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How to Make Him Interested Again After the Chase

December 3, 2021

Woman thinking how to make him interested again as she taps him on the shoulder

Things were going great. You and your new guy were constantly texting back and forth.

He was sending you, “Good morning” and “Goodnight” texts daily.

He was initiating dates, and there was an undeniable connection between you…

But now? It’s just crickets…

You know in your gut that things just aren’t the same on his end. He’s not texting as much. He’s not asking you out, or if he does, it’s at the last minute.

Ugh. Now, what..?

First, don’t panic. Sometimes guys blow hot and cold, especially at the beginning of a relationship.

If you’re not asking yourself, “how to make him interested again?” don’t worry, all might not be lost between you and your new guy.

Sending him a few clever text messages based on male psychology like these ones is the first thing you need to do to get his attention.

With the below tips, you’ll be able to snag his attention again — or know whether you should kick him to the curb.

How To Make Him Interested Again Once He Thinks He Has You

Focus on You

If your guy is blowing hot and cold at the moment then it’s time for you to focus on you for a while.

Yes, we know it’s hard not to think about the guy who you’re really into, and it’s always harder not to think about him when he’s not talking to you…but that’s exactly why you should.

If he’s not actively pursuing you that’s a sign for you to return to your hobbies, interests, and friends that you might’ve neglected while you were in lovey-dovey land.

How does this bring him back? Well, you’ll be so into yourself that you’re not thinking about him — or texting him — and that might be enough to pique a man’s curiosity.

If you’re not texting him, he might wonder: who are you texting? Besides, if you don’t hear from him, then you really know your answer.

Related article: 7 ways to keep a guy interested in you long-term

Unless You’re Committed, Keep Thinking You’re Single

woman making herself attractive and interesting

According to dating expert Mark Rosenfeld if you find that men lose interest in you after a few dates, then that usually stems from a fear of scarcity.

In his YouTube video, How To Keep A Guy Chasing (Why He Lost Interest And Stopped Chasing), Rosenfeld describes the pattern that most women fall into when they like a guy.

As he puts it, you stop acting single and you start mentally thinking he’s the one before he’s actually committed.

Sound familiar..?

Because you’re already thinking you’re together, you become more anxious and fearful about your status and whether or not you’ve messed it up when you don’t hear from him.

When a guy feels this energy from you, he immediately backs away.

So, what to do?

Keep dating other men, and keep an open mind about him and other guys.

Your energy will instantly elevate and relax, which will either attract him back, or another man who’s better suited for you will come into your life.

Flip the Chase

A number of men back away when you’ve stopped yourself from being pursued, and in turn, become the predator.

Men not only like the thrill of the chase but some can spook easily when you come off strong because they don’t know how to handle the attention.

So, what’s the solution to this?

According to dating expert Dr Ali Binazir, and author of “Tao of Dating,” you need to flip the chase back to him. He suggests to send a playful text like this one. Make it known that you want to see him again, but on your terms.

Here’s an example:

“Hey, handsome. When are you going to take me out again?”

Then step back and wait for him to get back to you.

Don’t send him another text until you’ve heard from him as double texting can really kill the attraction.

Instead, just wait for him to reply. Whether or not he responds with an invitation is all the info you need.

Related article: Fun ways to keep a guy interested through text

Be Cool

While you might be tempted to reach out multiple times, or send him a snarky text after a few weeks of no communication, it’s in your best interest to take the high road. Getting nasty will only make you look bad and it will send him further away, and he’ll likely disappear altogether.

Don’t give him the satisfaction of being that “crazy woman” either. You’re better than that. Give him space and do you.

For all you know, his dog died and he just needs some space right now. If that’s the case, he will appreciate you respecting it and being the self-sufficient woman you are.

How to Make Him Interested Again – Final Thoughts

When a guy loses interest, it can feel horrible. You will probably second guess yourself and wonder what you did wrong.

While it’s difficult not to take it personally, that’s what you need to do.

Most of the time when a guy loses interest, there’s nothing you could’ve done differently. Either you weren’t a good match or he wasn’t the man for you. Because the man who is meant for you will not lose interest. And even if he does disappear for a while, he will always return.

When he does come back, the man for you will show up consistently with the intention of moving forward you in a committed relationship with you.

Demand nothing less. You’re worth it!

Still asking yourself how to make him interested again? Check out this clever advice from world-renowned relationship expert, Amy North.

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Why a Guy Ignores You When He Likes You & What To Do

June 22, 2021

You met a great guy. You start texting back and forth. You go out on a few dates, and the chemistry is really good between you.

It feels like things are going really well..!

Then one day he doesn’t respond back to your text.

A day or two passes…

You wait…

You wonder if he’s sick, or maybe worse.

You text him, “Hey! How it’s going?”

Hours later, maybe he texts you back with an empty message, like “Hey! I’m good.” But there are no definitive plans being made.

Another day passes, and more crickets…

You wonder, what is going on?

Things were moving in a positive direction. So what in the hell happened? Did he meet someone else? Is he playing games? Does he have cold feet?

Nothing is more confusing than when a guy starts ignoring you and doesn’t reply to your texts.

Here’s what to do about it when this happens to you.

Why He’s Ignoring You When He Actually Likes You

Things Were Moving Too Quickly

Love has a tendency to sneak up on us when we least expect it, and it can be overwhelming for a lot of guys, particularly those who were only looking for something casual.

Maybe your guy wasn’t expecting anything serious with you but now he realizes that his feelings are more legit, and he’s just not ready to give you what you want at this time.

So instead of owning up to this fact, the emotionally immature man will do the fadeout.

