Fun Ways To Keep A Guy Interested Through Texts

a woman trying to keep a guy interested through textThe dating world can already be a complicated place and now we have the added element of texting and social media to (sometimes) make dating seem more difficult.

If you are dating and finding yourself unsure of how to communicate via text, I’m about to help you out in this article.

If you’re in a hurry then you can watch this video by renowned relationship expert Amy North, and get the exact text messages that will build a connection and make him want you.

Be open to the concept of blackout times

One of the biggest mistakes that people make when they start texting someone new is they instantly become a texting slave, being at the other person’s beck-and-call. This is not only exhausting for you, but it is unattractive.

While I do not support playing games, I do support having a savvy strategy. Blackout times in the texting world means that you go through periods of times where you DO NOT text at all. You do not initiate and you do not respond (or depending on the situation, you may respond, but you take a while too).

The most common blackout times are: during the majority of the workday, on Friday nights (unless you scheduled a date with the person you’re texting), arguably all day on Saturday (day and night; again unless you scheduled a date), and Sunday up until about 6 or 7 pm.

Heres the theory: during the work day, you have responsibilities and even if you can be on your phone all day, it will make you more attractive if it seems like you are so busy and needed at work. You don’t have time to be glued to your phone – which is a good thing! It makes you seem busy and interesting.

On the weekends, you have plans with friends. Unless you have plans for a date in which case texting may take place to confirm or coordinate logistics, you are NOT on your phone. You are present with whoever you are spending time with… and if realistically you are home on your couch, there is nothing wrong with that.

What is key is pretending like you aren’t sitting around thinking about that person. Keep yourself busy and interesting (or pretending to be) so he will wonder what you’re up to!

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Find a healthy balance

Find a healthy balance of waiting to respond versus responding immediately. With the idea that you are busy (either at work because you’re important or in your social life because you’re loved), chances are that you are not going to respond within seconds.

A healthy balance to keep in mind is 80/20. 80% of the time, wait a bit to answer and have your waiting periods vary from a couple of minutes to a couple of hours. 20% of the time you can respond immediately or pretty quickly.

Keep in mind that when you do wait, try to switch it up and try not to exceed a long period of time often. Think of it this way: respond in two minutes (20% of your time), respond in 15 minutes (80% of your time), respond in 2 minutes (20%), respond in 45 minutes (80%), respond in an hour (80%), respond in 20 minutes (80%), respond in 2 minutes (20%).

Make your patterns unpredictable, but don’t overthink it. The truth (hopefully) is that this comes easily because you are hopefully actually busy at work and in your social life! And, if that isn’t true for you, maybe it’s time to reevaluate how you’re spending your time.

See also: How to text your ex-boyfriend to get him back

Show your fun side

Showing your quirky, funny, easy-going side to him through your texts can be a lot of fun. When you are engaging in conversation, take a deep breath and relax! Try to sneak in a joke, utilize funny gifs or memes, and be light-hearted! Think about the funny/entertaining/interesting people who you enjoy talking to and be that person, but also… be yourself!

See also: What to do in your ex-boyfriend starts texting you? Find out here

DO NOT complain

Another HUGE mistake that many people make in texting conversations is they don’t know what to say, so they spend time complaining – about work, traffic, the weather, etc. DO NOT. I repeat, DO NOT do this.

It takes practice to resist the temptation to complain, but this is never going to end well for you, just as you should not be listening to someone else complain about mundane things.

If you don’t have anything interesting, thoughtful, or funny to say, do not say it at all. Complaining will make any guy run, guaranteed.

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Remember, his friends might see your text

When texting your guy, bear in mind that he might not be alone when you send it and depending on what you send him he may show his friends.

This is even more reason to make sure you send him the right texts so not only does he think you’re hot, but his friends do too.

Why do you want his friends to also think you’re hot and not a dork?

Because if they think you’re a cool, sexy chic they’ll be saying things to him like, “ah man, you’re so lucky! Go for it, bro!”

If he gets this kind of signals from his buddies then he’ll be 10x more likely to start chasing you to make sure he gets you and not someone else.

However, if you send the wrong text or one that’s just a bit lame then if he shows his friends and they tease him that he’s texting a dork then you’ll probably be out’a there and you’ll likely not hear from him again.

