How To Tell If You’re Really In Love With a Guy

two people in love looking into each others eyesFalling in love is a beautiful experience. Throughout life, we go through multiple heartaches, disappointments, and confusing circumstances when it comes to romance, but falling in love makes all of those questionable, unpleasant experiences feel worth it.

Love can be easily confused with lust. Lust is when you are excited about the prospect of a person and you feel like you can’t stand to be away from them.

Love, on the other hand, has elements of that feeling, yet there are more specific feelings we have when we are in love.

The Telltale Signs You’re In Love With Him

Love is easy

Lust often has complications tied to it – you live far away, or it’s extremely passionate, but complicated because other people are somehow involved, or it’s secretive but fiery.

Love is not those things. Love is easy.

You do not have to wonder about how the other person feels for you and your feelings toward them are not complicated. It feels effortless. Over the course of time, “I” progresses into “we” and it feels non-threatening. It feels like this is the way it’s supposed to be.

They’re always on your mind

They are the first person you think of in the morning and the last you think of at night. You think of them all day throughout your day. You wonder what they’re doing, how their day is going. You consider them when navigating your own social endeavours. You consider their feelings even when they’re not around.

If they are always on your mind, it could just be lust, but if it lasts over a longer period of time, it looks like it probably loves.

See also: 7 ways to make him fall in love with you

You always want them to be part of what you’re doing

They enhance everything you do and make every experience funnier, brighter, and sweeter. You don’t care what you’re doing as long as they are part of it. You want to include them in on most of the things you do, yet you never feel pressured to include them. It’s a true desire for them to be there.

Sometimes you even feel like an experience is missing a small element due to their absence. However, if you always want to be part of each other’s plans and don’t allow for space or understanding of separate time, it could just be lust.

Related article: The 12 signs he loves you too

You have a healthy balance

Despite the fact that you always want to be with them and that you always want them to be included in on everything you do, you both have a happy balance of maintaining your lives, especially your social lives.

You still value the importance of quality time with friends, without your significant other and you do not sacrifice your friendships in lieu of wanting to selfishly be with your boo.

You find a happy balance of these situations. When you find a happy balance of quality time, then it’s probably love.

See also: The weird thing that makes him adore you

two lovers laying on the floor looking at each other

You want them to be happy and comfortable

If you are suddenly finding yourself considering their feelings with almost everything you do, going out of your way to make them feel comfortable (getting up early to make their coffee, going to the store on your lunch break to get the ingredients for their favorite meal, picking them up from the airport when it isn’t convenient for you etc.) you are in love.

It’s a true sign of love when you do things for another person for the sole purpose of knowing that it will make them happy.

It may not be convenient, or you may have to compromise something of yours, but you do it anyway because their happiness is important to you. When someone else’s happiness is just as important to you as your own, you’re in love.

See also: The things that make a guy fall in love with you

You are open to new experiences

Remember when you said you would never be a runner? Or you would never shoot a gun? What about when you thought you’d never eat steak?

Now that your new boo loves all of these things you’re finding that you’re more open to them too. You’re willing to expand your horizons beyond your comfort zone to try new things just because your partner is into them.

Pretty soon you start to synchronize everything. You start using the same catchphrases, sharing the same lingo, ordering the same food, becoming interested in the same shows and hobbies, and even dressing alike.

Studies of people in love find that over the course of time you become so synchronized that you actually start to resemble each other physically. So next time you and your boo match for a date unintentionally it might be a sign that you’re in love.

See also: The psychology behind how and why guys fall in love

You know you can trust him

Trust is an extremely vulnerable feeling because many of us have experienced situations where our trust had been compromised.

When you are in love with the right person you still may experience thoughts of doubt that creep in from time to time, but overall your gut tells you that you truly can trust him.

You just know in your soul that he would never do anything to jeopardize your relationship. This is a feeling that you truly can only experience when you are actually in love because when you are truly in love you are safe.

You feel better when you’re around him

Whether you had a stressful day at work or you have the flu, he somehow makes it all better. He helps you to relax, takes care of you, and loves you – boogery tissues and all.