If this is the reason behind your guy’s stonewalling, relationship expert Adam LoDolce recommends giving him space so that you both can decide whether this relationship is worth pursuing.

If he’s into you, he’ll eventually move forward — or at least let you know where he’s at. If he doesn’t, then you have your answer and it might be time to stop texting him.

P.S. You deserve someone who can tell you that!

He’s Afraid of Rejection

Everyone’s got emotional baggage, which makes them act out in dysfunctional ways. Maybe he’s ignoring you because he’s scared that you’ll reject him.

It might not make sense to you, but to him, ignoring you is a way for him not to deal with the intimacy and vulnerability that connection brings. This way he can avoid the fear and pain of rejection from his past.

If you genuinely like him, you might ask him straight up how he feels about you and ask him why he’s been distant while sharing your own vulnerability. Hopefully, this will open up a dialogue that will further connect you.

See also: Signs you’re pushing him away

He’s Busy (Really!)

As relationship expert Amy North, and creator of the Text Chemistry system, says in her YouTube video below, he could just be busy.

Life happens, and suddenly texting you back isn’t his biggest priority anymore. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or isn’t interested — he’s got other things going on.

If that’s the case, North says to cut him some slack and give it a day or two. If he’s into you, he’ll text you soon!

Get The Same Attraction Texts Amy Uses Here

He’s Playing it (Too) Cool

Call it the male ego, but some guys don’t want to seem too eager.

Your guy might be super interested but he wants to play it cool for whatever reason. This is akin to playing games, so if this is the reason, you might want to put the brakes on this connection yourself. However, when we play “cool” with our bravado it’s often to shield a soft underbelly.

If you’re into him, you could get curious about his behaviour and call him out on it while reassuring him that you like him too.

You Hurt His Feelings

This is a rare reason, says dating expert Brian Nox in his YouTube video below, “When a Man IGNORES You, here’s what he’s thinking.” But it does happen. So when a guy feels slighted by something that you said or did, he will retreat and lick his wounds, ignoring you in the process.

However, the reason for this will be clear to you, says Nox. Meaning, you won’t have to ask yourself, “What did I say?” Because you’ll know. So if you know you said or did something hurtful, reach out with a genuine apology. Too many relationships turn sour because an “I’m sorry” came too late.

You can see his short video here.

Final Thoughts

Being ignored doesn’t feel good. There are many reasons why a man who likes you might be ignoring you so try not to jump to conclusions.

If your feelings are legitimate for him, then it’s up to you to get curious about your guy’s behaviour.

Need a little help?

Check out North’s Text Chemistry system to get the exact text messages that make guys value their connection with you and want to text you back frequently.

No matter what happens, you deserve someone who will put you and your feelings first.

If he can be honest with what he’s feeling and thinking, then great! But if he can’t offer you a decent reason or explanation for his behaviour, or if he continues to ignore you, then it’s definitely time to move on.

20 Flirty Good Night Texts To Send Him & Why They Work

June 22, 2021

Sending goodnight texts to your new love interest is a sweet and flirty way of creating and maintaining connection and intimacy whether you’ve been dating for two weeks or two months, or are in a long-term relationship.

However, just sending a literal “Goodnight” text doesn’t make anyone feel the warm fuzzies inside. Which is why if you want to keep the spark alive between you, it helps to get a little creative with your goodnight text messages.

From flirty to sexy to sweet texts, there are many options to send to your love interest at your fingertips.

Need a little help? No sweat — here are 20 of the best examples of goodnight texts to help get you started.

20 Fun & Flirty Good Night Texts To Send Him

New Relationship Texts

If you want to stay on someone’s mind and ease the anxiety of early dating — because everyone wonders whether or not the person they’re dating is into them — then it’s a good idea to send a sweet-yet-simple goodnight text to your new squeeze.

Sending a “sweet dreams” message right before bedtime lets him know he’s the last person you’re thinking – and dreaming of which immediately cements a bond between you. Some examples to try tonight:

“I had a great time with you today. Have a great night, and can’t wait to see you again. :)”

“I hope you’re having a great night! Thinking of you. Nighty night!”

“Goodnight handsome! ;)”

“I hope you have sweet dreams and that all of them come true. Goodnight, cute person.”

Flirty Texts

Have you arrived at official relationship status? Sweet and flirtatious good night text messages are an easy way to let your lover know that you not only appreciate him but that you’re also still very much attracted to him.

As relationship expert Chris Vitale told Datzie when you reassure your guy that you’re into him, then his confidence immediately boosts and he will want to keep showing up for you. Plus, guys love it whenever you make dating fun. The less (unimportant) seriousness they have to deal with, the more they can relax and let their guard down to you. Why not try these flirty ones later?

“I can’t wait to fall asleep and dream of you tonight. Xx”

“My bed is so lonely without you. 🙁 Night night.”

“I’m imagining you lying next to me. Wish it was the real thing. Night, babe.”

“You’re probably getting ready for bed now…Just know that I’m thinking of you and only you. G’night sweetie.”

“Guess what? I’m wearing that cute nightie you love. Wish you were here to see it. Goodnight, babe.”

“Baby, I can’t sleep. I wish you were here to soothe me into slumberland…or maybe something naughtier. Miss your face. Night xo.”

Naughty Texts

Sexy texts are a great way to deepen your intimacy with one another whether you’ve done the deed or not. They’re also particularly useful when you find yourself in a long-distance relationship, or if one of you is away on vacation or on a business trip. Try these to spice up your love:

“I wish you could hold me tonight…and then make love to me all morning long. Night, baby.”

“FYI: I’m sleeping naked tonight. And thinking of you. And doing…other things. Sweet dreams.”