BIG TEXTING HACK: To get the exact text messages to send him so he not only perceives you as a cool chic and someone he wants to get to know, but the messages that will spark a strong sense of attraction and desire in him, watch this short video here.

Never ask him to entertain you

Similarly to complaining and in light of the fact that you are a busy girl, you do not need a man to entertain you and you especially do not need him to entertain you through texts. Let him entertain you by bringing you on a date.

Never ever, no matter how bored you might actually be, ask him to entertain you. It’s unattractive and juvenile. You’re better than that.

Related article: How to text dirty to your man in 8 simple steps

Do not double text

Another rookie mistake. If you send him the same text twice, he should run. If you send a text that he doesn’t respond to and then follow up trying to continue the conversation, this also is a no-go. Conversations sometimes die off or sometimes there isn’t anything to respond to.

Wait for him to continue or move on from it. Do not send more than one text at a time in the beginning. Once you’re in a relationship that changes, but at first do not double text.

Provide responses that elicit a response

In order to help avoid having to double text, provide messages that elicit a response. Keep them open-ended or ask questions. Try to provide more meaningful responses other than “k” or “that’s cool” or “nice”. Ask questions about the topic or offer experiences you’ve had that you can relate with.

Related article: Text flirting with a guy – what you need to know

Ask questions

Ask hi fun questions with your texts, but not too many. Ask questions to show interest. Ask him about his family, his friends, work, travel, hobbies. Find out about this person you’re engaging with and be genuine! But, do not overdo it. Asking too many questions can seem overwhelming and can make him feel like you’re his mother.

If he is not reciprocating with questions consider letting this one go because he clearly is not interested in getting to know the person you are.

Stick to these strategies, show your true colors, and remember to have fun and you will continue to keep guys interested through texts!

Communications Blackout: He’s Not Responding To Texts

a woman waiting on a text from a guyI know how frustrating it can be when you text a guy and are in an excited, happy mood anticipating his reply… only to be met with… radio silence.

Nothing, no response. What went wrong? You ask yourself why you didn’t see this coming? What is his problem? Most importantly, how should you make him stop ignoring you?

This is an extremely common dynamic that happens between men and women. Sometimes it is the man not texting back and other times it is the woman. It really depends. But I have to say…

Men don’t put as much emphasis on texting – and women are more often confused by men’s texting habits.

Why isn’t he texting back? The reasons range from him no longer being interested and trying to let you down gently, or maybe he’s busy and doesn’t want to talk all day. Or maybe he intends to respond but forgets to.

Key Realization: Men and Women View Texting Differently

In general, men are more single-minded and focused on one task at a time.

Usually, a man will not obsess over texting the way some women tend to. Perhaps it is because women tend to talk more to each other about relationship issues or perhaps it is simply social conditioning.

The point is… this happens to the best of us. We all get caught up in a “texting black hole” from time to time, and all you can do is learn from it.

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Are You In A Texting Black Hole?

All this means is you have tunnel vision and end up fixating over a text (or lack thereof) rather than going about living your life without giving his lack of a response too much thought.

The more time you put into thinking about something, the more important it feels to you. Vixen Daily has more about this concept and texting.

This time investment makes him responding seem super important when it’s built up in your mind. You invest your emotional energy into it as well, sitting there with your phone praying for that “ding” sound to soothe your soul.

It’s OK. If this has happened to you, don’t worry…

I’m going to tell you what to do and give you some general texting tips.

a sad womanDon’t Text Him Again and Again

Do not send him multiple texts if he has not responded.

He honestly might just be busy. Or maybe he is afraid that if he lets the conversation begin and take on this kind of tone (of going back and forth) that you will expect him to continue like that all day. (Try this article at A New Mode for more guy texting psychology.)

Realize He Might Not Be Ignoring You On Purpose

There is a chance that he is interested in you but genuinely has not had time to respond.

The best thing you can do is to wait and see what happens. Don’t assume the worst (yet).

That is unless you have texted him multiple times in a row and it’s been days. Then, you can assume either his phone is broken, or he is trying to let you know that he is not interested.

Send Him Happy, Fun Texts

I am not saying that you aren’t doing this or that you don’t send “fun” texts.

All I am saying is: if you send him texts that are happy and lighthearted he is much more likely to respond than if you send him something that’s more of an emotional melodrama.

I don’t mean “emotional melodrama” in a negative way; I am not trying to criticize you. All I am saying is… don’t be “that girl” who gets lost in a dramatic emotional rant without realizing how he will perceive it.