Overall, if your relationship has a healthy balance, you feel that you can both completely be yourselves, and you both enhance and improve each other’s lives while feeling crazy about each other, but not actually acting crazy, you’re likely in love.

Enjoy this time and focus on gratitude to help these happy feelings stay with you for a lifetime!

How To Get Him To Fall In Love and Commit

a woman trying to get her man to commitSo often quality women feel “less than” because of the lack of validation from a man and they wonder – what makes a man commit?

If you are feeling like you are in this situation, continue reading below to understand the male psychology of love and get him committing to you and the relationship.

Work on being a whole, complete person

It is absolutely essential for you to take the time you need before being in a long-term relationship to make sure that you have healed from any situations of the past. Establish that you are comfortable being alone before you can ever start being in a relationship with someone else.

You must first be in a relationship with yourself to learn the things you love, the things you don’t, what your expectations are of those around you, what your boundaries and limits are, your interests, your strengths, and your weaknesses.

You must be complete without another person first. When you operate this way it will radiate through everything you do, which will draw the right men to you.

See also: Ways to make him fall in love with you

Be genuine

Being genuine goes such a long way in every relationship, romantic or not. When you have an ulterior motive, you will display signs of ingenuity and people will undoubtedly pick up on that. That’s why many women who find themselves being passive-aggressive have a tendency to push people away because it’s unattractive.

Being genuine doesn’t mean that you’re always rainbows and butterflies. It means you’re honest with yourself and those around you. There are no guessing games. You are straightforward with your thoughts and feelings without being aggressive or harsh about it.

People do not have to wonder about you or wonder if what you’re saying is actually what you mean because you say it how it is and you do so with style, class, and elegance. Most men hate guessing games and they hate passive-aggressiveness.

Just be straight to the point and he will appreciate your sincerity and conviction, even if it might not be what he wants to hear.

Related article: 12 signs your man really loves you

Be kind

This concept is wildly underrated. Just be nice! Don’t be too nice to the point where you’re walking around like Polly-Anna seeming fake, but remember that kindness goes a long way. Speak to everyone you encounter with respect and dignity.

Treat others equally, regardless of their status or “significance”. Just be a nice person. Be caring and supportive, understanding and validating. Don’t overdo it and don’t act in a way that feels unnatural.

Make the choice to display kindness and make sure you first are kind to yourself! A healthy, well-adjusted man will always be drawn to a warm, kind, loving woman because kindness is nurturing and represents care-taking and support.

Related article: This strange thing makes him adore you

Be independent

He wants to take care of you and he will, but he knows he doesn’t have to.

This is an extremely attractive quality for a man in today’s day and age because it makes him less pressured to have to take care of both himself AND you.

When he knows that he is with a strong, independent, self-sufficient woman he can rely on you too.

This is the ideal team relationship for two people. However, the more independent you are, the more he will WANT to take care of you and court you – be sure to let him do this. If you are TOO independent, it can be considered as “too masculine” for him, which can be unattractive.

Let him take you out, open the door for you, show his chivalrous side, pay for dinner, take you shopping, etc. But, make sure he knows that you can do all of those things on your own and you appreciate his wanting to do them for you instead.

a couple in a committed relationship

Show interest

Show interest in his family if he introduces you, in spending time with his friends, in hearing about his hobbies and his interests. When men feel like you care about the things that are important to him, he will see the value in you.

Again, make sure that you are genuine about this because if you truly don’t care, he will eventually see through that and it’ll crush his ego.

See also: What men want in a relationship

Set expectations and boundaries

Set expectations and boundaries in a considerate, respectful way. One of the most attractive qualities in another person is their ability to establish and communicate their expectations of themselves and others, as well as their boundaries that they set.

Expectations and boundaries are extremely important to establish, yet people often do not consciously do so. It is important to know what you will and will not tolerate and what you expect (reasonably) from others.

Someone who possesses this knowledge is attractive in his or her confidence. However, keep in mind that being TOO firm can also work against you.

While it is essential to stay true to values, it is also important to be flexible without compromising your integrity.