“I just wanted you to know that I want you so badly right now, and I can’t wait to be naked with you. I’ll be dreaming dirty dreams of us tonight. Xxx”

“Hi, baby. I was just thinking of that time we did [fill in the blank] and how HOT that was. Good luck going to sleep now! HAHA! Night night. ;)”

“Miss me? [send sexy selfie] Sweet dreams, baby.”

Committed Relationship Texts

According to a YouTube segment with relationship and dating coach, Amy North, and creator of the Texting Chemistry System, men tend to feel underappreciated by the women in their lives, which is why sending your guy a text that lets him know you’re so grateful for him is a great way to send him into sweet slumber. Some examples:

“I love and appreciate having you in my life. Sweet dreams, baby.”

“Thank you so much for your help with [blank] today. Your support really means a lot to me. Have a good night! Love you!”

“I know this sounds a little corny but I’m really thankful that we met. You’re the best, and you make me smile. Love you, babe. Nighty night.”

“I don’t want to go to bed without telling you how amazing you are at [blank]. Seriously, you’re the best, and I’m so grateful you’re mine. Goodnight, and I love you lots!”

“I’m just re-reading our texts right now, and I’m smiling ear to ear. You make me so happy. Goodnight, baby.”

Final Thoughts

So now that you’re armed with a number of amazing and romantic texts, there’s no doubt that you’ll be sending your sweetheart off into slumber with dreams of you and only you.

If you really want to send him texts that get his heart pulse racing for you and make him think of you and only you then check out Amy North’s Texting Chemistry System. Amy has taught hundreds of women how to build attraction and intense feelings of love and connection through her cleverly crafter psychological text messages. You can watch the video below to find out exactly how she does it.

There are simply hundreds of fun and flirty goodnight texts you can send him if you let your imagination run wild. However, by using Amy’s system you will be able to send text messages that speak directly to the pleasure centers in a man’s mind to trigger his attraction process for you.

How to Know When to Stop Texting a Guy

June 22, 2021

When you really like a guy, it’s hard to resist reaching out to him.

You see a funny GIF that cracks you up, you pass it along.

You know he has a nerve-wracking work presentation today, so you shoot him a “You got this!” text.

Basically, whenever he pops up in your mind (which is a lot), you always send him a little something.

While texting is a great way to connect with a new love interest, you definitely don’t want to come off as too clingy. Your enthusiasm might come from the right place but it could turn him off. So how do you know when to stop texting a guy?

Below are some of the most obvious signs that it’s time to take a break from pressing send. And if you need a little more help with texting, you also should check out dating expert Amy North’s Text Chemistry System, which will surely help get his attention in all the right ways.

7 Signs You Should Stop Texting a Guy

You Haven’t Heard From Him in A While

This is probably the biggest red flag…

According to relationship expert, Debra Rogers, if he was blowing up your phone one minute but now all you’re hearing is crickets, then that’s a huge sign that not only should you stop texting but maybe it’s also time to say goodbye.

You deserve a guy who’s going to give you as much attention as you give him.

You Always Text Him First

While there isn’t any hard rule as to “who should text who first”, there should be a healthy back-and-forth with your communication. If you find that it’s always you who’s initiating the conversation, then that’s a sign that you need to take a step back.

Even if he responds to your text messaging, you should be with a guy who acts like he’s interested in you, too. And trust me – if a guy’s into you, he will text you as much as you text him.

He Doesn’t Take the Conversation Anywhere

In order to maintain a connection, your communication needs to be insightful and interesting for both parties.

If he’s just replying with one-word answers to your text messaging and not asking you questions about yourself or doesn’t bother to steer the conversation forward, then Dating Tips 101 advises in this YouTube video below to stop texting him. It’s not solely your responsibility to keep the convo alive.

He Only Communicates With You Via Text

Yes, texting someone is super easy (a little too easy) when it comes to communication, but it shouldn’t be the only way you connect with your guy.

If he’s refusing to call you, or even make IRL plans to meet up with you, then that’s a huge sign that you should stop texting him.

You deserve a guy who wants to communicate with you intimately and in ways that will move the relationship forward.

See also: Ways to talk dirty through text

You’re Not Waiting For Him to Respond to Your Texts

“Double texting” is okay under certain circumstances, but it shouldn’t be the norm when you’re communicating with a new love interest.

Dating expert Amy North, who knows a thing or two about the texting and dating game, thanks to her Texting Chemistry program, advises that in the early days of dating, you should only text back a man after he responds to you. Otherwise, it can come off as desperate.

So, withhold from sending that third text in a row. Give him the space to respond to you. It’s only then when you’ll know just how interested he really is. So take a break from texting, and see what happens!

Amy has helped hundreds of women create a meaningful connection with guys and build the relationship they truly want to have through her methods. You can find out how she does it here.

He’s Avoidant When it Comes to Talking About the Future

Whether it’s making date plans for Friday night or talking about future plans in general, if he’s hesitant to confirm plans or he backs out at the last minute, then it’s time to stop texting him.

The truth is, he probably doesn’t see a future with you or want anything serious with you, and just doesn’t have the respect (or guts) to tell you the truth. Time to stop texting him!

Related article: What to text him to keep him interested in you

He Deleted You From Social Media

When a guy deletes you from social media, that’s a pretty big sign that he’s not interested in you and is either probably moving on with someone else, or just doesn’t want any sort of reminder of you, or both.

It’s a pretty harsh reality check, yes, but it’s also a clear message that he’s not worthy of your time – or texts – anymore.

Final Thoughts

If you’re experiencing any of the above signs, then you owe it to yourself to stop texting this guy. Because here’s the thing: it’s only when you stop texting him that you will know just how interested he is.

