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How To Get Your Ex-boyfriend To Miss You After A Breakup
Breaking up with someone is always going to be near the top of the list as one of the worst things you are going to experience in your lifetime.
There are a lot of people who are involved in a break up that will go through a period where they cannot believe just how much they miss the other person.
Strangely enough, you might feel tempted to throw your hands in the air and give up. Instead of boosting your chances of getting him back.
There is a clear way to do this, and I’ll tell you how it works.
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Throughout your fair share of break-ups, you will see that the recovery time will often vary. However, this does not just depend on the actual length of the relationship as most people would think, although this can be a factor. More so, the recovery time largely depends on the overall depth of feelings that are felt for one another.
For example, have you ever met a guy with whom you felt an almost instantaneous connection with, almost like you’d known him for ages, like you were meant to know him? And for whatever mysterious reason, you just felt drawn to him and your relationship unfolded into a whirlwind of love and romance?
Although chronologically you may only have known him for a short time, but for some mysterious reason your feelings for him seemed to run deeper than most other guys you’ve known.
If you’ve just broken up with your boyfriend or even if it has been a while since the two of you parted and you desperately want to get his attention again and wishing that he missed you half as much as you would like to think that he does, or maybe even as much as you miss him, then the chances are, you don’t just want to make your ex-boyfriend miss you, you are looking for a way to establish and nurture a deep connection with him and get him back into your life.
If this describes you and the way you are feeling then you need to listen to relationship expert, Randy Bennett’s advice on how to get him to see you, hear you and understand you. More than just getting your ex to miss you, Randy will show you exactly how to get him to open up to you and share with you exactly how he really feels.
You can watch Randy’s presentation here.
Once you’ve heard what Randy has to say and gained that vital understanding to how the male mind works, you will be better equipped to use the following techniques to make him miss you and want to be with you again.
How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You
If you want to have your ex-boyfriend missing you, there could be a lot of groundwork that you need to lay for it to happen the way that you want it to.
Whether you were the person that broke it off or you happened to be the person who got dumped, there are ways that you can have your ex-missing you and trying to get back into your life before you know it.
Making him want you can be far simpler than you might think when you know the right things to do.
Aim For Radio Silence
Many people swear by the no contact rule and will use it after a breakup. No matter what you are trying to achieve, in the long run, you want to be able to go through this one phase that is a hard and fast rule of break-ups.
However, this can be quite a tough task in the initial stages. If you can complete this, then it will put you in a better position for anything else that may come.
The no contact rule is basically no initiating contact at all for around a month. This means no texts, no phone calls, no notes and definitely not trying to show up in placing where you know he will be.
Have you ever heard the expression, ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder?’ This expression needs to be your new motto for this phase.
You have to know that this is simply human dynamics working to your advantage. The less you make contact with your ex, the more he will think about you and wonder what you are doing, where you are going and all of the things that are going on in your life.
You need to remain elusive instead of available, as becoming too available may make it so that he thinks of you less and less, thus missing you goes right out the window.
Even though it may seem impossible, the no contract rule has to mean just that, absolutely no contact at all. No tagging him on social media, no messages through mutual friends, nothing.
This is the first critical step that you will need to take if you ever hope to get him to love you again.
No Stalking, No Acting Needy
While it may seem like a cute idea to leave certain reminders around for your ex to find and think of you, it could all end up backfiring on you.
If he ever thinks that you are stalking him or acting needy in any way, he could seriously be pushed away. Instead of missing you, he could end up feeling that he was lucky to have it end when it did.
If he was the one who finished things with you, then it is highly likely that he feels that he needs some space. Allowing him to have it and let the dust settle can help to change his perspective in time. A good rule of thumb is to avoid contact in any way for around thirty days.
Although this can feel very hard at the beginning, it pays to avoid all contact, which includes texting, Facebook messages, seeing or talking to his friends and even liking his Facebook posts.
After a time of no contact it will be inevitable that he will start to wonder how you are and what you’re up to. He may even start to remember some of the good old days the two of you shared together.
At this point it is highly likely that he will contact you to see how you are doing and the most likely way that he will do this is by texting you.
This is your prime chance to take advantage and you cannot let this opportunity slip away. However, depending on what he says in his message you need to reply in exactly the right way. This step is critical and you can’t afford to get it wrong. You can’t just send any old text in reply or your chances of getting him back may be gone forever.
If this guy is really important to you then get dating expert Michael Fiore’s course, Text Your Ex Back by clicking here before you send another text. Michael is a world renowned expert at communication through text messages and shows you exactly what you need to do to handle this sensitive situation and get your ex-boyfriend not only missing you, but highly interested in you and back into your life.
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So, in the meantime while you’re going through your thirty days of no contact you will need to embrace living your life as a single person for a while. Although this may sound depressing at first, this doesn’t mean becoming a recluse.
You still need to be able to go out and enjoy yourself alone. Getting together with a group of friends, put more effort into your work or even take on a new hobby that you have always wanted to try is a great place to start.
This is all about “doing you” and filling your free time with activities. Keeping busy with fun activities will help you not to miss the time with your ex quite as much as if you are laying around thinking about him.
Set the groundwork in place for him to start missing you by having an interesting and varied life.
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Time To Step Out Of The Box
As time starts to pass, and you have gone on with the no contact period, you need to be sure that you are getting out there and taking some chances.
This never means doing anything irrational or dangerous. It just means trying things that you have always wanted to, but just never took the leap.
Your ex will start to see or hear through the grapevine that you are having a great time and doing some of the things that you may have talked with him about always wanting to do.
This is the type of longing that you want him to experience. This is a new you, with a lot of the old you that he loved very much at one point.
If you can step outside of your normal realm, it will show him that there is a whole lot more about you that he misses than he originally thought.
No matter who initiated the breakup to begin with, this can be the perfect way to start steering him back to you without even having to try.
Once you have got his interest up and the two of you are at least communicating on some level, you will then be able to move forward to the next step of re-igniting his desire for you and establishing a glowing connection.
If you don’t want to leave anything to chance or risk another woman swiping him from under your nose while he’s still single, or if you just want to ramp things up to the next level, then I invite you to learn the three fastest ways to melt a man’s heart.
According to relationship expert, Randy Bennett, these three methods can create powerful mood states, get him thinking about you and make him desire you like no other woman. You can learn exactly how to do it here.
Keep Reconnecting Light
Once the two of you do start making contact, you need to be smart about the manner in which you reconnect. Take it slow at first, go for a walk through your favorite park or meet for coffee at a place where you used to go for lunch.
This can be a good combination of nostalgia while getting to know one another again. However, never let the meeting linger, as you always want to leave him wanting more. Make sure that you are the one to close the meeting by saying you need to leave. This gives you the control.
Keep the rest of the conversation for the next time that you might meet up and you will find that he will miss you each time that you go away. Before you know it, the two of you could be back on track to rekindling your relationship if that is what you both want.
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