Related article: Keeping your man interested long-term

Be open

Be open with yourself and the relationship. Be open to trying new things, learning and having new experiences. Not only is this a great quality to have individually as it will help you to grow and become more well-rounded, but it is also a great quality that makes you more attractive.

When people are too rigid, they are often viewed as insecure or difficult. Being open is beneficial to you as an individual and it is also helpful in attracting the right kind of person for commitment.

While it is important to work on yourself and be flexible and open-minded, it is also important to protect yourself from people who have their own situations to work through that are separate from you, despite your greatest efforts.

Know your value, continue to improve your worth by refining yourself in every aspect, and most importantly: know when to walk away. Be proud, be confident, and protect yourself when someone is not able to commit because of issues that have nothing to do with you.

How To Pull Away From A Guy You Love

a woman hugging her boyfriend while she thinks how to pull away from himIf you are finding yourself in a situation where you are in love or have strong feelings for another person, but you feel intuitively or logically that this is not the right person for you, you may need to pull away. However, pulling away is easier said than done and it can be a challenging, and often time-consuming process.

Despite the difficulty this situation presents, it is imperative to remember that you are in control of your own life and it is up to you to make the conscious choices to better your life, even if that means enduring the heartache that comes along with it.

If you feel that you are in need of some guidance to help you to pull away from a guy who you know is not good for you or who you know there is no future with, continue to read below for some suggestions on how to help in this process.

Steps To Take To Pull Away From a Guy You Love

Step back and take a look at the relationship

Take a look at your life and how this relationship is impacting you. Is it enhancing your life? Are you learning and growing for the better? Chances are that if you are reading this, your relationship is adding stress and turmoil into your life. This in and of itself is reason enough to consider leaving.

While any healthy relationship is bound to have its challenges, a relationship of CHOICE (romantic, friendship, etc) should still always be enhancing you and your life. If you are experiencing uncertainty, anxiety, feeling “less than”, or any related feeling on a typical basis, it is time to leave the relationship behind.

See also: Why men may pull away from a relationship

Identify your reasons for why you need to pull away

Take the time to ask yourself the following questions:

  • Are you acting like someone you are not?
  • Are you feeling like this is not the right relationship for you?
  • Do you feel that this relationship is unhealthy?
  • Do you feel like you’re just an option to this person?
  • Are there other circumstances in his life that are preventing you from being together?
  • Are there circumstances in your life that are preventing you from a future with this person?

Understand what your reason is as this will be extremely important to hold onto, especially during the moments of doubt.

See also: The 3 mistakes that make men pull away

Make the conscious choice to distance yourself

a man and a woman sitting on a bed thinking of their relationship problems

How you decide to do this is up to you and it is up to you and your style if it makes sense to distance yourself slowly or all at once. For some, cutting a person off completely at one time is the “easier” way to go – deleting from all social media, blocking numbers, etc. However, others may find success with slowly weaning someone off.

One specific way you can slowly wean someone off is to become conscious of the time you are putting into interacting with this person on a daily basis and minimize that time.

For example, say your average communication entails speaking on the phone 3 times a day for 20 minutes each call and then you spend approximately 30 cumulative minutes texting or checking social media.

Put a number to your time – on day one of your weaning process, start with limiting your phone calls to 2 a day at 15 minutes each, and then about 20 minutes cumulative in texting and social media (based on the example I just gave you).

On day two, decrease to 1 call at 15 minutes and 15 minutes of cumulative texting and social media. On day three, decrease to 1 call at 10 minutes, 10 minutes of texting.

Keep slowly adjusting and decreasing the time you are spending in communication until you are comfortable enough to cut it off. This will help to establish a specific goal and hold you accountable.

See also: Tips for breaking up with your boyfriend nicely

Get comfortable with the idea of being alone

Being alone is a scary concept, at first. But, it is absolutely essential to your growth and your overall well-being after a breakup. A common mistake that many people make in relationships is that they jump from one relationship or one person to the next, without allowing time and space between each relationship to heal and to truly be alone.

While potentially uncomfortable, this is an essential step in the process because it allows you the time to work on healing, while also removing the risk of carrying baggage into a new relationship. Would you want someone to do that to you? Likely not. It is important to come to terms with the idea of being alone, for a while.