When you stop texting him and see what happens, you’ll know what his true intentions are. If he’s right for you, he’ll text back. And if he doesn’t? Then you know he wasn’t the right guy for you.

And if you need more tips on how to effectively text the man who is worthy of you? Then check out Amy North’s Text Chemistry System. You’ll never have to second guess your texting game again.

Double Texting & Second Texts – 5 Simple Rules to Play it Cool

June 22, 2021

You really like someone. And when you like someone, you want to naturally connect with them. So, in our modern dating world, that means, of course, texting.

While texting seems like a pretty easy way of communicating with our new crushes (sometimes a little too easy) because there are no hard and fast rules to it, there isn’t a set-upon etiquette of how to use texts “properly’ when it comes to dating.

However, one big No-No to avoid in the early stages of dating is “double texting.”

If you’re not familiar with double texting, it’s basically what it sounds like: it’s sending two text messages in a row to the same person (your crush) without waiting for them to respond back.

For some, receiving a double text is a big red flag.

Why..?

Because sending a bunch of blue messages can come across as too excitable and/or needy, especially in the early courtship days.

Instead, you want to come across as interested but not too interested, you dig?

Here are some basic rules when it comes to the double text so you can let them see your best self.

(P.S. if you need more help, then check out the Text Chemistry system by renowned relationship coach, Amy North. Her system teaches women how to create a strong sense of connection and attraction with guys through text messages.)

Double Texting Rules You Need To Know

Only Double Text If You Have a Good Reason

Texted a funny GIF and haven’t heard back in a day? Then chill your jets.

Eric Resnick, a dating coach and founder of Profile Helper told Elite Daily, said don’t do it unless you have very good reason to do so. Otherwise, he says, doing so only reads as a desperate move. But if you have something concrete to say, like, you’ll be late for your date or how much you’re looking forward to seeing them, then it’s all good to send the second text.

Consider What He’s Doing

There are a number of reasons why guys don’t answer text messages (which, by the way, is their least favourite method of communicating).

He could be at work. He could be at the gym. He could be out with his friends.

As Adam LoDolce says in his video about “7 Texting Mistakes that Turn Guys Off,” dating and texting is a patience game.

Wait it out.

Before you send a double text, stop for a second and consider that he’s probably genuinely busy and needs some space.

Realizing that his life doesn’t revolve around responding to your messages ASAP while also knowing that his response, or lack thereof, doesn’t necessarily reflect his feelings should help ease your mind (and control your fingers).

Just, let him come to you. It feels better.

You can check out Adam’s video here.

Don’t Get Passive Aggressive

If you haven’t heard back from your crush after a few hours (or days), Molly Fedick, editor-of-chief of Hinge’s advice blog, IRL, told Quartz that you want to refrain from playing petty games like sending passive-aggressive comments in order to get their attention.

So no “Where’d you go?” or “You’re a terrific conversationalist.” Just let it go until they respond. If they don’t, well, then that’s your answer. Move on.

See also: Ways to flirt with him over text

Why Are You Sending a Double Text?

Is it out of fear and anxiety?

Do you feel he’s about to ghost you?

Do you question the validity of his feelings?

Sending a text out of fear is never a good idea. It only comes across as needy and projects a bad vibe that he can definitely sense. If you have genuine concerns about your relationship, then your best bet is to refrain from a double text, wait another day to process your feelings, and call him.

Communicate your feelings.

From there, you can talk through what each one of you needs from your texting habits, and see how you can put one another at ease.

How Long Have You Been Dating?

When in doubt, consider how long you’ve been dating this guy. If he hasn’t replied back after your first date, and it’s been at least two to three days, then most likely he’s not interested, so you might as well skip the double text.

If you’ve been dating for a few months, then that’s a different story. He knows your texting patterns and you know his.

By now, there shouldn’t be any worry about who texted last or who didn’t. And if he’s freaked out by a double text after dating a few weeks? Then you might want to tell him, “bye-bye”.

Dating is stressful enough without being concerned about sending a double text to your boyfriend.

Final Thoughts

Bottom line: dating is hard, and worrying about double texting can make it worse.

While you definitely want to come across as your best self to a potential new love interest, you also want to remain true to yourself.

By following the above rules, you’ll feel more in control about your dating life, and therefore more confident.

Need more help? Then be sure to check out the Text Chemistry system by relationship coach, Amy North.

And if you want to send a double text because you really like this guy and feel good and secure about it? Then, by all means, go for it.

When it’s right between two people, there are no steadfast rules when it comes to matters of the heart.

5 Tips To Up Your Texting Game

June 22, 2021

Texting. We all do it. It’s instant, accessible 24/7 communication that also includes cute emojis – what could go wrong?

Well, unfortunately, plenty.

For many of us, we worry about what to text, when to text, the length of the text, and how much, or how little, should we flirt?

In the dating game, we want to build a memorable connection with the new cutie in our life, and since we’re all practically glued to our smartphones, text messaging is one of the most immediate ways we can do that with someone.

While there are no hard rules for texting, there are some simple tips that will help you stand out from the crowd and make texting less stressful and more fun.

Top Tips To Improve Your Texting Game

Be Positive with Your Texting

For a recent blog post on texting etiquette, dating coach and relationship expert, Amy North said that it’s important to keep your text messages positive.

Texting can be confusing at times because we can’t hear someone’s tone of voice, she says, which means it’s better to err on the side of keeping things light.

If you don’t know each other well, it’s especially important to keep things playful because you don’t know their texting style yet.