Men are inherently repelled by this kind of emotional display.

It is nothing personal against you. Maybe you don’t even do this. But if you do ever catch yourself wanting to write him a long, in-depth paragraph about how awful he is for not replying… why would he want to reply?

I’m telling you what is effective. What works.

See also: What Do Men Want From A Relationship?

Be Present In The Moment And Have Fun Don’t Fixate On Texting

All this means is to focus on the quality of the time you spend with him and less on his texting habits.

Remember that texting is just one tiny part of a relationship! Texting is not the relationship. The memories you make together is.

I will leave you on that note: make memories with him, and don’t sweat the small stuff like texting.

About The Author: Nick Bastion is a dating and relationships expert with over 10 years of experience helping men and women have the love lives they’ve always wanted. You can find more of his writing at

How To Talk Dirty To a Guy With Text Messages

woman sending dirty text to her boyfriend while laying on the bedLearning how to talk dirty to a guy over text is not something that comes naturally to all women.

If you’re someone who’s not quite sure what kind of message to send to get him turned on and hot for you, don’t worry, dirty talk is definitely a skill you can learn.

Texting dirty little messages to your boyfriend is fun no matter what stage of your relationship you’re in.

Getting it right will literally have him eating out of the palm of your hand and wanting to see you.

Get it wrong, however, and you run the risk of not only embarrassing yourself, but you could inadvertently cause him to lose interest in you, so it’s important to send the right messages.

Some women feel a little nervous or shy when it comes to sending a dirty text message to a guy. However, just remember that most, if not all guys enjoy flirting and being naughty with a woman they are sexually attracted to and tend to think about sex fairly frequently throughout the day.

So sending him a dirty text message will be well received.

If you want a no-nonsense, step-by-step guide to talking dirty to a guy with copy/paste dirty phrases that are proven to spark the pleasure centers in his brain and get him wanting you, then you may want to check out sex expert, Felicity Keith’s guide here.

If you’d prefer to read on, then these dirty talking tips will help you get a sexy conversation started with a guy over text message in no time.


Top Ways To Talk Dirty To Your Boyfriend With Text Messages

Forget the subtlety when dirty texting

a guy sending a text message to his girlfriend on a bedDirty talk isn’t about being subtle and using innuendos or being mysterious. It is direct, in your face and uses those words your mother told you not to. The directness is exactly what makes sexting so attractive to the male species in the first place.

If you are blushing while sending your dirty text, then you’re probably doing it right!

However, it can be difficult to find the right words if you are new to sexting. Some subtlety might help you get started. So starting out subtly and gradually getting more naughty after each reply you receive from him is absolutely fine.

Use words that you are comfortable with and phrase them in a naughty way, as sex expert Felicity Keith explains here.

Get his imagination going and use words in a way that get him to actually picture doing naughty things with you.

Sending a text that says what are you thinking about doing to him or him doing to you is great to get his mind racing into overdrive.

The really naughty words…

Ever heard the saying, “a many want a lady in public but a porn star in the bedroom”?

Using overtly sexual words and phrases in your texts will go a long way towards pushing his hot buttons.

So use the really dirty words that guys actually respond to instead of regular romantic language to get him fired up and horny for you. Sexting is not about romance but about turning him on and getting both him and yourself excited to see each other!

Dirty talk puts a woman in such a powerful position as it enables her to communicate directly to the part of his brain that controls all his primal functions and sexual urges. It’s the part of his brain where he stores all his sexual fantasies.

If you know how to talk dirty like an expert then you can literally insert yourself into all his sexual fantasies to make him want you, and only you.

Tell him what you want to do to him

Telling a guy what you want to do to him is a big ego boost for him. It makes him feel wanted and desired by you.

Tell him that you want to strip him naked and do all kinds of naughty things to him.

Tell him how horny you get when you’re alone and you’re thinking of him.

Tell him how you can’t wait to get him hard and slide him inside you.

This is a great way to control your sexting conversation and no doubt, he will start texting you back with all the sexy things he wants to do to you too. When he does, you can start to play back with him and get him imagining just how good it will feel when the two of you get down to it.

Be tantalizing and tease him. Telling him how much you love his cock and how much you want it will put his mind on a track that will lead him directly to your door.