Allow yourself to feel your emotions and to sit in each one as they come and go. If you feel upset, feel that way. If you feel angry, feel angry. If you feel anxious, worried, happy, totally fine.. feel however you feel and allow the emotions to come and go, but do not allow yourself to live in each one.

Related article: How to heal after a breakup

In any healing process, it is extremely important to allow yourself to process the emotions that you are experiencing and to feel each one instead of trying to push them away because of the discomfort they may bring. Despite the difficulty you are experiencing, this is a time of opportunity for growth.

Spend time with yourself as you process these feelings and utilize the practice of yoga and meditation to help you with this. As you turn within, you will continue to work toward healing and making yourself stronger.

Spend time on self-care. Make sure you are eating healthy, exercising regularly, drinking plenty of water, and getting enough sleep. I would also recommend practising yoga and meditation, spending time alone, connecting with friends, listening to music, going for walks, travelling, writing, reading a new book, seeking therapy if needed, being mindful while at work, and taking up a new hobby.

Make sure you create a healthy balance of alone time and mindfulness, but also keeping busy with healthy outlets to help you heal through this process.

See also: Core reasons guys pull away before commitment

Final Thoughts

Making the decision to pull away from a relationship is always difficult. Remember though that if a person is not adding value to your life, or if a relationship is making your life more complicated, you must consider if this person is worth the time and difficulty. Chances are, they are not. If you are in this situation, follow the steps above to help you work toward your healing process.

Signs That He Really Loves You

a couple in love holding handsDo you feel ready to take your relationship to the next level, but you’re just not sure if he really loves you?

Sometimes we get caught up in what this or that sign means, but when it comes to falling in love, the signs are usually pretty clear.

Men and women tend to think differently when it comes to love, which can mean love is expressed differently between the sexes.

While no two guys are exactly the same, there are predictable signs that will let you know he has truly fallen for you.

Here in this article I share the 12 most common signs that mean he’s smitten.

Before reading on, it’s worth knowing that the common general consensus around falling in love, that it just happens by chance and we have no real control over it, is all wrong.

Falling in love is a state of mind with predictable feelings and triggers.

While no two people will fall in love in exactly the same way, the triggers are still the same. When you combine these triggers with a little knowledge of the person in front of you, you can trigger the attraction process in his mind and lead him to fall in love.

Usually, this process is completely left up to chance, because most people don’t even know it exists. However, if you know how to activate the love triggers then you can set off a cascade of emotions within his mind and body that he will associate strongly with you, as relationship expert James Bauer explains here.

How To Tell If A Man Loves You

He Says Words

Saying “I Love You” does not necessarily mean that he does, even if he said the words first.

A lot of guys (not all) will say just about anything to get you into bed, and if a woman is really into him, then she may respond to these three words.

So look beyond the words to determine whether it really is love or if he just has an agenda.

Alternatively, if you said these three little words first, then some guys will just say it back because they don’t want to hurt your feelings, or they don’t have the balls, to be honest with you.

This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you. He may like you a lot, but is not sure if he actually loves you or not. He may just not have thought about it yet. So he says he loves you because he doesn’t want to ruin the good thing that you guys currently have going.

So how do you tell if he really means it when he says these words?

It doesn’t matter who says it first, what matters is the emotional content in his words when he says it to you. When a guy says they love you and the really do, you should notice a presence with his words along with sincerity and a sense of vulnerability.

Guys don’t like feeling vulnerable. They see it as a weakness. So if he is being vulnerable with you, then it means that he is really into you in a big way.

If he’s not pouring his heart out to you yet, don’t worry, this is not the only sign he loves you.

Related Article: This Weird Thing Makes Him Adore You

a couple having fun at the beachIt’s Like He’s Your Best Friend

Most long lasting relationships are based on an underlying friendship that results in a much deeper more meaningful love. If you are his best friend, as well as his, lover then he does really love you.

However, if you are his only friend, then he may simply be trying to fill a need by being in a relationship with you.