When in doubt, throw in an exclamation mark or a friendly emoji. And if you want to know more, you should check out North’s highly acclaimed program, Text Chemistry. It’s a highly effective system to attract a guy through texting, and certainly worth checking out if you crave more of a deep dive into the art of texting.

Don’t Forget to Flirt a Little (or a Lot!)

Don’t forget that texting is a perfect little tool for flirting with him.

Maybe you want to add a little anticipation for your weekend date. Shooting a message like;

“I can’t wait to see you on Friday night!” ? with a little heart-faced emoji can ignite his passion and yearning for you.

Maybe you’re thinking about him (which you probably are), so let him know!

Dating is supposed to be fun, so don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and spice things up a bit. Throw in that winking emoji and express your playful side.

If you’re really wanting to ramp things up to the next level and get his pulse racing for you then check out Amy North’s attraction text messages here.

Be a Gamechanger (Because You’re Valuable!)

Anyone who’s ever received a “hey” text knows how boring that is, which is why dating expert Matthew Hussey says to refrain from using dry text messages that don’t really say anything at all.

In his video, “3 Texting Secrets Men Can’t Resist,” Hussey says it’s important to add value to your text messages so that your intended recipient looks forward to your messages and appreciates hearing from you, which, in turn, means he appreciates you.

So, what is value?

Hussey suggests sending a funny picture or a GIF of a private joke between you.

Maybe you send a snap of the place where you went out on your first date or a link about his favorite band. Anything that instils connection.

You can catch Matt’s video here.

Ask Engaging Questions

You want to refrain from the “how was your day” or “how are you” messages. Why? Because it’s so easy to glance over a text and/or respond with one-word answers, which don’t move a relationship forward.

Instead, get more curious and initiate a conversation that’s engaging and interesting for both of you.

Instead, ask, “what’s the best thing that’s happened to you today” or “what’s your biggest goal this week?” and further cement your connection.

Avoid Using the Word “Just” and Instead Hype Yourself Up

The word “just” is one of those little words that you might not think too much about, but which actually speak volumes about your confidence.

Dating and relationship coach Mat Bogs wrote that texting someone, “Just checking in” or “Just wondering what you’re up to” screams unworthiness and neediness.

If you’re going to send someone a text, you should be deliberate and confident about it.

Instead of “just checking in,” he suggests sending something like, “Want to do something fun tonight?” or “I want to check out this new art exhibit with a few friends. Wanna join?” It shows your new crush you’re not afraid to take charge a little and you’re confident with who you want (and you want him, right?).

Final Thoughts

Text messaging doesn’t have to be anxiety-riddled or fruitless. In fact, when you keep it positive and confident while adding value to your new love (and maybe an emoji or two), you can help develop a deeper connection.

Now that you have a number of amazing texting tips at your fingertips, it’s time to get typing!

While you don’t have to try every item on the list for your first message, try out the one that feels the most natural to you right now.

If you really want to ramp up his attraction for you then check out these testing tips by Amy North.

Before you know it, your texting game will be on fire – just like your love life.

Are You Pushing Your Man Away? – 3 Huge Mistakes Women Make

June 22, 2021

So you met a guy and everything seemed to be going well between you. Or, at least that’s what you thought.

Then, as quickly as it had started it was all over and he was gone from your life.

We all know that when it comes to love and relationships, men and women think very differently. Anything from how to behave on the first date to when to sleep together, the perspectives are usually very different.

However, when a guy starts to pull away from a woman it’s usually for a very specific reason.

In this article, I am going to tell you about three BIG Mistakes that women are making that cause their man to pull away.

If you’re in a hurry and you just want to skip straight to the solution then watch this short demonstration video by relationship coach, Amy North. In this video, Amy shows you how to trigger a state of desire in a man’s mind more powerful than love.

While no two guys are exactly alike, they all have the same internal processes that cause them to feel states of connection, fascination, desire, lust and even love.

Once you know how to trigger these states of mind in your man at will, he will never want to leave you.

Now, without further ado, here are three BIG mistakes women make that push guy away.

3 Mistakes Women Make That Cause a Guy To Pull Away

Being Clingy

A clingy woman is one thing that I almost guaranteed to make a guy run for the hills.

Of course, it’s a good thing to show your affection to your man and let him know he’s on your mind. However, too much or too often too soon will make him feel smothered.

Eventually, he will want to regain his independence and that’s when he will start pulling away.

Don’t let him know that you have fallen for him too quickly. At the start of a relationship, men are always looking for fun and basically, just wanting to enjoy your company.

If you let him know that you’re already planning for the future, you will scare him away.

Whatever you do, remain cool, calm and collected.

If he senses that you want more from him than what he is willing to offer, he will eventually start pulling away from you.

Being Insecure

Research has shown that a staggering 97% of women are unhappy with her body at least once every day. However, you shouldn’t show your insecurities to your man if you are in a new relationship.

Yes, you can relax and talk about your gym routine or your healthy eating habits with him. Just keep the insecurities under wraps until the two of you are really close. However, even then, you do not want them to come into your relationship too much or it will likely put him off.

If you are constantly asking him if you look fat or nagging whenever he talks to an attractive woman, then you’re running the risk of ruining your own relationship. Once your insecurities come out in the open, there is no turning back.

Don’t push him away with your self-doubts. Rather, you should show him how happy and in love with life you and he will soon become more drawn to you.

Here’s a good trick to get started. Pretend that every date you go with your man is actually your first one. On your first date, you would never let him see the bad things about you. You need to be confident about yourself and he will sense it too.

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Showing Him You’re Unhappy Without Him

Yes, you might be happy when your man is around but after a while, he will also be able to sense the negativity if you go flat when he is not in the room.

