You met a great guy. You start texting back and forth. You go out on a few dates, and the chemistry is really good between you.
It feels like things are going really well..!
Then one day he doesn’t respond back to your text.
A day or two passes…
You wonder if he’s sick, or maybe worse.
You text him, “Hey! How it’s going?”
Hours later, maybe he texts you back with an empty message, like “Hey! I’m good.” But there are no definitive plans being made.
Another day passes, and more crickets…
You wonder, what is going on?
Things were moving in a positive direction. So what in the hell happened? Did he meet someone else? Is he playing games? Does he have cold feet?
Nothing is more confusing than when a guy starts ignoring you and doesn’t reply to your texts.
Here’s what to do about it when this happens to you.
Why He’s Ignoring You When He Actually Likes You
Things Were Moving Too Quickly
Love has a tendency to sneak up on us when we least expect it, and it can be overwhelming for a lot of guys, particularly those who were only looking for something casual.
Maybe your guy wasn’t expecting anything serious with you but now he realizes that his feelings are more legit, and he’s just not ready to give you what you want at this time.
So instead of owning up to this fact, the emotionally immature man will do the fadeout.
If this is the reason behind your guy’s stonewalling, relationship expert Adam LoDolce recommends giving him space so that you both can decide whether this relationship is worth pursuing.
If he’s into you, he’ll eventually move forward — or at least let you know where he’s at. If he doesn’t, then you have your answer and it might be time to stop texting him.
P.S. You deserve someone who can tell you that!
He’s Afraid of Rejection
Everyone’s got emotional baggage, which makes them act out in dysfunctional ways. Maybe he’s ignoring you because he’s scared that you’ll reject him.
It might not make sense to you, but to him, ignoring you is a way for him not to deal with the intimacy and vulnerability that connection brings. This way he can avoid the fear and pain of rejection from his past.
If you genuinely like him, you might ask him straight up how he feels about you and ask him why he’s been distant while sharing your own vulnerability. Hopefully, this will open up a dialogue that will further connect you.
See also: Signs you’re pushing him away
He’s Busy (Really!)
As relationship expert Amy North, and creator of the Text Chemistry system, says in her YouTube video below, he could just be busy.
Life happens, and suddenly texting you back isn’t his biggest priority anymore. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or isn’t interested — he’s got other things going on.
If that’s the case, North says to cut him some slack and give it a day or two. If he’s into you, he’ll text you soon!
He’s Playing it (Too) Cool
Call it the male ego, but some guys don’t want to seem too eager.
Your guy might be super interested but he wants to play it cool for whatever reason. This is akin to playing games, so if this is the reason, you might want to put the brakes on this connection yourself. However, when we play “cool” with our bravado it’s often to shield a soft underbelly.
If you’re into him, you could get curious about his behaviour and call him out on it while reassuring him that you like him too.
Related article: What to do to keep a guy interested in the early stages
You Hurt His Feelings
This is a rare reason, says dating expert Brian Nox in his YouTube video below, “When a Man IGNORES You, here’s what he’s thinking.” But it does happen. So when a guy feels slighted by something that you said or did, he will retreat and lick his wounds, ignoring you in the process.
However, the reason for this will be clear to you, says Nox. Meaning, you won’t have to ask yourself, “What did I say?” Because you’ll know. So if you know you said or did something hurtful, reach out with a genuine apology. Too many relationships turn sour because an “I’m sorry” came too late.
You can see his short video here.
Being ignored doesn’t feel good. There are many reasons why a man who likes you might be ignoring you so try not to jump to conclusions.
If your feelings are legitimate for him, then it’s up to you to get curious about your guy’s behaviour.
Need a little help?
Check out North’s Text Chemistry system to get the exact text messages that make guys value their connection with you and want to text you back frequently.
No matter what happens, you deserve someone who will put you and your feelings first.
If he can be honest with what he’s feeling and thinking, then great! But if he can’t offer you a decent reason or explanation for his behaviour, or if he continues to ignore you, then it’s definitely time to move on.