He Makes You Happy

If he truly loves you, then he will want to make you happy. In fact, your happiness would be a primary concern to him, and he will do just about anything to make you smile or hear you laugh.

This includes partaking in activities that he doesn’t really enjoy, going places he doesn’t like or putting up with your friends and family who he doesn’t get along with.

If he is willing to do any of these things for you, then there is a fair chance that he loves you.

Also see our article: What Makes A Man Fall in Love?

His Body Language

Body language is a subconscious form of communication that we are often unaware of. Watch him and see how he looks at you. If he simply cannot stop staring, it may just be lust. But if he gives you those puppy dog eyes, it is probably love.

Also, when you are talking does he give you his full attention and is genuinely interested in what you have to say?

If he only has eyes for you and doesn’t seem interested in any other women in the room, it is a sign of love. He should also want physical contact no matter where you are whether it is holding your hand or sitting close enough so that accidental contact is a given.

Related article: How to make your man fall in love with you

Your Feelings

You shouldn’t have to talk to him about how you feel, he should just know. From your body language, facial expressions and behaviours, he should be able to identify what emotional state or mood you are in.

This doesn’t just apply to negative emotions. He should also be able to determine when you are happy, excited or in the mood for love.

When two people have a deep connection, they are also in tune with each other’s emotions and can sense on some level how the other is feeling.

a couple with a great connection

You’re Involved In His Life

How involved does he make you in his life?

It’s fair to say he most probably loves you if he includes you in every aspect of his life and talks about everything with you.

Does he also let you in on his schedule and doesn’t make plans or arrangements without letting you know? If so, then it’s because he really wants you to be a central part of his life. Guys don’t do this if they’re not in love.

You Miss Each-other

If he loves you, then he should be missing you and think about you when you are apart.

Whether you are apart for a few hours or days at a time, he should express that he can’t wait to see you. How he behaves when you are re-united after a period apart is very telling. If he hugs you and kisses you and then takes the time to talk to you and listen to you, it’s love.

He Remembers What’s Important To You

He knows your favorite color, music, movie and other preferences. A man that takes the time to get to know your likes and dislikes has a vested interest in you and the relationship which is a definite sign of love.

Being attentive to your likes, needs and wants shows that what is interesting and important to you is also important to him too.

See also: How To Break Up With Him Gently

You’ve Meet His Friends and Family

If he wants to introduce you to his family and friends, he is probably in love with you. However, the way he introduces you is also important so pay attention to this.

If he loves you, he won’t be afraid to tell people. In fact, if he really cares, the people who are important to him will know all about you before your first meeting. If he talks about you all the time, his feelings probably run deep.

Related article: The Psychology of Making a Guy Fall in Love

The Cuddle

Women aren’t the only one’s who like to cuddle in bed. Men also like a good cuddle but prefer to do so with someone that they love.

If he holds you in his arms while you sleep, then he definitely has strong feelings for you. Watching you while you sleep is also another sign to look for. Of course, you won’t know unless you wake up and catch him staring at you, or he tells you.

a surprise mealHe Cooks For You

Even men who aren’t that good in the kitchen will make an effort to cook for a woman they love. However, if cooking is his passion, then this may just be something he does so don’t read too much into it in this case.

If your guy brings you breakfast in bed, then it is an even stronger sign that he loves you and wants you to stick around.

How much attention and care does he put into preparing the meal for you? Perfecting your favorite meal is a sure sign that he is not just in-love but loves you.

He’s There For You

He loves you enough to cancel his plans to be there for you when you need him. Even when you don’t need him but just want him around, he is willing to sacrifice other time to be with you.

However, it is important that you don’t take this for granted and be too demanding of his time, or resentment may soon follow.

Sometimes you don’t need any signs that he loves you-you just know!

Final Thoughts

There are multiple signs that mean a man is in love with you. You don’t need to see all 12 of the signs in your relationship to know he loves you for sure.

Men are complicated creatures. They work hard to maintain their stoic demeanor and put on a tough exterior, but they can be surprisingly sensitive when it comes to love. Love is not always the easiest of emotions for them—it’s often confusing or frightening.

