Do you feel ready to take your relationship to the next level, but you’re just not sure if he really loves you?
Sometimes we get caught up in what this or that sign means, but when it comes to falling in love, the signs are usually pretty clear.
Men and women tend to think differently when it comes to love, which can mean love is expressed differently between the sexes.
While no two guys are exactly the same, there are predictable signs that will let you know he has truly fallen for you.
Here in this article I share the 12 most common signs that mean he’s smitten.
Before reading on, it’s worth knowing that the common general consensus around falling in love, that it just happens by chance and we have no real control over it, is all wrong.
Falling in love is a state of mind with predictable feelings and triggers.
While no two people will fall in love in exactly the same way, the triggers are still the same. When you combine these triggers with a little knowledge of the person in front of you, you can trigger the attraction process in his mind and lead him to fall in love.
Usually, this process is completely left up to chance, because most people don’t even know it exists. However, if you know how to activate the love triggers then you can set off a cascade of emotions within his mind and body that he will associate strongly with you, as relationship expert James Bauer explains here.
How To Tell If A Man Loves You
- 1 How To Tell If A Man Loves You
- 1.1 He Says Words
- 1.2 It’s Like He’s Your Best Friend
- 1.3 He Makes You Happy
- 1.4 His Body Language
- 1.5 Your Feelings
- 1.6 You’re Involved In His Life
- 1.7 You Miss Each-other
- 1.8 He Remembers What’s Important To You
- 1.9 You’ve Meet His Friends and Family
- 1.10 The Cuddle
- 1.11 He Cooks For You
- 1.12 He’s There For You
- 1.13 Final Thoughts
He Says Words
Saying “I Love You” does not necessarily mean that he does, even if he said the words first.
A lot of guys (not all) will say just about anything to get you into bed, and if a woman is really into him, then she may respond to these three words.
So look beyond the words to determine whether it really is love or if he just has an agenda.
Alternatively, if you said these three little words first, then some guys will just say it back because they don’t want to hurt your feelings, or they don’t have the balls, to be honest with you.
This doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not into you. He may like you a lot, but is not sure if he actually loves you or not. He may just not have thought about it yet. So he says he loves you because he doesn’t want to ruin the good thing that you guys currently have going.
So how do you tell if he really means it when he says these words?
It doesn’t matter who says it first, what matters is the emotional content in his words when he says it to you. When a guy says they love you and the really do, you should notice a presence with his words along with sincerity and a sense of vulnerability.
Guys don’t like feeling vulnerable. They see it as a weakness. So if he is being vulnerable with you, then it means that he is really into you in a big way.
If he’s not pouring his heart out to you yet, don’t worry, this is not the only sign he loves you.
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It’s Like He’s Your Best Friend
Most long lasting relationships are based on an underlying friendship that results in a much deeper more meaningful love. If you are his best friend, as well as his, lover then he does really love you.
However, if you are his only friend, then he may simply be trying to fill a need by being in a relationship with you.
He Makes You Happy
If he truly loves you, then he will want to make you happy. In fact, your happiness would be a primary concern to him, and he will do just about anything to make you smile or hear you laugh.
This includes partaking in activities that he doesn’t really enjoy, going places he doesn’t like or putting up with your friends and family who he doesn’t get along with.
If he is willing to do any of these things for you, then there is a fair chance that he loves you.
Also see our article: What Makes A Man Fall in Love?
His Body Language
Body language is a subconscious form of communication that we are often unaware of. Watch him and see how he looks at you. If he simply cannot stop staring, it may just be lust. But if he gives you those puppy dog eyes, it is probably love.
Also, when you are talking does he give you his full attention and is genuinely interested in what you have to say?
If he only has eyes for you and doesn’t seem interested in any other women in the room, it is a sign of love. He should also want physical contact no matter where you are whether it is holding your hand or sitting close enough so that accidental contact is a given.
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You shouldn’t have to talk to him about how you feel, he should just know. From your body language, facial expressions and behaviours, he should be able to identify what emotional state or mood you are in.
This doesn’t just apply to negative emotions. He should also be able to determine when you are happy, excited or in the mood for love.
When two people have a deep connection, they are also in tune with each other’s emotions and can sense on some level how the other is feeling.
You’re Involved In His Life
How involved does he make you in his life?
It’s fair to say he most probably loves you if he includes you in every aspect of his life and talks about everything with you.
Does he also let you in on his schedule and doesn’t make plans or arrangements without letting you know? If so, then it’s because he really wants you to be a central part of his life. Guys don’t do this if they’re not in love.
You Miss Each-other
If he loves you, then he should be missing you and think about you when you are apart.
Whether you are apart for a few hours or days at a time, he should express that he can’t wait to see you. How he behaves when you are re-united after a period apart is very telling. If he hugs you and kisses you and then takes the time to talk to you and listen to you, it’s love.
He Remembers What’s Important To You
He knows your favorite color, music, movie and other preferences. A man that takes the time to get to know your likes and dislikes has a vested interest in you and the relationship which is a definite sign of love.
Being attentive to your likes, needs and wants shows that what is interesting and important to you is also important to him too.
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You’ve Meet His Friends and Family
If he wants to introduce you to his family and friends, he is probably in love with you. However, the way he introduces you is also important so pay attention to this.
If he loves you, he won’t be afraid to tell people. In fact, if he really cares, the people who are important to him will know all about you before your first meeting. If he talks about you all the time, his feelings probably run deep.
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Women aren’t the only one’s who like to cuddle in bed. Men also like a good cuddle but prefer to do so with someone that they love.
If he holds you in his arms while you sleep, then he definitely has strong feelings for you. Watching you while you sleep is also another sign to look for. Of course, you won’t know unless you wake up and catch him staring at you, or he tells you.
He Cooks For You
Even men who aren’t that good in the kitchen will make an effort to cook for a woman they love. However, if cooking is his passion, then this may just be something he does so don’t read too much into it in this case.
If your guy brings you breakfast in bed, then it is an even stronger sign that he loves you and wants you to stick around.
How much attention and care does he put into preparing the meal for you? Perfecting your favorite meal is a sure sign that he is not just in-love but loves you.
He’s There For You
He loves you enough to cancel his plans to be there for you when you need him. Even when you don’t need him but just want him around, he is willing to sacrifice other time to be with you.
However, it is important that you don’t take this for granted and be too demanding of his time, or resentment may soon follow.
Sometimes you don’t need any signs that he loves you-you just know!
There are multiple signs that mean a man is in love with you. You don’t need to see all 12 of the signs in your relationship to know he loves you for sure.
Men are complicated creatures. They work hard to maintain their stoic demeanor and put on a tough exterior, but they can be surprisingly sensitive when it comes to love. Love is not always the easiest of emotions for them—it’s often confusing or frightening.
There are predictable triggers in a man’s mind that can spark the feelings of attraction, desire and love. Knowing how to ignite these triggers can set off a cascade of emotions in his mind and body that he will strongly associate with you. You can learn exactly how to trigger his love process here.