Knowing how to flirt with a guy over text can certainly help to make you more attractive as long as you do it in the right way. However, it is vital not to do it in a way that makes you seem too easy.
Coming across as too easy will reduce a guy’s interest in you in the long run, which may cause him to not respect you and take you for granted.
This, of course, needs to be avoided at all costs. Therefore, you should always flirt discreetly when texting a guy, use implied compliments and ambiguity to keep him guessing.
Regardless of your end game, whether you want the guy in question to fall in love with you or you just want him to be sexually attracted to you, flirt texting can help you to make it happen.
However, if you want to know exactly the right phrases to text a guy to get him wanting you and feeling that passion welling up inside him when he thinks of you, watch this video now to find out how.
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One essential thing to drill into your mind is always to ensure that you do not come out as the only one doing the flirting. As mentioned earlier in this article, guys have a tendency of taking the back seat when they realize that you like them. Unfortunately, this may cause them to lose interest in pursuing you, which beats the purpose of flirting in the first place.
With this in mind, you should make it seem as if he is the one that is pursuing you and trying to woo you, whereas, in the real sense, you are pulling the strings and in control every single step of the way.
To help you achieve this, you should keep the following pointers firmly in mind when flirt texting the next time.
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1. Engage his imagination
The best way to initiate flirt texting discretely is to use his imagination to your advantage. For instance, tell him you remembered him or you remembered something he did which made you smile. Telling him, “I remembered you” is a compliment which boosts his ego. In so doing, he becomes warmer and reciprocates your subtle advances with a flirt text. Much more importantly, he will try harder to please you.
2. Use smiley faces as often as possible
Smiley faces play the part of your actual smile and are generally fun and playful, which is sexy.
Just as a genuine smile works to your advantage to make someone feel warmer towards you, so do smiley faces. A couple of smiley faces and a wink would make him more open to flirt texting with you even if he didn’t plan to do so.
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3. Get personal
One of the best ways of getting personal is to use his name as often as possible. Using his name or even pet name (if you have one) also strokes his ego. At the same time, it gives the message you are sending a personal feeling to it. Every few texts use his name, especially when texting a guy a complement or when you are being cute.
4. Discreetly Arouse Him
This is where mastery or lack of the art of Flirt texting is discerned. You need to arouse him but at the same time, you need to be discreet while doing so.
Give him something that will play with his imagination, keep him guessing and wondering what is the hidden message in your text. Curiosity is a great arousal tool and will work wonders to get his mind sizzling in the right direction.
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5. Keep Things Interesting
One of the ingredients of good movies is suspense. You should ensure that you keep things interesting and mysterious. Do not give lengthy explanations of what you are doing, thinking or feeling every time; less is more! Keep things short.
This will stroke his curiosity and as such it will give him the eagerness to continue flirt texting you and to ask you more. If he asks for clarification on something you said, just change the topic by asking him another question.
More interest means he will pursue you more.
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6. Don’t be too obvious while flirting but also create an opportunity for dirty talk
One of the most important aspects of Flirt texting is finding an equilibrium between not appearing too easy and giving him an opportunity to talk dirty. The best way to do this is to be ambiguous and vague with your language and use words and phrases that seem innocent in the context of your message, but also have sexual connotations.
Doing this effectively can drive a man wild in his mind and get him imagining all kinds of crazy sexual stuff with you.
This way, he will think that he is lucky and or his efforts in wooing you are paying off. Whichever the case you win.
7. Be sweet
Every once in a while be sweet and cute. Complement him whenever possible but do not make it obvious and don’t over do it. An implied rather than direct compliment always works best. Guys are like ladies in regards to yearning for attention. Compliments are one of the best ways that you can give him attention, while not coming out as too easy.
The end gain here is that he will try as much as possible to reciprocate the feeling, thus being a sweetheart to you as much as possible.
8. Keep your cool
Coming across as desperate is a sure way to put him off. Don’t be the one to suggest a meet-up or a date. Instead, you want to use your flirt texting to push him to the point where he feels that he’s got to see you and will, therefore, suggest meeting up.
9. Don’t be too clingy
Closely related to the above is making sure you are not too clingy when flirt texting, especially after you have formed a good connection with him.
Flirt with him but keep things simple and give him space. After all, he does have a life to live.
10. Know when to cool off
Once you build chemistry and flirt texting becomes a norm between the guy and you, you should have a sense of self-preservation.
For instance, if he is not replying your texts, you should give him time to do so, as he may be busy or just not in a flirty mood. You must also prepare for the possibility that he is not interested in you or you messed up your flirt texting and wound up putting him off.
This absolutely can happen as text flirting can actually make or break a would-be relationship in the early stages if you don’t do it right. These tips will help get you going in the right direction, but if you really like the guy you are planning to flirt with, and really want to push his hot buttons, then you absolutely must watch this video.
These tips will guide you to the best flirt texting practice, without coming across as desperate or too easy, which is a great starting place in any case.