There are predictable triggers in a man’s mind that can spark the feelings of attraction, desire and love. Knowing how to ignite these triggers can set off a cascade of emotions in his mind and body that he will strongly associate with you. You can learn exactly how to trigger his love process here.

How To Save a Long Distance Relationship From Falling Apart

two people in a relationship on a beachLiving apart as a couple does not necessarily have to mean that your relationship is inevitably doomed. With the realities of living in a very mobile world, many couples are forced by circumstances to live apart.

This often comes about due to work issues, or simply moving towns after finishing college.

If things now don’t seem to be going to well, and you want to know how to save a long distance relationship from falling apart, then there are a few things you can do to help keep the romance alive.

If you find yourself in such a situation, don’t worry, there are several things you can do to make the relationship work if that’s what you are both really wanting.

It’s very feasible to maintain healthy long-distance relationships regardless of the distance that separates you two. However, it will take effort from both of you to keep the love alive and flowing. On your part, you can take these steps to ensure that your love remains alive.

How To Save a Long Distance Relationship From Falling Apart – 5 Tips To Make It Work

Not being able to see your loved one in person on a regular basis is tough. However, it certainly does make us appreciate those times when we can get together all the more.

Here are five tips that can help you to maintain the closeness and connection while apart.

Regular Communication

Maintaining good communication between the two of you is essential. Use every available means including emails, phone calls, social media and letters. “Letters?!” you say, “in this day and age..?!”

Yes, the occasional handwritten letter can really lend a more meaningful and heartfelt touch to your message and will let him know that you care enough about him to take the extra time to also write to him.

According to psychologists, a handwritten letter in blue ink subconsciously conveys more feeling and warmth in your message than any other choice of color, so make sure you write your love messages in blue ink!

Skype and FaceTime are also great ways to stay in touch and maintain that personal connection, as you can see and interact with your partner in real-time. Having scheduled times each day or every couple of days to speak with your partner can help to sustain your relationship and give you both something to look forward to.

Besides talking about the mundane day to day things in life, also ask him about his dreams and aspirations and share with him how you are getting along with some of yours. While talking about these more personal aspects of your lives, make sure that you include him in your visions of the future so he feels that you do still want him in your life long-term.

You don’t need to make blatant statements that you what him around in the future, often implying that this is how you feel can come across much better.

Of course, with communication, you will also want to keep the spark and the sexual attraction alive. Spend some time talking about more intimate things, how he makes you feel when you think about him and what you want to do to him the next time you see him.

Talking in this way will help you both to feel that spark and passion between the two of you and keep the fires burning until the next time the two of you meet.

Communication is one of the keys to get your boyfriend to fall in love with you and stay in love.

See also: Signs he still wants a relationship with you

Phone Sex

phone sex with your boyfriend in a long distance relationship Phone sex is also a great way to keep the passion alive if you are in a long-distance relationship. If you’ve never had phone sex before, we definitely recommend giving it a go, it can be surprisingly erotic and quite a turn on!

A lot of people may feel nervous and not know how to talk dirty over the phone if they have not done it before. However, it can be fairly easy to get into a more steamy conversation by firstly asking him what he is wearing and then telling him about what you would like to do to him if you were there with him.

Trust me, guys love to hear these things from their girlfriend, and you will be surprised at how quickly you can get him all hot and bothered, and wanting you. As you climax together on the phone you will both feel a stronger connection to each other, similar to when you make love with him in person.

Sharing these intimate moments on the phone can help to deepen your feelings of closeness while you are apart and will give you something naughty and fun to think about and look forward to the next time you talk.

If you are not sure what to say to a guy to get him hot and turned on and wanting you, or if you feel nervous at all about phone sex then check out a simple course called the Language of Desire.

The Language of Desire helps women to quickly learn how to talk to a guy on a more intimate level and to make him feel sexually obsessed with you, all through just using your words.

woman on the phone to her boyfriendKnowing this secret language will enable you to keep him in your life long-term, stop him from straying while you are not around and make him more attracted to you than he has ever been before.

One of the biggest fears for women who are in a long-distance relationship is the thought that he will start seeing other women if you are not around.

