negotiation, but if you want spontaneous animal passion, then a Scorpio man may be better for you.

That said, if you’re willing to let him set the pace, only pushing or prodding when he seems unsure of himself, you may do quite well. You will need to keep an eye on that; a Virgo man is often second-guessing himself. When one focuses so much on perfection and self-improvement, it’s easy to worry that any choice you’re about to make is going to be the wrong one.

Finding and attracting a Virgo man isn’t necessarily the easiest thing. But if you’re willing to be patient, and to lay out what you expect out of the relationship clearly and up front, you could find a great partner.

How To Attract a Scorpio Man

a Scorpio manIf you’re wanting to discover how to attract a Scorpio man and you have your sights on one, then you need to know that Scorpio’s are no strangers to attention from the opposite sex.

Scorpios have great sexual magnetism and often attract the attention on potential lovers fairly easily. Therefore, be prepared not to be the only one who is after him.

When competing with other women, just remember that you don’t need to be the most beautiful and appealing woman in the world, you only need to be more appealing than your competition in order to attract a Scorpio man.

While most women leave the dating game to chance, when it comes to attracting a Scorpio guy, you need to show your confidence and indirectly let him know you are interested in him. However, being to forward with a Scorpio can make him lose interest in you.

Scorpio’s are known as the most sexual but also the most mysterious sign in the zodiac. Because of this, a Scorp can be very difficult to figure out. That’s why relationship astrologer, Anna Kovach created the ultimate guide to attracting a Scorpio man, getting him to commit and making him fall in love. You can find out more about Anna’s guide here.

Attracting a Scorpio Man – How To Make Him Want You

Scorpio’s love to solve a mystery

the scorpio zodiac signScorpio’s love intrigue! Use this to help attract the man of your dreams. Scorpios also find those who are mysterious to be more fascinating and intriguing as they love to try to figure a person out.

When you first meet a Scorpio, do not reveal everything there is about yourself and your life straight away. Scorpios love to find things out over time. It makes you seem like you have more depth to your character.

So if you have tickled his curiosity, he will start to feel drawn to you to find out what you are all about.

Scorpios love the process of digging up information and solving complex puzzles. This is why it is vital to shroud yourself in mystery in the early stages of getting to know him. If you do not do this, a Scorpio man will quickly lose interest and move on to the next mysterious woman that he meets.

To get a Scorpios interest you really need to captivate and enchant him. You only get one real chance with a Scorpio, so if you don’t want to lose him to another woman, you may want to take the advice of renowned astrologer and Scorpio expert, Anna Kovach.

If you manage to get a Scorpio man to agree to a date with you, suggest something that has an element of mystery to it such as visiting a historical and mysterious place or perhaps even a museum.

By being a little mysterious yourself, he will find it impossible to stay away from you. It is, of course, important to remember that you must be completely honest with anyone you are dating.

Absolutely, under no circumstances invent things about yourself to make you appear more attractive to the Scorpio. If you get together for any length of time, then the tall tales will eventually be found out.

No one wants to be around a liar! If a Scorpio finds out that you have lied or been dishonest about who you are, he will leave faster than you can blink your eyes.

Honesty is important to a Scorpio

When it comes to matters of the heart, honesty is always the best policy. Even a little white lie can ruin your chances of a relationship with a Scorpio in the early stages.

This sign finds it tough to forgive and forget once they are lied to and they will judge your character on your honesty. Scorpio men will generally assume they are no longer able to trust you if you are caught in a lie.

You may think you can get away with telling a little white lie here and there; however, you should know that Scorpios have the uncanny way of sniffing out a lie.

If there are things in your past that you are not proud of, don’t try to cover them up. It is always best to be totally upfront and honest with a Scorpio because they will find out sooner or later. Scorpios respect women who are honest and hate those who lie and cheat.

However, if you can gain his trust and respect early on then you could be in with a good chance with him.

The importance of honesty for a Scorpio comes from a deep need themselves, to be truthful. Therefore, if he is not interested in going out with you, he will likely let you know quickly. On the plus side, at least he hasn’t wasted your time! If this is the case, then the best thing to do is accept it graciously, thank him for his honesty and move on.

Scorpio men like a woman with substance

Scorpios are attracted to are strong-minded and willful people. Therefore, never appears weak in the eyes of a Scorpio. You must show a male Scorpio that you can stand up for yourself and are not a weakling.

Scorpio men like women who are somewhat feisty and who are not afraid to give as good as she gets. Showing a guy that you have a backbone and will stand up for what you believe shows you have confidence and you are a person of principle. These qualities are very attractive to a Scorp.

Scorp’s enjoy a challenge

an attractive couple being close on the bedSex in any relationship is important; however, with a Scorpio, it is probably one of the most important aspects of a relationship. To pique the interest of a Scorpio, you should subtly let him know that you are also a sexual creature and enjoy being naughty in the bedroom.