Talk Dirty Hack: Get the exact phrases to cut and paste to him here

a man sending a naughty text message

Tell him what you want him to do to you

Most women never tell a man what they want in bed. Sexting provides a great platform to communicate your dirty needs and fantasies. So tell him how you want him to undress you, touch you and feel you. Let him know what really turns you on and what you need him to do to make you climax.

Keep in mind that he is probably already thinking about what he wants to do to you, so be inventive and describe each act in detail, preferably over a number of texts. This really draws him in and during and after your sexting he will find it difficult to think of anything else.

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Keep him wanting more and waiting to find out what comes next. Don’t be afraid to explore your deepest darkest fantasies and fetishes over your texts.

Another cool thing about sexting is that as the two of you get bolder with your messages back and forth, you will also start to find out some really interesting and hopefully very sexy fantasies of his that you can fulfil in the bedroom when the two of you are together.

See also: How To Flirt With a Guy Over Text

Dirty texting play on words

Don’t just use words but let your texts create a graphic image. Make him use his imagination and ensure that he is thinking about every aspect of your body when reading your dirty little texts. Imagination is much more powerful than reality so really be creative and let your own imagination run wild.

A great way to do this is to tell him that you are playing with yourself while you’re imagining him doing all sorts of things to you. Whether you actually are or you aren’t, he will certainly be visualizing you doing just that, which will send his pulse racing and make him want you.

woman sending a naughty text to a guy and smiling

Respond in like with your texts

Don’t just send random texts, but rather create a sext and respond scenario with him as you want him to engage and start to play back with you.

Once the sexting is going back and forth, if he tells you what he wants to do to you, tell him how you would enjoy him doing that to you and how good you can imagine it feels. For example: “Aaaah! That feels so good!”.

Encourage him to keep going further. Send texts about what you would do to him in response to his texts. Create a text string that describes an entire sexual experience rather than just a single act.

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Create boundaries for dirty talk

Sexting is about freedom of expression but should also respect some boundaries. Texts should never be disrespectful or even abusive in nature. The experience is meant to be rewarding, sexually exciting and fun. Texts that may be hurtful or negative in any way from either party should be avoided.

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woman reading a dirty text message from her loverDirty talk expectations

Sexting can be a sexual outlet in and of its own. However, it can open expectations for further interactions or exploration into sex. Always keep in mind what your expectations for sexting and the guy you are sending your dirty sexual thoughts to are.

At the end of the day, it is up to you to define how dirty, naughty, vulgar, descriptive or even pornographic you want your dirty texts to a guy to be. However, this is a great way to explore your own sexuality, and you should enjoy the process as much, if not more than the guy on the receiving end.

Talk Dirty Hack: Get the exact words and phrases that have been proven to drive men wild time and again. Sex consultant, Felicity Keith has spent years researching dirty talk and has discovered the exact things that make a guy hot and horny and sexually obsessed with a woman. Felicity teaches women how to have this kind of power over their man here.

The Biggest Mistakes You Can Make When Texting Your Ex

a girl receiving a text message from her ex boyfriendTexting your ex-boyfriend can be an extremely tricky endeavor to take on, especially because there are no clear “ground rules” on what to do and what not to do.

That’s why I want to take you through the biggest mistakes you can make so that you don’t have to go through the difficult situation of making them and then regretting it right afterward.

(And if you’re looking for the perfect text responses if your ex texts YOU, you can check my article on the subject here.)
So let’s delve into it.

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Mistake #1: Contacting Him Right After A Breakup

First of all, before even delving into more specific mistakes, I want to address one point: the importance of “no contact.”

No contact means exactly what you would think; if you have just broken up with your ex, don’t contact him for at least a month. Give yourself this breathing room to truly collect your thoughts, make yourself comfortable and let go of the emotional intensity that’s going to show up if you text right after a breakup.

The reason why texting him right after a breakup is so important is because when you do it in an extremely emotional state, you’re going to end up giving off a needy vibe. Neediness essentially means “needing” the other person to respond to you in a certain way in order to feel OK and remotely relaxed.

Even if you try to pretend to not be “needy,” it won’t help. The thing about neediness is that it comes from within you. It’s a vibe that you give off, something you have to feel in the privacy of your own mind and definitely not in front of him if you want to get him back in your life.

So when you adopt the no contact rule, you give yourself enough room away from the situation to bridge the gap between where you are right now and the right state of mind you need to be in to text your ex. This ties into the second biggest mistake.