If he finds out that he is the sole reason you are happy, he will eventually start pulling away.

This is because he will feel pressured to make you happy, which is not attractive to any guy.

It’s actually a huge responsibility for anyone, so don’t put that on him.

Rather than making him your sole source of happiness, you need to make the most out of your life.

Start by doing the things you love. If you are making yourself happy, you will not depend on him to remain content. Actually, it’s a good way to improve your relationship. Guys are attracted to women who have a passion outside of their relationship.

It can be playing the piano, singing, cycling or rock climbing. It doesn’t matter. If you have something else in your life besides him that makes your heart sing then he will love you all the more for it.

If you’ve read this far then you probably need as much insight as possible into what causes guys to pull away. I highly recommend you watch this short video by relationship coach, Amy North.

Here she tells you what causes guys to pull away from you and exactly what you need to do to spark a state of desire in him that will make him want to stick to you like glue. You can watch the video here.

Questions To Ask a Guy to Get To Know Him Personally

June 22, 2021

The beginning stages of dating come with many emotions and questions. While it is new and exciting to learn about someone, you often feel like you want to know everything about them and you want to know it fast!

However, it is also important to enjoy the process of getting to know someone.

Getting to know someone steadily over time helps to feed the flames of interest and intrigue.

If you find out everything about them too quickly, and similarly, they with you, then you may find the attraction starts to fade before you’ve established a strong connection.

With that said, in order to do get to know your new love interest effectively, there are a number of topics you can ask him to both understand and get to know him better.

7 Questions To Ask a Guy You Like

Ask questions about his family

Ask him questions to understand who is in his family, what the dynamics are, and how he speaks about them.

The way a man speaks about the people who are important in his life is extremely telling for how he will treat you if the relationship progresses.

When it comes to his female relationships, it is vital to pay attention to the way he describes his mother and any sisters or other female relatives and close friends.

It is also important to try to hear how the relationships are between him and those people. It is great if he describes his mother in a loving way, but if she is his pride and joy, she could become jealous of you.

If he describes her in an unloving way, it could be a flag that he does not have a lot of respect for women. There are hundreds of possibilities of social dynamics, so the more you ask and the more you listen, the more you will piece it all together.

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Ask questions about his friends

Who a person is friends with says a lot about them as a person. If he seems to have a lot of friends, but not many close friends, this can be a sign that he may have some walls up when it comes to getting close or some other struggles with formulating close intimate relationships with people.

Conversely, if he has a few close friends regardless of the number of friends who are not as close, it shows that he is good at formulating and maintaining relationships.

The way he talks about his friends also says a lot about him as a person. Does he speak highly of them? Does he tell you about their positive qualities? Or does he use a combination of descriptors, both positive and negative?

If he puts any of his friends down for any reason that is typically a red flag! It can show signs of insecurity and also that he does not have respect for his friends – which means he definitely won’t have respect for you.

Details about the friends themselves also tell you a lot of information. What do they do when they hang out? Do they watch sports and relax? Do they go out partying every weekend? Are his friends single or in relationships?

If his friends are mostly single and going out often, it is not a great sign for you. It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t want to settle down, but it will be difficult for him to balance friends who are in a different place with a relationship. However, if the majority of his friends are in relationships, it is likely that he is looking for that too.

Ask questions about how he spends his time

Does he have a variety of interests and hobbies? Is he constantly working or doing work when he isn’t? How does he like to spend his time? Does he like a lot of alone time, to be with others or a combination? What does he like to do for fun? Go out to eat, party, go to shows, stay in and relax, play sports, shop or perhaps play video games?

Getting an idea of how he likes to spend his spare time will also be very revealing. From this, you will get a sense if he is more introvert or extrovert and what kind of social skills he has.

Ask questions about travel

Asking him questions about where has he travelled is a fun and interesting topic of conversation and will also tell you a lot about his interests and experiences of life.

What have been his best and worst experiences when travelling and why? Asking about the most enriching, life-changing moments from travel will also give you a good insight into what is important to him on a soul level.

Continuing the conversation with questions such as where would he like to go and what the ideal vacation looks like to him will also give you a good idea of your travel compatibility with him.

Does he prefer to sit on the beach, party or relax on vacation? Or, does he like to sightsee, hike, and be adventurous? How do his travel plans or dreams align with yours? How are they different? Does he prefer to stay in 5-star hotels, or does he like to use Airbnb or stay in hostels?

Not only will these questions be very revealing of his character, but they will also help you to understand the compatibility you have with him.

Asking about his travel experiences, plans, and dreams, can give you a lot of information into how well-rounded (or not) he is, how flexible or rigid he may be, and how he spends (or doesn’t spend) his money.

Ask questions about his bucket list

What are some things he has already done? What else is on his list to do? Why are these important to him? What is something he would love to do, but is too afraid to try? What is it about the key moments of the things that he has already done on his list that made the experience so fulfilling?

Again, these kinds of questions help to reveal what is truly important to him at a soul level.

Questions about his goals and aspirations

Asking him about his goals will give you a good indication of his ambition and also his self-esteem.

If he has rather lofty goals, for example, then it can be a great indication of good self-esteem. However, if he has had that goal for years and has still not taken action to make it happen then he may be just a dreamer.

Getting an idea of both his personal and professional goals will tell you how career-orientated (or not) he is. It’s fine if a person has more personal goals than career goals, it just indicates that personal growth and fulfilment is more important to them than their career.

Asking him about where he sees himself in three, five and ten years time is also a great question to find out his ambition and aspirations.

Ask questions about his fitness

Health and fitness is a growing concern for the majority of people. However, there are also some people that just don’t seem to give a damn.