Of course, you do not want to appear like a slut, so the best way to do this is to ‘innocently’ use the occasional sexual innuendo when you are talking to him or even sending him a text.

To discover the best ways to flirt with a Scorpio man over text, read our article, How to flirt with a guy over text in 10 sexy steps.

A Scorpio man will love this and start to wonder if your sexual connotation was deliberate or not. Either way, it will get him thinking sexually about you and the intrigue will drive him wild.

As Scorpios love a challenge, do not have sex with him too soon, or he may quickly lose interest. Use subtleness and dress provocatively when you are around him, leaving something to the imagination, and play hard to get, but don’t over-do it.

Almost all men enjoy the challenge of getting a woman to bed. If this is offered too soon, your Scorpio man may become bored. Instead, make him wait a little bit longer for sex.

Scorpio’s don’t find bossiness attractive

Never do or say anything that seems to challenge a Scorpio man’s control. Underneath that hard exterior, a Scorpio suffers from a number of insecurities; however, never let them know that you know this about him.

Scorpios love to maintain their power. They like to be in charge and will do this by sharing as little as possible to have the upper hand. If you pry into a Scorpio’s life or begin trying to boss him around, he will pull away from you, and there is a good chance he will lose interest.

If you notice that he is starting to go cold, read our article, Why men pull away to understand why he is doing this.

When it comes to Scorpios, you are playing with fire! Remember this and always keep things mysterious to keep him interested.

Respect a Scorpio man’s privacy

When trying to attract a Scorpio man, it is important to know that he will generally be a very private person and will not appreciate people prying into his personal life or asking too many personal questions.

When you are in conversation with the Scorpio, do not make him feel like you are observing him under the microscope and avoid being too direct with your questions. Scorpios can feel threatened if they feel like they are being analysed.

Scorpio’s love compliments

Scorpios like to feel appreciated just like any other sign, but do not over-compliment the Scorpio man, or he will be suspicious of your motives.

Too many compliments for a Scorpio can feel uncomfortable, or he may start to perceive you as being needy. Indirect compliments work best for this star sign.

By using an indirect compliment, you will be able to let him know of your interest in a more clever way. This will make him feel appreciated, let him know that you may be interested in him, and it will also make you stand out among all the other women who just fall at his feet.

Scorpio men love sex

a couple being intimate in bedThis is so important for Scorpio men that it has to be mentioned twice! Scorpios have a very close relationship to sex, more so than any other sign in the zodiac.

For the Scorpio, sex is as essential as breathing and he will want to be in a relationship with someone who feels the same way. This is very important to understand for a woman who is wanting to discover how to attract a Scorpio man.

Scorpios can be very adventurous between the sheets and enjoy trying new things and keeping the passion alive. For the Scorpio, if things become too mundane and routine in the bedroom then he can lose interest pretty quickly.

Due to the amount of attention that Scorpios often get from the opposite sex, they can usually be quite experienced when it comes to getting down to it. However, if you are not very experienced, yourself do not let this worry you.

Scorpios are often very considerate lovers who love to give just as much as they enjoy receiving. Even if you do not have much experience, you will still be able to turn him on by showing your adventurous and naughty side.

Astrologer Anna Kovach exposes exactly how a Scorpio man thinks about sex, love and relationships in her book, Scorpio Man Sextrology. She also tells you exactly what you need to know to be the best lover he’s ever had. You can learn her methods here.

See also: How To Talk Dirty To A Guy

Final Thoughts

There are many things to consider when it comes to attracting and dating a Scorpio man. These guys want to appear strong, even though they are quite sensitive underneath and can be insecure if they have not done much self-improvement work.

Trust and honesty is a core value for a Scorpio man, so never lie to him and do not give him any reason to think that you are a dishonest person.

Scorpio’s are known to be the most mysterious sign in the zodiac. Not only are they themselves mysterious, but they also love having a good mystery to solve. So, if you can position yourself as an intriguing mystery that a Scorpio man simply can’t resist unravelling as Anna Kovach shows here, then he will certainly chase you until he can make you his.

Scorpio’s are also the most sexual of zodiac signs. This does not mean that they are sex-mad. Rather, a Scorp uses sex as a way to deeply connect with his partner and express his true emotions. This is because he often finds it difficult to express his inner-most feelings with his words. Therefore, connecting sexually with a Scorpio man as Anna shows in her course, Scorpio Man Sextrology, is very important if you want the relationship to last.

If you are serious about catching your Scorpio man and you do not want to lose him to another woman that will undoubtedly be chasing him too, discover the secrets of the Scorpio male mind to break through his air of mystery and get him chasing you.

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