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Mistake #2: Texting Him With The Mindset That If He Doesn’t Respond You Will Be Devastated

This mindset is literally going to set you up for such massive disappointment it’s scary.

The way you have to view texting your ex is that you are going to text him but with the feeling that you will be 100% OK if he does not respond or if he does not respond well. No matter how he responds or whether he simply doesn’t respond you will be OK.

This is going to give you the best shot of actually making him want to text you back because when you genuinely have no vested interest in the outcome of him responding, you are going to give off a happy, comfortable vibe which men are drawn to.

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Mistake #3: Sending Him Multiple Messages Without Him Responding

a woman texting her exThis is a huge and super common mistake that so many women make.

You know what I am talking about. Basically, you text him once and you don’t get the response you want, which instinctively makes you feel like you need to text again just to find out what on earth is going on.

So you text again and he doesn’t text back. Then you get even more frustrated and let your emotions get the best of you, which only makes it worse.

Instead of ending up caught up in this cycle, always remember to not send multiple texts if he hasn’t responded.

First wait for a reply and then you can respond. He might simply be busy or he might not be ready to talk yet. No matter what the reason is, by continuously texting you literally sabotage any future shot at making him want to text back.

It’ll give off a very needy vibe and push him away tremendously. Let the conversation be happy, natural and fun instead.

So there you go. Here are the three biggest mistakes women make when texting their ex. Even if you’ve made one or all of these don’t worry it’s human. Now you are armed with this knowledge that will prevent you from doing anything that will sabotage you in the future.

About The Author: 

Nick Bastion is a dating and relationships expert with over 10 years of experience helping men and women have the love lives they’ve always wanted. You can find more of his writing at in the Love and Relationships section.

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How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Reply To Your Text Messages

woman thinking about texting her ex boyfriendOk, so you’ve split up with your ex-boyfriend, but for some reason, you just can’t get him out of your head. You keep thinking of him; maybe you even find yourself asking:

‘What’s he doing?’

W’ho’s he with?’

‘Is he thinking of me?’

and so on…

Before long, you find all this ‘unknown’ is driving you crazy; do you want him back? Was it a mistake the two of you broke up? What if I text him to find out how he’s doing? Is that a good idea?

Before long, you can already feel your head starting to explode!

So, you build up the courage to send that initial text, to put the feelers out and get an idea of what he’s up to, but then the worst happens…he doesn’t reply. What do you do now?!

Well, firstly rest assured that if you were going to make contact with him, then a text message is definitely the best way to go. It’s subtle; it’s less desperate than calling, and it’s generally what everyone does nowadays anyway.

HOWEVER…you can’t just send any text or you could blow your chances with him completely. With the wrong text at the wrong time, you could be throwing away your one and only chance of getting back together with him, forever.

a sad womanIf you send the wrong messages then the next time you see him he could be in the arms of another woman. I can’t emphasize this strongly enough, it’s already a delicate situation to text your ex boyfriend as it is. However, it is totally possible to use text messages to get him back if you do it the right and proven to work way.

There is actually a lot of psychology behind sending text messages to win back your ex boyfriend, more than you would probably realize.

Relationship and strategy experts have worked tirelessly to discover the most effective text messages to send your ex, exactly what to say and when to say it to get your ex boyfriend back into your life and keep him. This system has worked for thousands of women and is regarded as one of the most effective strategies in repairing broken relationships today.

Of course, all of this is way beyond the scope of just one article, so I will outline some of the fundamentals for you here. However, if you really want to discover exactly what this whole strategy is, you can find out more about it here.

How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend To Reply To Your Text Messages – 3 Important Tips

Back To Basics

guy replying to his ex textsBefore you begin, keep in mind the breakup rules basics. Relationship experts recommend a ‘cooling off’ or quiet period, and indeed, this is true.

It is advisable not to communicate with your ex at all for at least one month.

This technique gives him an opportunity to calm down and to cool off. It also gives the both of you that much needed time to reflect on the relationship, the good and the bad points and to give the both of you that much needed time and space to reflect upon what it really is that you want in your life.

Are you still in love with your ex? Do you still want to have a relationship with him? Well, the fact is that this is something that cannot possibly be decided in five minutes or even a few days after the breakup.

