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4 Tips For Meeting Up With Your Ex Boyfriend After The Breakup
There’s a way to make meeting him not feel scary. If you want to know what to do after breaking up with a guy, and now he wants to meet. Or maybe meeting up was your idea was your idea. It doesn’t matter. However this happened, in this article you’re going to see how to make the end result of meeting up with your ex work out perfectly in your favor.
A man in Ventura, California thought it would be funny to fake lighting his house on fire. All to setup a proposal to his fiance. The man, a firefighter, planted 6 smoke machines and set them off as soon as guests had arrived for a party. Instead of being overjoyed, the woman was confused, panicked, and said she couldn’t sort through her emotions to understand what was happening. It’s safe to say, this wasn’t the sunset walk on the beach most women expect before hearing their love, down on his knee, stutter, “will you marry me?”.
Why do men do this for the women they love?
And if you’re thinking about meeting back up with your ex after a breakup, what does a weird situation like this have to do with you? Keep reading to find out.
Today I’m giving you my 4 tips that will get your relationship to a better place than where it’s at right now. Guaranteed. No matter what situation you’re in now and no matter what happened before, you will benefit from reading and applying this advice.
Should you meet and what’s the worst that can happen?
You can’t seem to get over your ex, and you can’t or don’t want to move on, these are great reasons to meet your ex. You need answers. The best way to get these is to meet, and talk. After all what’s the worst thing that can happen? Your heart is already broken. So at the very least you will get some clarity and answers to your questions. Simply put, Yes, you should meet.
What to say or do?
Knowing what to say or do can depend on why your relationship ended, and what you want to happen. After all why did the relationship end? Was there infidelity? Did you grow apart? A fight?
Before you do or say anything, the most important thing to do is, Give yourself time. Time to figure out your feelings, your needs and wants. Time apart can give you a clearer picture of things. When the time comes, don’t do or say the following.
- Don’t drink too much
- Don’t talk about yourself a lot
- Don’t let your emotions be in control
- Don’t avoid talking about the breakup
Where to meet
What do you want from this meeting? What’s the purpose of this meeting? Both of these are questions you need answers to before deciding where you’re gonna meet. Is it to catch up? Is it to talk about your relationship? Is it to exchange things? All of these are scenarios that could be the case. If possible meet somewhere neutral, coffee or lunch. Pick a spot that’s not super busy, and loud, after all you don’t want the blare of music or a crowd to be so loud you can’t hear each other. These are both casual things, that can give you the time you need to talk.
Do you have things to get from his place (or he has things at yours)? This can be tricky scenario, after all you don’t necessarily want to fall back into bed with him. So if there’s too much stuff to bring somewhere neutral, then I suggest to have plans with your girlfriends, and let him know you have somewhere to be. This gives you an out, but still valuable time with him.
What to wear
When you get the confirmation that you will be seeing your ex, you are immediately going to think… “What Should I Wear?”. Deciding this is probably going to be harder than it was for your first date. After all, he has likely seen you at your “worst”, and your “sexist”. You don’t want to send signals of desperation by trying too hard, but you also want to show you still care about how you look. Before deciding what to wear, consider where this encounter is happening. Lunch? Coffee? Drinks? Mutual Friends Wedding? Special Event? All these scenarios obviously require a different look. For lunch, coffee, drinks, don’t go overboard. You don’t want to scream desperation. Where a little more makeup than you would meeting up with friends. Wear a pair of jeans that hug everything just right, and a favorite shirt. Do something new with your hair… make him wonder what else is different. Do you have a signature scent you’ve always worn? Give yourself an extra spray.
Is the meeting somewhere more formal or a special event? Then by all means break out that little black dress, or find a new sexy dress that you feel confident and beautiful in. Do that smokey eye, and special hairstyle. Let him see what he is missing.
No matter where you meet, be sure to keep the following in mind
- Get a good night’s rest, you want to look refreshed, and energized.
- Feel Beautiful: When you feel beautiful, it shows, you emit a glow and feel confident, nothing is sexier or more beautiful than a woman who is confident with herself
- Be Comfortable: Be sure that whatever you decide to wear you are comfortable, and your being yourself. Toe the line with new if you want but if you’ve never worn stilettos then this is not the time to start.
Before you meet…
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