If you have been missing your ex-boyfriend and wanted to get him back, you should know that getting him to love you may not be the most difficult part.
The trick will also be your ability to keep him once you have him back in your arms.
When you stop to think about it, this is something that should go hand in hand, and once you have a clear plan for getting him to love you again, you need to work on keeping him around. After all, he was out of your life so it could happen to you again if you are not careful.
With that being said, you may have your work cut out for you when it comes to getting your ex-boyfriend back. It is important that you take a step back and look at the relationship so that you can pinpoint what may have gone wrong.
From there, you also want to make sure that you are ready to go back into the relationship. The fact of the matter is that a lot of women need to understand that if they are not happy with themselves, they may have a difficult time being happy in any relationship.
Most relationships can be best summed up as a roller coaster where you have some amazing days and some tough days. No couple is perfect, and there will always be disagreements or even downright blowouts. It is going to be a matter of the two of you learning how to work past the differences so that you can gel back together again.
The first thing that you need to know when trying to get your ex-boyfriend to fall in love with you is that the trick of absence makes the heart grow fonder does not work for everyone.
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Focus on you
Firstly, one of the most important things to do is to start focusing on you and building your self-esteem. You want to avoid any situation of you completely feeling desperate or needy towards your ex by begging or pleading for them to get back with you. That behaviour will only push then farther away.
Instead of sitting around thinking how sad you are that the two of you are not together, go out and start enjoying your social life, meet up with friends and enjoy the freedom that you have.
Establishing that you have a life away from your ex and not being needy is one of the quickest ways that you can start to make yourself more attractive right away.
Move beyond any negativity from the past
Even though you need to take care of yourself and your needs, don’t avoid the guy that you want to be with thinking that you are going to teach him a lesson. Some guys may take this as a sign of immaturity, so the best thing to do is remain cordial and friendly.
That way you can increase your chances of being able to meet up with him one on one to have a light conversation that will remind him of why he loved you in the first place.
Get your mindset right before meeting him
Whether you were in a serious or casual relationship with him in the past, you need to come to the realization that this old relationship is currently dead and in the past. A lot of women will make the mistake of feeling as though they can hop right in and pick up where the old flame left off.
The main goal should be focusing on getting your ex back and then building up a new and better relationship.
As you start to talk with your ex again, if it comes to meeting up somewhere in person, you want to be your sexiest self. This may mean wearing something simple like yoga pants and a t-shirt if that is something that you know he loves to see you in.
Remind him of why he loved being with you in the first place and make a conscious effort to smile as much as you can.
Recall positive memories
When you’re with him, casually draw his mind back to the happy times the two of you shared together. Bring up positive memories and feelings of things that the two of you loved doing together. Getting him to recall the positive emotions that he felt around you when times were good is a great place to take him.
Flirt a little
Yes, it’s ok to flirt a little with your ex if you are trying to win them back. Flirting is not only fun for both, but it will also help to trigger some primal urges in him that will make him want to reciprocate.
Some flirtatious eye contact and playful touching can go a long way to making him feel like he wants to be around you more.
Once you have established good rapport with your ex after the first meet up, you can even start to use your text messages to help you re-build that connection. The key here is to first establish good rapport before you start sending him texts to make him want you.
Get him to remember being intimate with you
Subtly getting him to remember being intimate with you can be a great way to get him to remember how good it was with you before. The trick is to do it in a way that he doesn’t directly realise that that’s what you’re trying to do.
A subtle way to do this is to bring up a great memory that you guys share from the past, an experience that also lead to sex after.
Bringing up the preceding event in a casual way will cause him to not only remember that experience, but it will also cause his mind to run through and complete the event in his mind, which will lead to the sexual experience that you both had together.
Make sure you choose an experience that lead to tender loving and meaningful sex and not just a quickie!
You will be able to tell if he is running through the experience in his mind as his eyes will be subtly darting up and across and then back to you as you’re talking. This means he is processing and watching the images in his mind.
Allowing him the brief time it will take to process the images will allow the memory and the feelings to come to the surface, so don’t interrupt him at this time and just wait for him to speak next.
Getting back with your ex isn’t easy and making him fall in love with you again can be a tricky and difficult task.
There are some vital steps you must take and also some crucial ones you absolutely need to avoid if you’re going to have any chance in getting back with him and making him fall in love with you again.
Without these key steps, getting him to love you again will be almost impossible. For the complete guide go here