This fear largely comes down to not being able to satisfy your man how you would do normally when the two of you are together.

However, with the Language of Desire, you will be able to not only keep him satisfied until the two of you are together next, you will also be able to get him thinking about you when you are not around.

You can find out more about the Language of Desire here.

Take Things Easy

Being in a long-distance relationship is hard enough without excessive worrying. If you start worrying excessively, things might turn for the worse.

In a long-distance relationship paranoia can soon set in if you are a person who tends to worry. However, paranoia is never good and will only bring out the worst in you.

Acting paranoid too often and questioning your boyfriend unnecessarily will cause you to look needy and only push your boyfriend further away from you.

If you do genuinely have concerns then voice them to your partner in a calm way without any emotion involved. If you’re feeling anxious or paranoid before you speak to him, take some time to meditate and de-stress before you speak.

Even little things can trigger anxiety. Missing one phone call, for example, should not spell doom for your relationship, and therefore, you should not worry about it too much.

Related article: 6 things you can do to keep him interested when in a long-distance relationship

Enjoy Your Time Apart

To make long-distance relationships work, you should try as much as possible to enjoy both your time together when you do get it, and your time apart-

When you are together, make every moment count and only let him see your good side. Give him as many reasons to love being with you and look forward to your next meeting as possible.

However, the time will come when you will inevitably be apart, so do your best to fill your life with fun things you love to do alone and with friends. Having lots of fun things to occupy yourself with will help to take your mind off of him while you guys are apart.

Furthermore, if you are constantly doing things you love, you will likely be a far happier person, which will reflect on your boyfriend when you speak to him. Studies have shown that happy and upbeat people are far more attractive to their partners.

See also: What men really want in a relationship

Be Understanding

The good thing about being in a long-distance relationship, is there are few chances of engaging in arguments and disagreements.

However, you should try as much as possible to avoid unnecessary arguments. One thing to keep in mind is that long-distance relationships take longer to mature.

Wherever possible, schedule dates where the two of you can meet up and spend some quality time together. Really make this time count. Plan exciting days out together when you do meet and of course, spend plenty of time being intimate together and connecting in that special way.

Developing an emotional bond with your boyfriend in a long-distance relationship is not as straightforward as it would be with up-close and personal relationships. Be patient, you can make this work if you both really want to.

The key is for both of you to first agree that the relationship is worth it and then moving forward together.

If you see yourself spending the rest of your life with your boyfriend then you may want to discover how to get him to propose to you here.

Final Thoughts

Maintaining a long-distance relationship is not easy, but it can be done. Many couples in this situation find it a great help to reframe the situation in their mind, and enjoy the extra time that they have by themselves. Besides this, of course, maintaining regular, open and honest communication is highly important if you want the relationship to last.

Wherever possible find ways for you and your partner to have fun together across the distance. Having regular, fun conversations over the phone or Skype is a great way to keep the connection alive. And, of course, we all have needs and desires to be fulfilled. So, scheduling a regular phone sex session on a weekly, fortnightly (or whatever works for you) basis will give both of you something to look forward to. After all, phone sex is a fun and exciting way to keep the flames of passion alive while you can’t be together!

If you want to know how to turn him on like crazy and sky-rocket his attraction for you, even when you’re apart, then check out The Language of Desire here for more info.

If you still need more info on how to save a long distance relationship from falling apart, then this guidance from relationship expert Amy North may be the missing key ot ave your relationship.

How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Fall In Love With You Again

woman trying to get her ex boyfriend to love her againIf you have been missing your ex-boyfriend and now want to know how to make your ex boyfriend fall in love with you again, you should know that getting him to love you may not be the most difficult part.

The trick will also be your ability to keep him once you have him back in your arms.

When you stop to think about it, this is something that should go hand in hand, and once you have a clear plan for getting him to love you again, you need to work on keeping him around. After all, he was out of your life so it could happen to you again if you are not careful.

With that being said, you may have your work cut out for you when it comes to getting your ex-boyfriend back. It is important that you take a step back and look at the relationship so that you can pinpoint what may have gone wrong.