Time is the real answer to this question. The reason being that time will help you figure things out. As such, never rush to make decisions that you will regret later in life; especially when it comes to relationships. Give yourself the gift of time.

It is important to know that relationships attract jealousy (of seeing someone you loved having fun without you), which will create both tension and curiosity.

During the cooling off period, you should consider going out to have some fun. Post fun nights out with your friends on your Facebook or your Pinterest page and share them with your buddies.

The aim isn’t really to make your ex jealous, but more to show that you have moved on, or at least to give the appearance that you are doing fine without him.

This technique will make your ex-boyfriend reply to your text messages more readily when you do finally decide to send one. Curiosity will likely get the better of him, and he will feel compelled to reply to you to find out what you’re up to.

When you guys do finally text each other, it will be highly likely that he will want to know what you have been up to and if you are seeing anyone these days. Moreover, he will be curious to know if you have moved on if he has not himself.

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What Should You Send In Your First Text?

Most people spend too much time thinking about this, but the best thing to do for the first message is just to keep it short, friendly and casual.

Absolutely under no circumstances mention any negatives from your past with him, ask him why things finished or even ask him a question. Asking a question, no matter how innocent or innocuous it is, means that you want something from him.

Of course, exactly what you should say in that critical first text message will depend on the circumstances of your breakup and how things have been currently left between the two of you. To learn exactly what to say in your text messages to him, watch this video.

Don’t Let Your Feelings Get In The Way

a woman begging her ex boyfriendWhen texting your ex, try to put any feelings you may have to one side. Relationship experts believe that nagging and clinging are the main reason boyfriends dump their girlfriends. So try as much as possible not to show any feelings in your messages to him.

Just assume like you are talking to an ordinary person or friend. Once he has replied, and you have got the conversation going, keep it friendly, slightly upbeat and not too personal. Try to wait for him to ask how you are first before you start to ask more personal questions like how is he doing.

Asking him simple questions about what he knows can be a good way to go. For example, you can ask for the name of the restaurant or any other place he took you to. i.e. “What was the name of that restaurant we went on our first date? … I want to take a friend there but cannot remember the name.”

This kind of text message will likely get a response because it is somewhat impersonal. Secondly, curiosity is likely to get the better of him, and regardless if he asks you or not, he will be wondering who the ‘friend’ is that you want to take to the restaurant.

On the other hand, you may try asking for something you know your ex is good at. For example, assuming that your ex is a good painter, you could try to ask about their painting. If your ex loves going to the gym, you may request him to recommend you a new workout routine or class, and you are asking for their suggestion. Many men love to give advice about things they are good at or know a lot about.

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Final Thoughts

It is important to be tactful in the early stages of texting your ex-boyfriend and to keep your emotions out of it. Try to avoid asking him a question in the first text and from there, try to keep any of your subsequent questions impersonal.

In a nutshell, your early messages will be dependent on how things have been left between the two of you. From there, creativity is required depending upon his responses to you. Once you get to the stage of asking him questions, if you can appeal to his ego and ask him for help or advice with something then you should get a positive response.

NOTE: do not mention anything about your past relations with him or your current situation/relationship in the early stages. The aim is not making him jealous, but leaving a few hints such as “I’m going to a party with a friend” to spark his curiosity to ask you more.

As I mentioned previously in this article, texting your ex boyfriend with the aim of getting him back into a relationship with you is a tricky business if you do not follow a tried and proven to work method.

If you don’t want to leave your relationship to chance and run the risk of losing him forever to another woman, I would strongly advise you learn how to do this properly and follow a step by step, clear method outlined by relationship experts. Watch this video now to discover exactly how to win him back.

How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text in 10 Sexy Steps

a woman text flirting with a guyKnowing how to flirt with a guy over text can certainly help to make you more attractive as long as you do it in the right way. However, it is vital not to do it in a way that makes you seem too easy.

Coming across as too easy will reduce a guy’s interest in you in the long run, which may cause him to not respect you and take you for granted.

This, of course, needs to be avoided at all costs. Therefore, you should always flirt discreetly when texting a guy, use implied compliments and ambiguity to keep him guessing.

Regardless of your end game, whether you want the guy in question to fall in love with you or you just want him to be sexually attracted to you, flirt texting can help you to make it happen.

If you’re in a hurry you can send him the tried and tested texts that get him hot and chasing you, as recommended by a world-renowned relationship coach. You can get the exact texts to send him here.

