Seduction plays a large role in the dynamic that helps two people initially build the attraction between each other.
A woman holds a great deal of power and the way she engages herself, both verbally and nonverbally, will directly contribute to how seductive a man finds her, which will, in turn, build the attraction between the two.
So, if you’re wanting to know how to step into your female power and seduce him in a way that makes him both feel respect and attraction for you, then please keep reading.
Nine Tips To Seduce a Guy, But Not Only With Your Words
Nonverbal seduction sets the foundation for the energy between the two of you and the energy that you exude. If the nonverbal piece is not mastered, the verbal will just feel embarrassing and silly.
Nonverbal seduction includes, but is not limited to:
- Body language
- Physical and spatial awareness
- Eye contact
- Facial expressions
- Your overall presentation and confidence
While I could write quite a lengthy blog post on each of the above separately (and I probably will), know for now that each of these aspects is important ingredients in the overall seduction game.
I will now delve a little more deeply into these aspects fo your seduction toolkit. So, let’s start with your overall presentation and confidence.
Presentation and confidence
In order for you to effectively seduce a guy, you must first be confident in yourself. That being said, in order to first be confident in yourself, you must put conscious effort into your overall presentation.
We’ll start with looks. How is your fitness? Do you exercise regularly? What are your eating habits like? Do you follow the 80/20 rule of making healthy food choices 80% of the time and allowing for 20% of guilt-free indulgence? What about your clothing choices? Do you put effort into piecing together attractive articles of clothing to care for yourself and accentuate your best body parts? What about your mental health? Do you speak kindly of yourself in your mind and to others? Are you humble, with a healthy balance of confidence and humility?
As you can probably tell, getting your life in order according to the above questions will not only bring about a renewed sense of health and well-being, you will also start to radiate a more happy, outgoing and confident aura, which is highly attractive to guys.
The way you present yourself physically speaks volumes about you before you even open your mouth.
If you were able to answer the above questions about your overall presentation and confidence in the affirmative, meaning that you have the above items in check, the next step is to look at your body language.
Do you stand tall and proud (again, without seeming cocky)? Or, are your shoulders and back slouching, indicating that you may have low self-esteem.
What facial expressions do you commonly wear? Are you relaxed, smiling and upbeat? Are you making eye contact when you talk to people?
Think about people who you find attractive and imagine their physical posture and how they carry themselves. They’re likely standing tall, proud, and open (arms at the side, legs separated), a warm, welcoming, cheerful face with a relaxed air about them.
Think about someone who you find unattractive, and they probably appear to be closed off, angry, mopey and depressed and generally unapproachable. Adjust accordingly to be like the person you find attractive and you’re well on your way to presenting yourself in a much more attractive way.
Hygiene and scent
Be sure to practice good hygiene. Use a perfume that is noticeable, but not too over-powering and try to choose a scent that is unique to you.
Be sure to practice daily oral hygiene and when you have something stinky for lunch, pop a piece of gum in your mouth. You never know when you might bump into that cute guy from the office or your secret crush at the gym.
When you’re trying to work your magic on a guy it is important to be playful and relaxed with it.
Being subtly or overtly flirtatious can be a lot of fun, especially when the guy starts playing back with you. Just keep it light-hearted and playful to start with and have fun with it.
Be conscious of your tone of voice as your voice tone will convey a great deal more about your intentions than just the words you use alone.
Think of a few key words or lines that you are comfortable using either in person, on the phone, or via text and email.
Also, allowing a little discomfort to push yourself beyond your comfort zone will improve your seduction skills and increase the sense of thrill you will feel when flirting with him.
This may sound strange but think about some of your best friendships where you have a fun, playful banter between you and a friend.
If you can apply some of this playful energy into your seduction game, it will show that you are confident in yourself, you have a good sense of humour, you’re creative, unique, easy going, and carefree.
The last thing a guy wants is someone who is too serious or stuck up. But, be careful to find a balance here too because you do not want to come off as immature or that you can’t be taken seriously. the key is to mix it up and switch your energy between being fun and playful to sincere. Doing this will make him more curious about you as it shows depth to your character.
Above all, stay present with him and read the social cues and learn when you can lighten the mood with a playful joke, and when you need to be serious.
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Be aware of your tone of voice
Most people would agree that they do not like loud, screechy voices. A lower, calmer, softer, and even husky (but don’t try to fake that if you don’t have it naturally…) voice is what a man will be drawn to.
Give compliments, but not too many!
Everyone loves compliments as it’s a nice ego massage for them and it also shows that other people do also notice their efforts and good points. Paying a guy a compliment also indirectly demonstrates to him that you’re not self-absorbed and you do take an interest in other people, which is, of course, an attractive quality.
So, paying attention to him and noticing things like when he puts the effort in to do his hair or wears something new is a great thing to compliment him on.
You can also compliment him on his scent, physique, his energy or presence, his posture and even his intelligence (if he has any).
Remember that all attraction starts and ends in the brain. You must have a connection in order for a physical attraction to formulate and remain. Complimenting his mind, his humour or his creative edge will show him that you care to take the time to look deeper into who he is as a person.
However, always make your compliments honest and sincere. For example, if intelligence is not his strong point then don’t compliment him on it, or he’ll either think you’re being fake or you’re making fun of him. Instead, just choose something that he truly does have going for him such as his physique or his sense of humour and compliment him on that.
When you work on your overall presentation and body language first, you will be able to fine-tune all of the other nonverbal aspects that go into seduction. Once you feel confident in your nonverbal delivery, you can move toward utilizing the verbal skills and actual words!
If you want to have an exact playbook of what to say at every step of the way to seduce a guy with your words then I recommend you check out Conversation Chemistry by relationship expert, Mirabelle Summers.
Suzanne is a certified counselor with 6 years of experience working with individuals of diverse backgrounds and age groups. In addition to working full time as a School Counselor servicing students ages K-12, Suzanne began a side business in 2014 geared toward providing relationship and individual counseling services for adult clientele. She has worked with an extensive range of individuals helping them gain insight, foster changes, and continue to grow. She has acquired a wealth of information about relationships through her professional and personal endeavors and finds great value in sharing what she has learned.