From there, you also want to make sure that you are ready to go back into the relationship. The fact of the matter is that a lot of women need to understand that if they are not happy with themselves, they may have a difficult time being happy in any relationship.

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How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Fall In Love With You Again In 6 Simple Steps

Most relationships can be best summed up as a roller coaster where you have some amazing days and some tough days. No couple is perfect, and there will always be disagreements or even downright blowouts. It is going to be a matter of the two of you learning how to work past the differences so that you can gel back together again.

The first thing that you need to know when trying to get your ex-boyfriend to fall in love with you is that the trick of absence makes the heart grow fonder does not work for everyone.

See also: Getting Over The Breakup

Focus on you

Firstly, one of the most important things to do is to start focusing on you and building your self-esteem. You want to avoid any situation of you completely feeling desperate or needy towards your ex by begging or pleading for them to get back with you. That behaviour will only push then farther away.

Instead of sitting around thinking how sad you are that the two of you are not together, go out and start enjoying your social life, meet up with friends and enjoy the freedom that you have.

Establishing that you have a life away from your ex and not being needy is one of the quickest ways that you can start to make yourself more attractive right away.

Related Article: The strange thing that makes him adore you

Move beyond any negativity from the past

Even though you need to take care of yourself and your needs, don’t avoid the guy that you want to be with thinking that you are going to teach him a lesson. Some guys may take this as a sign of immaturity, so the best thing to do is remain cordial and friendly.

That way you can increase your chances of being able to meet up with him one on one to have a light conversation that will remind him of why he loved you in the first place.

Get your mindset right before meeting him

Whether you were in a serious or casual relationship with him in the past, you need to come to the realization that this old relationship is currently dead and in the past. A lot of women will make the mistake of feeling as though they can hop right in and pick up where the old flame left off.

The main goal should be focusing on getting your ex back and then building up a new and better relationship.

As you start to talk with your ex again, if it comes to meeting up somewhere in person, you want to be your sexiest self. This may mean wearing something simple like yoga pants and a t-shirt if that is something that you know he loves to see you in.

Remind him of why he loved being with you in the first place and make a conscious effort to smile as much as you can.

Recall positive memories

When you’re with him, casually draw his mind back to the happy times the two of you shared together. Bring up positive memories and feelings of things that the two of you loved doing together. Getting him to recall the positive emotions that he felt around you when times were good is a great place to take him.

Flirt a little

Yes, it’s ok to flirt a little with your ex if you are trying to win them back. Flirting is not only fun for both, but it will also help to trigger some primal urges in him that will make him want to reciprocate.

Some flirtatious eye contact and playful touching can go a long way to making him feel like he wants to be around you more.

Once you have established good rapport with your ex after the first meet up, you can even start to use your text messages to help you re-build that connection. The key here is to first establish good rapport before you start sending him texts to make him want you.

Get him to remember being intimate with you

Subtly getting him to remember being intimate with you can be a great way to get him to remember how good it was with you before. The trick is to do it in a way that he doesn’t directly realise that that’s what you’re trying to do.

A subtle way to do this is to bring up a great memory that you guys share from the past, an experience that also lead to sex after.

Bringing up the preceding event in a casual way will cause him to not only remember that experience, but it will also cause his mind to run through and complete the event in his mind, which will lead to the sexual experience that you both had together.

Make sure you choose an experience that lead to tender loving and meaningful sex and not just a quickie!

You will be able to tell if he is running through the experience in his mind as his eyes will be subtly darting up and across and then back to you as you’re talking. This means he is processing and watching the images in his mind.

Allowing him the brief time it will take to process the images will allow the memory and the feelings to come to the surface, so don’t interrupt him at this time and just wait for him to speak next.

Final Thoughts

Getting back with your ex isn’t easy, and making him fall in love with you again can be a tricky task to accomplish. There can be hurt and animosity on both sides, so you will need to work through that with him first if you stand a change at getting back together.

There are some vital steps you must take and, also some crucial ones you absolutely need to avoid if you’re going to have any chance in getting back with him and making him fall in love with you again.

Without these key steps, getting him to love you again will be almost impossible. For the complete guide go here.

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