How to Flirt with a Guy Over Text – 10 Sexy & Subtle Tricks

One essential thing to drill into your mind is always to ensure that you do not come out as the only one doing the flirting.

As I mentioned earlier in this article, guys have a tendency of taking the back seat when they realize that you like them. Unfortunately, this may cause them to lose interest in pursuing you, which beats the purpose of flirting in the first place.

With this in mind, you should make it seem as if he is the one that is pursuing you and trying to woo you, whereas, in the real sense, you are pulling the strings and in control every single step of the way.

To help you achieve this, you should keep the following pointers firmly in mind when flirt texting the next time.

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Engage his imagination

The best way to initiate flirt texting discretely is to use his imagination to your advantage.

For instance, tell him you remembered him or you remembered something he did which made you smile. Telling him, “I remembered you” is a compliment which boosts his ego.

In so doing, he becomes warmer and reciprocates your subtle advances with a flirt text. Much more importantly, he will try harder to please you.

Use emoji’s as often as possible

Smiley faces play the part of your actual smile and are generally fun and playful, which is sexy.

Just as a genuine smile works to your advantage to make someone feel warmer towards you, so do smiley faces. A couple of smiley faces and a wink would make him more open to flirt texting with you even if he didn’t plan to do so.

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Get personal

One of the best ways of getting personal is to use his name as often as possible. Using his name or even a pet name (if you have one) also strokes his ego. At the same time, it gives the message you are sending a personal feeling to it. Every few texts use his name, especially when texting a guy a compliment or when you are being cute.

Discreetly Arouse Him

This is where mastery or lack of the art of Flirt texting is discerned. You need to arouse him but at the same time, you need to be discreet while doing so.

Give him something that will play with his imagination, keep him guessing and wondering what is the hidden message in your text. Curiosity is a great arousal tool and will work wonders to get his mind sizzling in the right direction.

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Keep Things Interesting

a man flirt texting his girlfriendOne of the ingredients of good movies is suspense. You should ensure that you keep things interesting and mysterious. Do not give lengthy explanations of what you are doing, thinking or feeling every time; less is more!

Keep things short.

This will stroke his curiosity and as such it will give him the eagerness to continue flirt texting you and to ask you more. If he asks for clarification on something you said, just change the topic by asking him another question.

More interest means he will pursue you more.

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Flirting and dirty talk

One of the most important aspects of flirt texting is finding an equilibrium between not appearing too easy and giving him an opportunity to talk dirty over text.

The best way to do this is to be ambiguous and vague with your language and use words and phrases that seem innocent in the context of your message but also have sexual connotations.

Doing this effectively can drive a man wild in his mind and get him imagining all kinds of crazy sexual stuff with you.

This way, he will think that he is lucky and or his efforts in wooing you are paying off.

Whichever the case you win.

Be sweet

Every once in a while be sweet and cute. Complement him whenever possible but do not make it obvious and don’t overdo it. An implied rather than direct compliment always works best. Guys are like ladies in regards to yearning for attention. Compliments are one of the best ways that you can give him attention, while not coming out as too easy.

The end gain here is that he will try as much as possible to reciprocate the feeling, thus being a sweetheart to you as much as possible.

Keep your cool

Coming across as desperate is a sure way to put him off. Don’t be the one to suggest a meet-up or a date. Instead, you want to use your flirt texting to push him to the point where he feels that he’s got to see you and will, therefore, suggest meeting up.

Don’t be too clingy

Closely related to the above is making sure you are not too clingy when flirt texting, especially after you have formed a good connection with him.

Flirt with him but keep things simple and give him space. After all, he does have a life to live.

Know when to cool off

Once you build chemistry and flirt texting becomes a norm between the guy and you, you should have a sense of self-preservation.

For instance, if he is not replying your texts, you should give him time to do so, as he may be busy or just not in a flirty mood. You must also prepare for the possibility that he is not interested in you or you messed up your flirt texting and wound up putting him off.

This absolutely can happen as text flirting can actually make or break a would-be relationship in the early stages if you don’t do it right. These tips will help get you going in the right direction, but if you really like the guy you are planning to flirt with, and really want to push his hot buttons, then you absolutely must watch this video.

These tips will guide you to the best flirt texting practice, without coming across as desperate or too easy, which is a great starting place in any case.

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