So, asking him questions about health and fitness is a great way to learn about how important this aspect of life is to him and will help you to further understand your potential compatibility.

Does he like to work out? What does he like to do to de-stress? What kind of self-care does he partake in? Is he open to new experiences or does he like to stick to his routine? Does he have a weekly fitness routine? What would he like to change about the routine he has and of course, what are his health and fitness goals?

Final Thoughts

There are many questions you can ask a guy to get to know him on a deeper level, to find out what makes him tick and to help give you an idea of your compatibility. And these seven conversation topics are a great place to start.

However, remember when you are having a conversation with someone new, don’t bombard them with a million questions all at once, or he will feel like he is being interrogated. It’s absolutely fine, in fact, it’s better not to ask all these questions and more on the first meeting. Spread it out over time and enjoy the “getting to know you” process.

Besides asking him questions to get to know him, always bear in mind that a good conversation is a two-way street. So share your experiences with him as well, so he can also get a flavour of you.

How To Seduce a Man With Your Words

June 22, 2021

Seduction plays a large role in the dynamic that helps two people initially build the attraction between each other.

A woman holds a great deal of power if she is able to communicate effectively. The way she engages herself, both verbally and nonverbally, will directly contribute to how attractive a man finds her. This, in turn, will build the attraction very quickly.

If you’re wanting to know how to step into your female power and seduce him in a way that makes him both feel respect and attraction for you, then this article is for you.

If you’re in a hurry and you just want to learn the secrets to seductive conversation then you can discover them here.

Otherwise, please keep reading.

9 Tips To Seduce a Guy & Make Him Want You

Nonverbal seduction sets the foundation for the energy between the two of you and the energy that you exude. If the nonverbal piece is not mastered, the verbal will just feel embarrassing and silly.

Nonverbal seduction includes, but is not limited to:

Body language
Smiling
Touch
Scent
Physical and spatial awareness
Eye contact
Posture
Facial expressions
Your overall presentation and confidence

While I could write quite a lengthy blog post on each of the above separately (and I probably will), know for now that each of these aspects is important ingredients in the overall seduction game.

I will now delve a little more deeply into these aspects fo your seduction toolkit. So, let’s start with your overall presentation and confidence.

Presentation and confidence

In order for you to effectively seduce a guy, you must first be confident in yourself. That being said, in order to first be confident in yourself, you must put conscious effort into your overall presentation.

We’ll start with looks:

How is your fitness?
Do you exercise regularly?
What are your eating habits like?
Do you follow the 80/20 rule of making healthy food choices 80% of the time and allowing for 20% of guilt-free indulgence?
What about your clothing choices?
Do you put effort into piecing together attractive articles of clothing to care for yourself and accentuate your best body parts?
What about your mental health?
Do you speak kindly of yourself in your mind and to others?
Are you humble, with a healthy balance of confidence and humility?

As you can probably tell, getting your life in order according to the above questions will not only bring about a renewed sense of health and well-being, you will also start to radiate a more happy, outgoing and confident aura, which is highly attractive to guys.

Body language

The way you present yourself physically speaks volumes about you before you even open your mouth.

If you were able to answer the above questions about your overall presentation and confidence in the affirmative, meaning that you have the above items in check, the next step is to look at your body language.

Do you stand tall and proud (again, without seeming cocky)? Or, are your shoulders and back slouching, indicating that you may have low self-esteem.

What facial expressions do you commonly wear? Are you relaxed, smiling and upbeat? Are you making eye contact when you talk to people?

Think about people who you find attractive and imagine their physical posture and how they carry themselves. They’re likely standing tall, proud, and open (arms at the side, legs separated), a warm, welcoming, cheerful face with a relaxed air about them.

Think about someone who you find unattractive, and they probably appear to be closed off, angry, mopey and depressed and generally unapproachable. Adjust accordingly to be like the person you find attractive and you’re well on your way to presenting yourself in a much more attractive way.

Hygiene and scent

Be sure to practice good hygiene. Use a perfume that is noticeable, but not too over-powering and try to choose a scent that is unique to you.

Be sure to practice daily oral hygiene and when you have something stinky for lunch, pop a piece of gum in your mouth. You never know when you might bump into that cute guy from the office or your secret crush at the gym.

Verbal seduction

When you’re trying to work your magic on a guy it is important to be playful and relaxed with it.

Being subtly or overtly flirtatious can be a lot of fun, especially when the guy starts playing back with you. Just keep it light-hearted and playful to start with and have fun with it.

Be conscious of your tone of voice as your voice tone will convey a great deal more about your intentions than just the words you use alone.

Think of a few key words or lines that you are comfortable using either in person, on the phone, or via text and email.

Also, allowing a little discomfort to push yourself beyond your comfort zone will improve your seduction skills and increase the sense of thrill you will feel when flirting with him.

Be playful

This may sound strange but think about some of your best friendships where you have a fun, playful banter between you and a friend.

If you can apply some of this playful energy into your seduction game, it will show that you are confident in yourself, you have a good sense of humour, you’re creative, unique, easy going, and carefree.

The last thing a guy wants is someone who is too serious or stuck up. But, be careful to find a balance here too because you do not want to come off as immature or that you can’t be taken seriously.

The key is to mix it up and switch your energy between being fun and playful to sincere. Doing this will make him more curious about you as it shows depth to your character.

Above all, stay present with him and read the social cues and learn when you can lighten the mood with a playful joke, and when you need to be serious.

Be aware of your tone of voice

Most people would agree that they do not like loud, screechy voices. A lower, calmer, softer, and even husky (but don’t try to fake that if you don’t have it naturally…) voice is what a man will be drawn to.

