Texting. We all do it. It’s instant, accessible 24/7 communication that also includes cute emojis – what could go wrong?
Well, unfortunately, plenty.
For many of us, we worry about what to text, when to text, the length of the text, and how much, or how little, should we flirt?
In the dating game, we want to build a memorable connection with the new cutie in our life, and since we’re all practically glued to our smartphones, text messaging is one of the most immediate ways we can do that with someone.
While there are no hard rules for texting, there are some simple tips that will help you stand out from the crowd and make texting less stressful and more fun.
Top Tips To Improve Your Texting Game
Be Positive with Your Texting
For a recent blog post on texting etiquette, dating coach and relationship expert, Amy North said that it’s important to keep your text messages positive.
Texting can be confusing at times because we can’t hear someone’s tone of voice, she says, which means it’s better to err on the side of keeping things light.
If you don’t know each other well, it’s especially important to keep things playful because you don’t know their texting style yet.
When in doubt, throw in an exclamation mark or a friendly emoji. And if you want to know more, you should check out North’s highly acclaimed program, Text Chemistry. It’s a highly effective system to attract a guy through texting, and certainly worth checking out if you crave more of a deep dive into the art of texting.
Don’t Forget to Flirt a Little (or a Lot!)
Don’t forget that texting is a perfect little tool for flirting with him.
Maybe you want to add a little anticipation for your weekend date. Shooting a message like;
“I can’t wait to see you on Friday night!” ? with a little heart-faced emoji can ignite his passion and yearning for you.
Maybe you’re thinking about him (which you probably are), so let him know!
Dating is supposed to be fun, so don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and spice things up a bit. Throw in that winking emoji and express your playful side.
If you’re really wanting to ramp things up to the next level and get his pulse racing for you then check out Amy North’s attraction text messages here.
Be a Gamechanger (Because You’re Valuable!)
Anyone who’s ever received a “hey” text knows how boring that is, which is why dating expert Matthew Hussey says to refrain from using dry text messages that don’t really say anything at all.
In his video, “3 Texting Secrets Men Can’t Resist,” Hussey says it’s important to add value to your text messages so that your intended recipient looks forward to your messages and appreciates hearing from you, which, in turn, means he appreciates you.
So, what is value?
Hussey suggests sending a funny picture or a GIF of a private joke between you.
Maybe you send a snap of the place where you went out on your first date or a link about his favorite band. Anything that instils connection.
You can catch Matt’s video here.
See also: Make him want you with text messages
Ask Engaging Questions
You want to refrain from the “how was your day” or “how are you” messages. Why? Because it’s so easy to glance over a text and/or respond with one-word answers, which don’t move a relationship forward.
Instead, get more curious and initiate a conversation that’s engaging and interesting for both of you.
Instead, ask, “what’s the best thing that’s happened to you today” or “what’s your biggest goal this week?” and further cement your connection.
Avoid Using the Word “Just” and Instead Hype Yourself Up
The word “just” is one of those little words that you might not think too much about, but which actually speak volumes about your confidence.
Dating and relationship coach Mat Bogs wrote that texting someone, “Just checking in” or “Just wondering what you’re up to” screams unworthiness and neediness.
If you’re going to send someone a text, you should be deliberate and confident about it.
Instead of “just checking in,” he suggests sending something like, “Want to do something fun tonight?” or “I want to check out this new art exhibit with a few friends. Wanna join?” It shows your new crush you’re not afraid to take charge a little and you’re confident with who you want (and you want him, right?).
Text messaging doesn’t have to be anxiety-riddled or fruitless. In fact, when you keep it positive and confident while adding value to your new love (and maybe an emoji or two), you can help develop a deeper connection.
Now that you have a number of amazing texting tips at your fingertips, it’s time to get typing!
While you don’t have to try every item on the list for your first message, try out the one that feels the most natural to you right now.
If you really want to ramp up his attraction for you then check out these testing tips by Amy North.
Before you know it, your texting game will be on fire – just like your love life.