Give compliments, but not too many!

Everyone loves compliments as it’s a nice ego massage for them and it also shows that other people do also notice their efforts and good points.

Paying a guy a compliment also indirectly demonstrates to him that you’re not self-absorbed and you do take an interest in other people, which is, of course, an attractive quality.

So, paying attention to him and noticing things like when he puts the effort in to do his hair or wears something new is a great thing to compliment him on.

You can also compliment him on his scent, physique, his energy or presence, his posture and even his intelligence (if he has any).

Remember that all attraction starts and ends in the brain. You must have a connection in order for a physical attraction to formulate and remain.

Complimenting his mind, his humour or his creative edge will show him that you care to take the time to look deeper into who he is as a person.

However, always make your compliments honest and sincere. For example, if intelligence is not his strong point then don’t compliment him on it, or he’ll either think you’re being fake or you’re making fun of him. Instead, just choose something that he truly does have going for him such as his physique or his sense of humour and compliment him on that.

Final Thoughts

When you work on your overall presentation and body language first, you will be able to fine-tune all of the other nonverbal aspects that go into seduction. Once you feel confident in your nonverbal delivery, you can move toward utilizing the verbal skills and actual words!

If you want to have an exact playbook of what to say at every step of the way to seduce a guy with your words then I recommend you check out Conversation Chemistry by relationship expert, Mirabelle Summers.

What To Text a Guy to Make Him Want You

June 22, 2021

When it comes to texting, we ask ourselves a million questions – What should I say? Am I being interesting enough? Am I texting too much? How long should I wait to respond? Does he know I’m joking? Should I double text? Is it too early to message him? Should I text first..?

Below is a list of the best suggestions on how to text – including what to avoid.

How To Text a Guy To Get Him To Want You

Be interesting

Talk about your plans, your friends, your family, positives of work, the hobbies you have, events you’re looking forward to, and your interests. Share positive parts of your day and ask him about the positives of his.

Tell him about a fitness class you’re taking and ask what type of workouts he is into. Let him know you’re excited about an event in your city that you’re going to attend.

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Ask him open-ended questions

Do not ask questions that only allow for a “yes” or “no” response. The best way to do this is to share something about yourself within the conversation and then follow up on that same topic with an open-ended question.

For example, you can say something like, “I’m meeting up with a friend to get coffee on Sunday. What is your favorite go-to meeting spot to catch up with friends?” Or when talking about work you can ask would you rather type of questions like, “Would you rather sit in an 8-hour meeting without lunch or have to work on a Saturday for two hours?” (Assuming he and you work a normal 9-5). These types of questions are engaging, make you interesting, and help you to learn more about him.

Focus only on positives

A common and detrimental mistake they many people make is they don’t have anything to say so they resort to complaining. Do not get into this habit. Focus only on positive, funny, and lighthearted messages to share and do not allow yourself to become a sounding board for someone else to complain to.

If he starts complaining or focusing on negatives, redirect the conversation to something different or offers a shift in perspective by finding the positives in his situation. If you notice that he continues to complain, you may want to consider if these conversations should even continue.

Do not respond right away

Often times women think it comes off as “rude” when they don’t answer right away. This is simply not true. You are an independent, well-established woman who is BUSY with work, family, friends, errands, hobbies, and interests. The truth is that if you’re able to respond to every text or call immediately, you’re probably too attached to your phone and not engaged enough in the real world and relationships around you.

While it is not good to wait 3 days to respond, it also isn’t good to respond within seconds. Stick to the 80/20 rule. 80% of your time should be occupied and therefore you should be delayed in your responses (anything from a few minutes to later on in the day is acceptable).

Try to find a combination of responding within minutes, then within hours, and throw in some quick instant responses in between. 20% of your time is when you offer the instant responses.

Think of it this way: 80% of your time is spent: at work, the gym, food shopping, running errands, showering, cleaning, spending time with friends and family. 20% of your time is spent relaxing, watching your favorite shows, and sleeping. During this 20% of your time, it is okay to respond quickly. During the 80% respond within a comfortable time frame (a few minutes/a few hours). The idea is that you’re busy and you aren’t revolving your life around your phone – which is attractive! The opposite is unattractive.

Let him initiate

Most of the time. See how interested he is and if he can carry and maintain a conversation. Only share as much as you get. Do not overdo it or you are likely going to scare him away. Let him guide the flow of the conversation and be sure to provide responses that elicit continuation.

Do not text too much or repeatedly

Any typical person sees a novel of a text and becomes overwhelmed at the chore of reading and responding. Save the long thoughts and stories for your time in person! Similarly, do not double text or send multiple texts in a row. This makes you look too available and can also make you look annoying. If he doesn’t respond, cut your losses and move on, but not at the cost of your dignity.

Do not overdo the use of lol, lmao, Hahaha, or emojis

Use them appropriately and how they’re intended. Do not end every sentence with “lol” and unless you are actually laughing your ass off, don’t say it. Overuse of these texting tools makes you seem fake and uninteresting because you have nothing else to contribute in response to playful banter.

The beauty of texting is that you have time to think of a witty response! Utilize your time and utilize the gifs option for iPhones. Sending gifs is way more entertaining (and shows that you thought it through to create a clever response) than lol, lmao, hahaha, or a bunch of emojis ever will be.

Be yourself!

Keep the guidelines above in mind for your daily interactions, but do not allow them to add more stress to the situation. Texting with someone new should be engaging, exciting, and most importantly: fun! When you connect with the right person, all of those feelings will come naturally.

The most important thing you can do is to just be yourself and the right person will love you for who you are.